tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23989068671399072802024-03-18T17:19:38.086+08:00SeniorsAloudWelcome to SeniorsAloud - a platform for seniors to share information, views and experiences.seniorsaloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15349552912264950538noreply@blogger.comBlogger1021125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2398906867139907280.post-1515954398843465992024-03-18T17:19:00.000+08:002024-03-18T17:19:03.666+08:00TIME FOR SENIORS TO 'THINK OUTSIDE THE CASKET'<p><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEivce7hB6YW0VVHh4eFvpEC2aw3e-6vLT1E8IMoB4hfQbCkz6gJFgHa7ctXRbHNmchpIWLp4fuEEOVjcvI9HwmaVGGOyShk7Y2K41tNX938s4F_JdjvEslAOHHRqqHMo71GVBpSZgwFnoYzekhyphenhyphenQbooITlzjbf3KyRe_OrrzAOTRCCNLR-uvLqWcK8JVFY/s580/2589527.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="358" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEivce7hB6YW0VVHh4eFvpEC2aw3e-6vLT1E8IMoB4hfQbCkz6gJFgHa7ctXRbHNmchpIWLp4fuEEOVjcvI9HwmaVGGOyShk7Y2K41tNX938s4F_JdjvEslAOHHRqqHMo71GVBpSZgwFnoYzekhyphenhyphenQbooITlzjbf3KyRe_OrrzAOTRCCNLR-uvLqWcK8JVFY/s16000/2589527.jpeg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>Take the initiative to explore new horizons and never let our age stop us from trying new things that interest us.</i></td></tr></tbody></table></p><p>Old age creeps up on us, and seems to speed up after we have passed the 70th milestone.</p><p>One fine morning, we wake up, look in the mirror and reality hits us literally in the face – we are no longer spring chicks, more like autumn turkeys! Where have all those years gone?</p><p>The thought of mortality is always there, unexpressed but silently acknowledged. Until the first signs of aches and pain remind us the clock is ticking away.</p><p>How do we want to spend our remaining years? By slowing down, by giving up fun activities for more serious ones as befitting our age, and according to society’s playbook? If this is what makes us happy and gives us peace of mind, by all means, go ahead.</p><p>But if in our hearts we want to sing, dance and celebrate life, and we are still able to do so, let’s just do it! Let’s break free from the shackles of social stigmas or self-imposed restrictions that are holding us back.</p><p>We all need a wake-up call sometimes before it’s too late and we are staring at Death from a hospital bed. Do we want to spend the rest of our lives merely existing instead of living?</p><p>The fastest way to speed up the ageing process is to think we are old and ready to die. We all have to die one day, but that shouldn’t stop us from having fun, adventure, romance and happiness while we still draw breath.</p><p><b>Live with no regrets</b></p><p>We’ve heard it before: 60 is the new 40 and 70 the new 50. Yet, there are many among us senior citizens who view themselves as 60 going on 80, and 70 going on 90. They think old, look old and act old. No wonder they feel they already have one foot in the grave.</p><p>We are not sixteen going on seventeen with a whole life ahead of us. Rather, we are heading towards the boarding gate for final departure. Let’s board with bagsful of happy memories, not regrets.</p><p>When we think we are old, we are. Our thoughts are very powerful. They govern how we behave and react. Upon reaching 60, there are those among us who retire not just from our jobs, but from everything that used to define who they are.</p><p>The first thing they give up is their physical appearance. In their minds, they are thinking – at my age, nobody gives me a second look, so why spend hard-earned money on unnecessary grooming.</p><p>Or they think they have been married for years, there’s no need to look good for their spouse. Their wardrobe consists mainly of auntie or uncle-type clothes in various funereal shades of black, brown and grey. If comfort is the reason, fine. But if they dress or act to please others, they are allowing others to dictate how they should be living their golden years.</p><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgjVZmXlRO4qlki9K9VWjVcEOcur8TyK5Ra5yVMi3Kj3bHqMzemdzsEWF-Du80D9rafxRmLLFreDtdoIMbcc60OS2HfJWC2PuLHQcBJHJRQGut4s8-9-QdObCYZ9mPQCDH-ZqjsQEabyYrP3ZkdiBmVmoviK7HX5raUuNgzNtcrpQbei18yZfo2O_GlJbw/s580/2589526.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="386" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgjVZmXlRO4qlki9K9VWjVcEOcur8TyK5Ra5yVMi3Kj3bHqMzemdzsEWF-Du80D9rafxRmLLFreDtdoIMbcc60OS2HfJWC2PuLHQcBJHJRQGut4s8-9-QdObCYZ9mPQCDH-ZqjsQEabyYrP3ZkdiBmVmoviK7HX5raUuNgzNtcrpQbei18yZfo2O_GlJbw/s16000/2589526.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>Just going out, mixing with like-minded friends, learning a new skill will lift the spirits as we age. - PHILIPPE LEONE/Unsplash</i></td></tr></tbody></table><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><b>Be true to yourself. Let others criticise all they want.</b></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">The men withdraw from social life, preferring to remain at home watching football on TV or hang out at the kopitiam or club with their buddies, discussing their favourite subject – politics and the state of the economy.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Few would consider taking up a new skill or activity to keep their minds sharp or join an outdoors group for some exercise. For the women, their stock answer to invitations to go out and enjoy themselves at a karaoke lounge, for example, is ‘Aiyah, old already, cannot sing!’</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">If you really love to sing and it makes you happy, don’t give it up just because you think you can’t sing anymore due to ‘old age’. You are suppressing the inner voice that is yearning to come out.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Many retirees allow themselves to go downhill upon retirement. They put on weight by avoiding all manner of physical activity. Their excuse – oh, at my age, I shouldn’t exert myself too much. Over time, they build up a host of health problems like high blood pressure, diabetes and heart disease.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">They become frail and sickly, and dependent on others. They shun any form of physical exertion for fear of falling or hurting themselves. No one is suggesting they do marathons, climb mountains or shoot rapids.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Regular simple exercise such as daily brisk walking, stretching, and strength training is sufficient to ensure we remain fit in our senior years. Yet they make no effort to do so, and give a dozen reasons or excuses why.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Oftentimes the most painful (and expensive) lesson learned is when we have recovered from a major surgery or a near-death experience. That is the most effective motivator to get us to embark on a healthy lifestyle.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">But why wait for that to happen?</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Take the initiative to explore new horizons. Be fearless. Never let our age stop us from trying new things that interest us. When we spend our retirement years living a sedentary lifestyle, our muscles will soon atrophy. We will start complaining of aches and pains all over.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Before we even reach our 70s, we become dependent on all kinds of aids, from walking aids to hearing aids and every other aid in between. It’s time to get up from our favourite lazy chair and exercise. Don’t fancy exercising on our own? Round up some friends for a qigong session, or join a group that enjoys going for walks in the park.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">The social interaction is a boost to our health. Make sure these friends have a positive influence on us. I can’t think of anything more depressing than spending our precious time hanging out with friends who talk about nothing but their pains and aches, who gripe about everything under the sun and who share only criticisms about others.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Get rid of the doldrums and go out. Feel the sunshine and the breeze on our skin. Take time to smell the roses, play with our grandchildren. Recharge. Be grateful that we can get up in the morning to greet another new day.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">As is often repeated, growing old is a privilege denied to many. So true. As we age, we see the number of our former classmates, ex-colleagues slowly dwindling with each passing year. Don’t turn down class reunions. It could be the last time old childhood friends can meet up.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Have fun, travel, explore, discover.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">This is the time to spend on yourself. Be selfish. We are never too old to pick up new skills, make new friends, even fall in love again. All it takes is a change of mindset and attitude.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">The world is our oyster if we let it be. It’s time to get rid of the ‘I’m too old to...’ mantra and replace it with a new one: I’m still young enough to pursue my interests, to follow my dreams, to enjoy life!</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Celebrate our second prime. The best is yet to come.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Constantly remind ourselves to make the most of our golden years, not waste them waiting for Death to knock on our door.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">It’s so easy to fall into the ageing trap. Life is a choice. Choose wisely to make the last chapter of our lives truly well-lived. Time to think outside the casket!</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><i>Lily Fu is a gerontologist who advocates for seniors. She is founder of SeniorsAloud, an online platform for seniors to get connected and enjoy social activities for ageing well.</i></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">(The article was first published in the print version of The Star on 13 March. The e-version is accessible at <a href="https://www.thestar.com.my/lifestyle/family/2024/03/13/time-for-seniors-to-039think-outside-the-casket039">https://www.thestar.com.my/lifestyle/family/2024/03/13/time-for-seniors-to-039think-outside-the-casket039</a>)</div></div>seniorsaloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15349552912264950538noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2398906867139907280.post-45755284479286639942024-02-19T16:46:00.000+08:002024-02-19T16:46:23.427+08:00GRANDPARENTING - PLEASURE OF PRESSURE?<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjrZIry6g7vCGzLLrrSQ2E-bJ468VyB5CXdM7BtPpsETvK03VDKpqbVO7GpiTpXZx5jFtyWGDT1IVEtV4KejlWa960Rzlhc9uPP1SMWCZJ8jDG3PDwXg6AT021PKpV8UlOqEc5AZgBJS8aBcbIlsZVFskHpCuqO58Toeh8OWDaR7Z4Zzfm7dHkSPtLudRo/s580/2546397.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="536" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjrZIry6g7vCGzLLrrSQ2E-bJ468VyB5CXdM7BtPpsETvK03VDKpqbVO7GpiTpXZx5jFtyWGDT1IVEtV4KejlWa960Rzlhc9uPP1SMWCZJ8jDG3PDwXg6AT021PKpV8UlOqEc5AZgBJS8aBcbIlsZVFskHpCuqO58Toeh8OWDaR7Z4Zzfm7dHkSPtLudRo/s16000/2546397.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>The writer with her grandchildren (clockwise from left) Max, Allie, Hana, Reiya and baby Ryder, taken close to a decade ago. - Photos: LILY FU</i></td></tr></tbody></table><p>My youngest grandchild turned 10 last month. Celebrating his birthday made me reflect on how quickly the years have rolled by, and how fast the children have grown. My eldest grandchild will be 24 this August.</p><p>Has it been that long ago that I cradled this young man as a newborn in my arms and looked after him full time while his parents were out busy working till late at night on their fledgling company?</p><p>With multi-generational families no longer living under one roof, the role of grandparents has taken on renewed significance. What would busy working young parents do without grandmas (and grandpas) stepping in to help with the little ones? Well, there’s always the daycare centres or a nanny/domestic helper to look after them. But nothing compares to having one’s own blood and kin care for the children.</p><p>As a hands-on grandmother, delighting in caring for the little ones, I was quite surprised when I discovered not all my senior friends shared the same views on the subject of grandparenting.</p><p>They felt they had paid their dues and done their turn as parents. It’s time their adult children did theirs, they said.</p><p>“No more changing diapers and dealing with toddler tantrums for me. At my age, it’s too stressful. Sure, if there’s an emergency, I’ll be there. I don’t mind playing with my grandchildren or visiting them, but hands-on babysitting? No, thank you.”</p><p><b>Drawing a line</b></p><p>There are many who share the same sentiments.</p><p>“My husband and I have eight grandchildren from our three children. Being on call to babysit for all of them leaves us with little time for our own activities.”</p><p>“Our son leaves his two-year-old and four-year-old at our house before he goes to work. By the time he picks up the children after work at 7pm, my husband and I are exhausted. Sometimes when my son has a lot of work at the office, he comes as late as 9pm.”</p><p>“My husband is 72, and I’m 68. Physically, we can’t keep up with our hyperactive grandsons. Besides, I have high blood pressure.”</p><p>“My daughter-in-law and I don’t see eye-to-eye on how to bring up the children, especially when it comes to discipline, food and education. This has caused some tension in our relationship.”</p><p>Yes, looking after boisterous little children can be exhausting for grandparents. I know of grandparents whose daily routine involves preparing the children for school, driving them there and picking them up later for tuition or co-curricular activities. They have to make sure the children do their homework, take their meals and set strict rules on video games. This leaves them unable to enjoy social activities with their friends or go on trips with them.</p><p>All this can be very tiring. It can be hard to say no when your daughter calls and asks, “Mum, can you come over and babysit this weekend? I’ll be out of town on a business trip.”</p><p>Learn to say “No” if there are other options available. If you keep offering to help out all the time, you may soon feel overwhelmed. That is when babysitting and childcare becomes a pressure, and no longer a pleasure.</p><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhcqx_HtWQZAGQFpO6A4g2y3KLzgIOBcGmW8QXY4Dzf9l4Xuf_rxTy38eDGQDvogsGnVuGGBu_XVGrPwourZH64mIFTWNE1GmVMRq_7ZNw3PszG1xlvy4Sva8wpRWD9bSE1SvXh5e-kwD_fUyOsQU_HrbLnHzo_qMgPGv1O-LXgQ8IjWPO1px6FOn1RBfU/s580/2546395.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="522" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhcqx_HtWQZAGQFpO6A4g2y3KLzgIOBcGmW8QXY4Dzf9l4Xuf_rxTy38eDGQDvogsGnVuGGBu_XVGrPwourZH64mIFTWNE1GmVMRq_7ZNw3PszG1xlvy4Sva8wpRWD9bSE1SvXh5e-kwD_fUyOsQU_HrbLnHzo_qMgPGv1O-LXgQ8IjWPO1px6FOn1RBfU/s16000/2546395.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>As a hands-on grandmother, delighting in caring for the little ones, the writer was quite surprised when she realised not all her senior friends shared the same views on the subject of grandparenting.</i></td></tr></tbody></table><div><br /></div><div><b>Family dynamics</b></div><div><br /></div><div>Understanding and managing family dynamics play an important role when it comes to grandparenting. Young married couples have to deal with two sets of grandparents for their children – their own parents and their in-laws. Friction can sometimes arise when grandparents-in-law live in another town and do not get to be with their grandchildren often.</div><div><br /></div><div>There is this feeling that their grandchildren are not as close to them as they are to the other set of grandparents who get to care for them daily. They try to compensate by over-indulging the children, buying them expensive toys and clothes to win over their affection.</div><div><br /></div><div>There is also the huge difference in opinion on how the children should be raised. Young mothers feel grandparents are old-fashioned and conservative in their thinking. A case in point: when the grandchild is sick, the grandparents will offer home remedies as being more effective than the doctor’s prescription medicine. They are also aghast at how much freedom and independence young parents give their children.</div><div><br /></div><div>Baby boomer grandparents learned childcare from their parents and from reading books e.g. Dr Benjamin Spock’s seminal Baby and Child Care. Young parents today prefer to go online to learn from child psychologists the latest and best parenting practices. A tip to grandparents to avoid friction – when offering well-meaning advice, don’t start with ‘In my time...’ or ‘In those days...’</div><div><br /></div><div>This often gives rise to arguments resulting in young mothers regarding the grandparents as meddlesome and outdated.</div><div><br /></div><div>The young father finds himself in an awkward caught-in-the-middle situation between the two most important women in his life. When grandparents know when to offer well-meaning advice, and when to “zip it”, there can be a happy compromise in the mother and daughter-in-law relationship. Also, when husband and wife have a disagreement over the children, grandparents should not interfere unless approached.</div><div><br /></div><div><b>Stay on the sidelines</b></div><div><br /></div><div>When there is harmony at home, this creates the ideal home environment for the little ones to grow up in.</div><div><br /></div><div>It is interesting to study the implications of the changes in demographics. Longevity means more parents can see themselves becoming great grandparents. Four-generation families are no longer rare today. On the flip side, more young people are delaying marriage, and delaying parenthood. Which means not every parent will get to be a grandparent in his lifetime.</div><div><br /></div><div>On a related note, have you ever wondered why women live longer than men, and why women go through menopause? Could it be that the extra menopausal years are meant for older women to shift their role from child-bearing to caring for the little ones and for the elderly in the family? Well, that makes sense.</div><div><br /></div><div><b>Food for thought</b></div><div><br /></div><div>I believe I speak for my friends who are grandmas when I say our grandchildren are a source of joy, fun and pride. They grow up so fast. Before you know it, they are preteens, and then full-fledged teenagers. That’s why the fleeting moments spent with my grandchildren are precious.</div><div><br /></div><div>When they start having their own friends and activities, they won’t have as much time to spend with us. That’s why I value each moment I have with them now. My grandchildren keep me feeling young with their unconditional love and boundless energy.</div><div><br /></div><div>I’ll be 76 this year. God willing, I want to be around to see all my grandchildren do well and find their purpose in life. For this to happen, I will have to look after myself and be responsible for my health. With long life and good health, I will still be around, not to look after my great grandchildren in my old age, but to just be there for them and to see them growing up well. That’s the circle of life.</div><div><br /></div><div><i>Lily Fu is a gerontologist who advocates for seniors. She is founder of SeniorsAloud, an online platform for seniors to get connected and enjoy social activities for ageing well.</i></div><p><i>(The above article was first published in The Star under the column 'Grey Matters'. It can be accessed at this link: <a href="https://www.thestar.com.my/lifestyle/family/2024/02/16/starsilver-is-grandparenting-an-experience-that-gives-one-pleasure-or-pressure">https://www.thestar.com.my/lifestyle/family/2024/02/16/starsilver-is-grandparenting-an-experience-that-gives-one-pleasure-or-pressure</a>)</i></p>seniorsaloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15349552912264950538noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2398906867139907280.post-70815314064114681032024-02-19T16:28:00.001+08:002024-02-19T16:28:39.285+08:00WHERE HAVE ALL THE MEN GONE?<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgFdw6z3N2Gl2ZzpH-N1ixuNH13nmGwX8ZBmNmY1hbTcccGZjb0pWo4Yc4B9i6WHVxGjIPbRwLAyBriSWCl9eNq6z9JSZaoWousrzCUNWJXeyw2DO0e9JawEpDD_rtn83jAyQvbQRvFhzW7ODcqfQTIk_1q6_P3sZ9GyEOr-4gYZWrMvCDUzn1xZqie_tw/s580/2496017%20(1).jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="570" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgFdw6z3N2Gl2ZzpH-N1ixuNH13nmGwX8ZBmNmY1hbTcccGZjb0pWo4Yc4B9i6WHVxGjIPbRwLAyBriSWCl9eNq6z9JSZaoWousrzCUNWJXeyw2DO0e9JawEpDD_rtn83jAyQvbQRvFhzW7ODcqfQTIk_1q6_P3sZ9GyEOr-4gYZWrMvCDUzn1xZqie_tw/s16000/2496017%20(1).jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>Dr Pola (far left) and friends are the few exceptions to the rule of female-dominated senior groups. — DR POLA SINGH</i></td></tr></tbody></table><p>Recently The Star carried an article titled Where are the women?, about the poor representation of women in the cabinet and how their presence is essential for better responsiveness to citizens’ needs.</p><p>After all, women make up almost half of our population.</p><p>The title got me thinking along a similar vein: “Where are the men?”</p><p>This was in reference to the lack of male participation in social activities for older adults. In practically every group activity organised by senior citizens associations or communities, the turnout is 90%-100% women. It seems the women are unable to persuade their husbands to join them for the various activities. Why the reluctance?</p><p>Men, with their muscles and bigger body size, are the stronger sex physically. But when it comes to health, they are the weaker sex compared to women. The statistics confirm this. Worldwide, women outlive men by at least five years. In Russia, it is more than 10 years! That is a lot of extra years of living.</p><p>In Malaysia, the life expectancy of women is 77.36 years and for men it is 72.66 years. That is a difference of nearly five years. A lot can be achieved during those extra years which can be spent with the family. Five extra years to enjoy being alive. No one wants to go off before their time. This is the longevity bonus made possible by medicine, science and technology. However, women seem to be the main beneficiary, not men.</p><p>One reason to explain this disparity in life expectancy is biological. Women have two X chromosomes and men have one X chromosome and one Y chromosome. The estrogen in women gives them better protection against diseases and may explain why they have a stronger immune system than men.</p><p>While we can’t change our genes, we can definitely change our lifestyle habits to live longer and in relatively good health. Women are born into their traditional role as caregivers, starting with caring for their family as mothers, daughters and wives. They look after their children, take care of their elderly parents and keep an eye on their husband’s health. This hands-on carer experience explains why women are more concerned about their health than men.</p><p>They go for health checks and practise healthy habits. Also, they have gone through child-bearing and childbirth, and are better at dealing with pain. In addition, women generally have fewer unhealthy habits than men. They don’t smoke or drink excessively, and they don’t take unnecessary risks.</p><p>The two genders have different approaches to retirement. Women welcome this period as an opportunity to be free to go out, enjoy social activities and focus on improving their health. What do retired men do? Well, mostly they hang out with their buddies to drink, talk about politics, play golf or watch football on TV. Or they remain at home doing nothing much, get bored and put on weight.Why the difference?</p><p>Having observed this difference between men and women in the senior communities I have been a part of for the past 20 years, I have to conclude it is true that men in general do not care about their health to the same extent as women. Just talk to their wives. They will tell you almost in exasperation, maybe even desperation, about their futile attempts to get their husbands to go for health checks.</p><p>Given that men are more prone to stress, anger and violence, they are at higher risk of stroke and heart disease. Men need to learn self-control and anger management or suffer the consequences.</p><p>They are reluctant to see the doctor or the dentist for regular checkups. They are less able to handle health issues than women. Referred to as having the “ostrich mentality”, men tend to be in denial mode when health issues crop up. Even when they experience early signs of problems with their urination, they hesitate to go for a checkup. The end result – prostate cancer that could have been avoided had they sought an early diagnosis.</p><p>Men want to preserve that masculine image even as they age.</p><p>This is evident in their preference for meat at every meal, especially red meat, than for healthier food choices like vegetables and whole grains. This need to uphold their masculinity is extended to their indifference to joining activities such as dancing, singing and painting.</p><p>No wonder courses for seniors offered by University of the Third Age (U3A), Malaysia, see more women signing up than men, year after year.</p><p>Men find women’s social activities too “soft”. No oomph, so I was told. To attract them to join the short courses at U3A, and make new friends, more “men’s courses” were offered, for example, Entrepreneurship, Digital Technologies and DIY, the latter conducted by the Kaki DIY founder himself. Still, the participants for the courses remain predominantly female.</p><p>Indeed, it has become a challenge to recruit men for social activities and voluntary community service.</p><p><b>Social networks</b></p><p>According to an article published by Harvard Medical School - “Mars vs Venus: The gender gap in health”, men lack social networks and support. Women find it easy to strike up conversations and make friends. Men, on the other hand, tend to shy away from social interaction. They feel a sense of awkwardness and discomfort in the company of strangers. They need to be aware that prolonged social isolation can lead to anxiety, depression and other mental issues.</p><p>Nursing homes bear testimony to women living longer than men. The residents at these homes and in many senior living facilities are overwhelmingly women. Some have never married, but the majority are widows who have outlived their husbands, sometimes by as many as 10 to 20 years! On a recent trip to Singapore, I met with the president of Wicare, a support group created by widows for widows and the fatherless. The group has been around since 1993 and currently has more than 700 widow members!</p><p>It is not that men are unaware of the health risks they are facing when they make poor lifestyle choices such as avoiding health checks and minimising their health issues. They are aware but are reluctant to do anything about it. Only they know the reason. I may be making generalisations and assumptions here, but the bottom line is this – unless our men take better care of their health, we may see a similar Wicare set up here for the widows they leave behind.</p><p>Men like Dr Pola Singh can lead the way. At age 74, he is a example of good health and vitality. He hikes and exercises daily, watches what he eats, has an extensive network of friends, does charity, keeps himself mentally active by writing, and has a positive outlook on life. Let’s hope we see more men doing the same. Never too late. Never too early. Just get started. We love our men – our husbands, fathers, brothers, sons and uncles. We want our men to be with us for as long as possible. Can we get their cooperation on this?</p><p><i>Lily Fu is a gerontologist who advocates for seniors. She is founder of Seniors-Aloud, an online platform for seniors to get connected and enjoy social activities for ageing well.</i></p><p><i>(The artile was first published in the Star under the column 'Grey Matters'. It can be accessed at <b><a href="https://www.thestar.com.my/lifestyle/family/2024/01/17/where-have-all-the-men-gone">https://www.thestar.com.my/lifestyle/family/2024/01/17/where-have-all-the-men-gone</a> )</b></i></p>seniorsaloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15349552912264950538noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2398906867139907280.post-53804118498377620012023-12-27T14:30:00.006+08:002023-12-27T14:34:51.880+08:00HOW TO BOOST YOUR SAVINGS AFTER RETIRING<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEinnTBaLgVMmKG1z0LQXUKmlwQeX_oR_dvZiZvV5OtpqYmEGQfuPPfbkM0dfS0BCkJ3ydlHhg-gcmrlAJ7O0oIMgXzTc4jkAtxVgr0mKMQfPXCo-s4Ae9REVVPLxgYA-PWqqbUxBgk9foWhMjGTIKLSXN31yiT91vVwuX701YaktmhOrKoD3D_QafiNUSI/s580/2449658.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="386" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEinnTBaLgVMmKG1z0LQXUKmlwQeX_oR_dvZiZvV5OtpqYmEGQfuPPfbkM0dfS0BCkJ3ydlHhg-gcmrlAJ7O0oIMgXzTc4jkAtxVgr0mKMQfPXCo-s4Ae9REVVPLxgYA-PWqqbUxBgk9foWhMjGTIKLSXN31yiT91vVwuX701YaktmhOrKoD3D_QafiNUSI/s16000/2449658.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>Retirees face age discrimination in the workplace. However, there are other options to consider if you want to work post retirement. - 123rf.com</i></td></tr></tbody></table><p>We love to have options, don’t we? Options allow us to choose what appeals to us, like the option to retire early at 40, the option to continue working after 60, or to return to work after retiring.</p><p>What about those who have no options, who find their retirement savings may not be sufficient to see them through the next 15 to 20 years? With inflation fast shrinking the value of our ringgit, can we say with certainty we are financially secure to enjoy our retirement years?</p><p>What is the solution? Go back to work? Easier said than done.</p><p>Retirees face age discrimination in the workplace. Society still has a negative perception of older adults as slow, frail, forgetful, unable to keep up with the times. Unless they have skills or experience that are highly sought after, retirees will have difficulty re-entering the job market.</p><p>With the wealth of experience, skills and qualifications that retirees have, it seems a shame to be discriminated against for re-employment. Some employers say retirees are too expensive to hire based on their last drawn salary. Others say older workers are not as capable mentally and physically as younger workers. It is unfair to paint all older persons with the same brush.</p><p>Indeed, those who have secured jobs are grateful and have proven to be dedicated employees, often going beyond their job scope. And they do not job-hop. Surely mutually agreeable terms can be worked out. Older workers could work part-time or flexi-hours and accept a lower pay.</p><p><b>Part-time option</b></p><p>One of the most popular encore careers (second career on retirement) is to set up a consultancy in your field of expertise. If you don’t want the stress of setting up your own company, you could operate a simple home-based business making use of your skills and passion.</p><p>Retired teachers can do edit and translation work or give home tuition. The more enterprising retirees that I know sell home-roasted nuts, freshly brewed Masala tea and packaged spices. Those who love sewing find a niche in making and selling tote bags, hats and purses, while those good at embroidery can demand a good price for made-to-order kebaya blouses.</p><p>Also consider offering physiotherapy and grooming services such as pedicure/manicure to stay-home elderlies.</p><p>The most popular still remains providing homecooked meals. If the menu is specially targeted at senior citizens, like offering healthy soups, food that is less spicy and not deep fried, such promotion will attract more orders.</p><p>Women have a clear advantage in generating revenue streams. They form the biggest percentage of shoppers. They hold immense purchasing power as they are the ones to do the shopping for the family, as well as handle the family accounts and budget. They understand prices, supply and demand in the market.</p><p>An excellent example are the women of Kelantan. Their business acumen is inherited from the women in their family before them. A passing down from their grandmothers and mothers.</p><p>As for the men if they are good in sports, they can build a clientele as a tennis or swim coach, a personal trainer or a yoga/taichi instructor specialising in teaching older persons. Or a dance instructor. Retirees enjoy learning new things, whether it’s picking up a new language, a music instrument or a new skill.</p><p>With the growing interest in the senior market, there is a demand for seniors to promote products and services. TV agencies and production companies are always scouting for older models for their clients.</p><p>It is more credible to use a youthful-looking senior citizen to promote anti-ageing beauty products or health supplements than to have a pretty young woman do so. The pay can be quite good.</p><p>If you don’t fancy working for someone else, you can always start your own business and be your own boss. This involves taking on some risks, especially financial ones. You will likely face rejection for a bank loan unless you have sufficient assets as collateral. If you are unable to secure a loan or find partners, you may have little choice but to inject your retirement savings into the venture. Do due diligence and study the market before you take the plunge.</p><p>If you are unsure of what to go into, the Japanese concept of ‘ikigai’, or purpose in life will help boost your chances of succeeding in the business or employment you want to get into. Leverage on your vast working experience, skills and interests. Think of yourself both as a senior consumer and senior provider. What services and products do you need or want but that are not easily available?</p><p>That could be a starting point.</p><p><b>What about being an entrepreneur?</b></p><p>According to Global Entrepreneurship Monitor, the more successful entrepreneurs are in the 55-64 age group, and the number is growing, in response to global population ageing. They have the experience plus the skills, networks and capital to start an enterprise. Still, it pays to be cautious when deciding on a new business venture especially if you have always been an employee, and now you want to be a business owner.</p><p>Retired professionals who have had successful careers have huge spending power. They are as yet an untapped market. If you can cater to them, you will be generating a good steady income. Seniors best understand the senior market. Think out of the box.</p><p>Be aware of the hard work you will have to put in as an entrepreneur. You can’t afford to take holidays, or pay yourself well. You have to sacrifice family time. You have to work out a business plan, figure out the logistics, determine pricing and find out what legal documents are required. This is just a fraction of the tasks you will need to deal with. Go in with your eyes wide open.</p><p>Social media marketing is crucial to get your service or product known to as many potential customers as possible. If you know nothing about e-marketing, get your adult children to come onboard and turn it into a family business venture. Or employ someone who can handle this aspect of the business for you.</p><p>Some retirees may feel investing in shares is the best option. Unless you have a track record as a successful investor, it’s best to stay clear of putting your hard-earned savings into stocks and other financial products that you know little about. Just because everyone is talking about cryptocurrency stocks it doesn’t mean you should rush into it.</p><p>If you really want to invest, consider investing in EPF. Not only is it backed by the government with guaranteed returns, you also enjoy compound interest on your savings. You will be happy to watch your savings grow each year.</p><p>Entrepreneurship, self-employment and re-employment are options available for retirees to boost their savings, and remain financially independent. This relieves the burden on their children to support them. It also eases the responsibility of the government to provide welfare and health care for the ageing population.</p><p>By continuing to work, these seniors contribute to the economy through the payment of taxes.</p><p>Successful senior entrepreneurs also create jobs through staff recruitment. It certainly looks like senior entrepreneurship and self-employment are the way forward for retirees seeking to supplement their retirement funds. It’s a win-win situation for all.</p><p><i>Lily Fu is a gerontologist who advocates for seniors. She is founder of SeniorsAloud, an online platform for seniors to get connected and enjoy social activities for ageing well.</i></p><p>This article was first published in the print edition of The Star dated 20 Dec 2023. It can be accessed at this <b><a href="https://www.thestar.com.my/lifestyle/family/2023/12/20/boosting-your-retirement-savings?fbclid=IwAR3AxgAm5b4fiPFDpb3fV-GQkNUvk-Yvg5_h2mlUdovr2ExLTdGvuhbC1ho">LINK</a></b>.</p>seniorsaloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15349552912264950538noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2398906867139907280.post-81741713691948669882023-11-30T21:09:00.003+08:002023-12-01T12:02:36.280+08:00TO DRIVE OR NOT TO DRIVE?<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjRIrURLX8RzcSoghTdvXaMLOZnYxQ0zkQLASWI5i30YZhf1epgXYUvw20pfHWQ3UmzdzeYhTAvq-pwwYdwnIFt9I4m24y7tlmo1965FGqUqQCn87Fpxzx0N8NnpdLOFxN7F_9eSQj7tOrEk8oYB53OMLmJSbyD3c58a7mm-t-cLXs5fR_54y4HPjiGaVo/s580/2403028.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="332" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjRIrURLX8RzcSoghTdvXaMLOZnYxQ0zkQLASWI5i30YZhf1epgXYUvw20pfHWQ3UmzdzeYhTAvq-pwwYdwnIFt9I4m24y7tlmo1965FGqUqQCn87Fpxzx0N8NnpdLOFxN7F_9eSQj7tOrEk8oYB53OMLmJSbyD3c58a7mm-t-cLXs5fR_54y4HPjiGaVo/s16000/2403028.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>Most bus stops do not display bus routes and schedule on the notice-boards. If we see any, the info is likely outdated. - 123rf.com</i></td></tr></tbody></table><p style="text-align: center;"></p><div style="text-align: left;">Most of my senior friends still drive. They tell me they would be helpless without wheels. They wouldn’t have a clue how to get from Puchong to Sunway, or from Kajang to Putra Heights in the Klang Valley, for example.</div><p></p><p>They would also lose the freedom of going where they want and when they want.</p><p>They may still have a choice now. But what happens when they reach their 80s or 90s as they surely will one day? Their reflexes then may be slower, their vision no longer as sharp and their memory of directions may be fading. Would they still be driving or hanging up their car keys for good?</p><p>Already many seniors avoid driving at night as they easily get confused especially when driving to a place for the first time.</p><p>Who can tell whether or when the government may make it mandatory for older drivers to undergo a medical test to renew their driving license? Countries like Japan and Australia have already imposed such a ruling for drivers aged 75 and above. In Singapore taxi drivers must retire at age 75.</p><p>Why not be prepared for that eventuality by taking the bus or train the next time you have an appointment or go shopping? Leave your car at home and take public transport. You will find it’s not that difficult or inconvenient.</p><p>Think positively. You would save on fuel, parking fees and toll, and help reduce traffic congestion on the roads. Think of the health benefits. You would be fitter from walking more. You would also be getting more Vitamin D from exposure to sunlight. Just bring along an umbrella or a hat and a bottle of water, and you are good to go.</p><p>Oh, before you set out, wear a pair of good walking shoes.</p><p><b>Improved public services</b></p><p>Our public transport system has improved over the years. Remember the unpleasant rides in the late 1970s on those stuffy, over-crowded pink mini-buses with their daredevil F1 wannabee drivers?</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjph3KJAW_OS97Yg3Wp-GIugz5wN7EBa1e0idP7Qm_bLT40QfoA7zOuyEDIV1_PBDurp955QQEgvU8ZN08Uhjvr9OOHn_VK57amyMxbOxg5IoXVy54vs-RmZtheoHLVp8AD4wBlj4rcz8IgVOaaP2iHx7poTDTdq5-DVYuFn8c8KdyCgdgt7ZTGMqiRFk8/s545/mini%20bus.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="320" data-original-width="545" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjph3KJAW_OS97Yg3Wp-GIugz5wN7EBa1e0idP7Qm_bLT40QfoA7zOuyEDIV1_PBDurp955QQEgvU8ZN08Uhjvr9OOHn_VK57amyMxbOxg5IoXVy54vs-RmZtheoHLVp8AD4wBlj4rcz8IgVOaaP2iHx7poTDTdq5-DVYuFn8c8KdyCgdgt7ZTGMqiRFk8/s16000/mini%20bus.jpg" /></a></div><p>What a relief these buses were discontinued in 1998. Today we enjoy comfortable rides on airconditioned buses and on LRT and MRT trains. The coaches are clean, well-lit and spacious. With the recent addition of Ladies Only coaches, women passengers need not worry about being harassed or molested during peak hours when coaches are jam-packed.</p><p>There are also free intracity shuttle buses in KL and PJ. With an expanding network of the rail system, connectivity has improved tremendously, allowing for seamless travel within the Klang Valley</p><p>The only complaint I have about taking the trains is the lack of respect shown to senior citizens.</p><p>The priority seats meant for seniors, OKU and pregnant women are usually occupied by younger passengers. They are so busy on their mobile phones they couldn’t care less if an elderly passenger was standing right in front of them! Few would offer to give up their seat.</p><p>The biggest plus point for senior citizens is without doubt the 50% discount on all fares. They can apply for a warga emas card at Pasar Seni LRT station, and get it on the spot for immediate use.</p><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiqNs0vU3VaSYtzurS5tpY_C33pDhFinMM1mGiChPEzqYu8EBbjaDD29V1MEQ2t045Ebv5RndXmXE_t2hoHr16nMLUhh_DvXrQvfutZoVNQUW8gvxjppJ6jTHvav1W6gHZ1B5waEeGd3kr5mpe09-ynm93uOQFX8Pta4MzKK87_TFEEHCDVUtaiGOyH_do/s580/Chrysler%20Alpine%201-3%20front.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="313" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiqNs0vU3VaSYtzurS5tpY_C33pDhFinMM1mGiChPEzqYu8EBbjaDD29V1MEQ2t045Ebv5RndXmXE_t2hoHr16nMLUhh_DvXrQvfutZoVNQUW8gvxjppJ6jTHvav1W6gHZ1B5waEeGd3kr5mpe09-ynm93uOQFX8Pta4MzKK87_TFEEHCDVUtaiGOyH_do/s16000/Chrysler%20Alpine%201-3%20front.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>Similar to the last car I owned. Before that I drove a Volvo 121. Seems like eons ago. Pre-Proton time so all the cars I drove were foreign cars. Expensive to maintain.</i></td></tr></tbody></table><p>I haven’t driven since I sold my Chrysler Alpine in 1998. I depend mainly on public transport, rides from my good Samaritan friends and my two legs to get me to where I want to go.</p><p><b>Room for improvement</b></p><p>As a 75-year-old senior with 25 years of experience taking trains and buses on a daily basis, let me assure seniors out there that they can definitely survive without a car. I can understand their reluctance to opt for public transport when they still have a choice. Their biggest grouse is the dismal lack of information on bus routes. The buses are the weak link in an otherwise efficient public transport system.</p><p>I have often found myself clueless at bus-stops in places that I don’t often visit. Most bus stops do not display bus routes and schedule on the notice-boards. If we see any, the info is likely outdated.</p><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgCMA2J8k7T-NEN0fH4iU8EPxj_7tadalyCd5UA3Am90aupc8G-IDYXgGayLQNKb7JL4wLTu3FZjQ9FA7JLVH_v4fyOx9a-H50CjsWgDCHcQGSwA_1dzrcZZ5JrZpxWyBC7YeDvopAmdcI8F7EmU9m5RgE5G9T3Cr109TQmImwRpKU4oqA_sWHCfjBZkco/s582/IMG_4155%20-%20Copy.JPG" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="437" data-original-width="582" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgCMA2J8k7T-NEN0fH4iU8EPxj_7tadalyCd5UA3Am90aupc8G-IDYXgGayLQNKb7JL4wLTu3FZjQ9FA7JLVH_v4fyOx9a-H50CjsWgDCHcQGSwA_1dzrcZZ5JrZpxWyBC7YeDvopAmdcI8F7EmU9m5RgE5G9T3Cr109TQmImwRpKU4oqA_sWHCfjBZkco/s16000/IMG_4155%20-%20Copy.JPG" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>Not an iota of infomation about the buses serving this bus-stop.</i></td></tr></tbody></table><p>Instead, we see advertisements and notices of rooms to let, job vacancies, money lenders and the like. There is also the problem of last-mile connectivity.</p><p>Having a bus schedule doesn’t necessarily mean the bus drivers keep to the times stated. If we are lucky, we get to board our bus just as it is about to depart from the station. If we miss it, we may have to wait anything from 15 minutes to 45 minutes.</p><p>Instead of getting worked up, I view this positively as time to relax. I have learned to be super patient. It’s good for the heart not to be stressed over things beyond our control.</p><p>The newer bus-stops now have a laminated QR-code posted on the notice-board. Commuters are supposed to scan it to view the bus route. Whoever introduced this certainly did not have senior citizens in mind. Not every senior is digital-savvy or owns a smart phone.</p><p>Some elderly also may find the bus steps too high and they struggle to board the bus. The bus drivers are supposed to stop close to the pavement so it’s easy for seniors to step from the pavement onto the bus or vice versa. Instead, the drivers stop away from the pavement.</p><p>During heavy rain, passengers have to wade through puddles of water to get on or off the bus. Furthermore, not all buses are wheelchair accessible. I have seen only two occasions when the bus driver got off the bus to assist an OKU in a wheelchair board the bus at a bus-stop.</p><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhxe1EprjndSS62UxKsTCLEe9T7nd3S-i__C1UJVF09MdgK6KVamcljoOTbpOmb0RXrzDBMfHMzQc3G0ZTOU1_kXMpEHYBoK3SAZ-PYxCEjpPF-lBIBpqD0T3NC69Y3eMG1TUX6crxurRtdQbunb4ciVs5O5wf_8LTQps5PtPljBHorQ5o-PzjW7n7ZVw0/s578/IMG_4772%20-%20Copy.JPG" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="404" data-original-width="578" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhxe1EprjndSS62UxKsTCLEe9T7nd3S-i__C1UJVF09MdgK6KVamcljoOTbpOmb0RXrzDBMfHMzQc3G0ZTOU1_kXMpEHYBoK3SAZ-PYxCEjpPF-lBIBpqD0T3NC69Y3eMG1TUX6crxurRtdQbunb4ciVs5O5wf_8LTQps5PtPljBHorQ5o-PzjW7n7ZVw0/s16000/IMG_4772%20-%20Copy.JPG" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>This is the bus-stop from where I board the bus almost daily to KLCC to transfer to the LRT line. It has remained in this deplorable condition for the past 10 years!</i></td></tr></tbody></table><p>With our population heading towards aged nation status by 2030, it is imperative for the government to address these shortcomings in our public transport system. Every family has elderly members. When their physical limitations and needs are addressed, everyone benefits. Make it easy for our older citizens to travel on public transport.</p><p>Do I ever miss driving? Absolutely not! The horrendous traffic jams, parking problems, road bullies and most of all, the high cost of maintaining a car, are enough to deter me from seeking out a good used car dealer.</p><p>As I advance in age, the thought of getting behind the wheels again is fast fading. I have let my driving license expire this year. No regrets.</p><p><i>Lily Fu is a gerontologist who advocates for seniors. She is founder of SeniorsAloud, an online platform for seniors to get connected and enjoy social activities for ageing well.</i></p><p><i>(The above article was published in The Star under the 'Grey Matters' column on Wed 22 Nov 2023. It is accessible at <b><a href="https://www.thestar.com.my/lifestyle/family/2023/11/23/seniors039-conundrum-to-drive-or-not-to-drive?">https://www.thestar.com.my/lifestyle/family/2023/11/23/seniors039-conundrum-to-drive-or-not-to-drive?</a></b>)</i></p>seniorsaloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15349552912264950538noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2398906867139907280.post-78181213408637348202023-11-02T18:26:00.003+08:002023-11-04T10:28:08.956+08:00TO AGE WELL, START YOUNG<p></p><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6OGJghfFa5f8oC_kOvGyUZvV8ZB8pjibgWWnAHEZ_cffym7_BwXCMZ0mRWtnEHSeFGLC5IqJLuBC5fOWPKygBWXFvUZrgUfZkFtS1DV5EZqQWbvroNcDTnBx18slguWNQmrRqU_1AuQlMwIaHPIo9ftZxdftDB0GDoe1k9n9lw8mwhlZQFXZt8PqWwf8/s580/star6.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="386" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6OGJghfFa5f8oC_kOvGyUZvV8ZB8pjibgWWnAHEZ_cffym7_BwXCMZ0mRWtnEHSeFGLC5IqJLuBC5fOWPKygBWXFvUZrgUfZkFtS1DV5EZqQWbvroNcDTnBx18slguWNQmrRqU_1AuQlMwIaHPIo9ftZxdftDB0GDoe1k9n9lw8mwhlZQFXZt8PqWwf8/s16000/star6.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>The new generation of seniors are ready to venture forth to where their predecessors had feared to go. - 123rf.com</i></td></tr></tbody></table><p></p><div style="text-align: center;"><div style="text-align: left;">Each year, on Oct 1, we celebrate the United Nations’ International Day of Older Persons. The entire month is packed with events and activities, and media coverage of everything related to seniors.</div></div><p>It is an annual reminder that we are growing older, that there are challenges to be met and to prepare for.</p><p>Not that we need reminding. The mirror does that for us daily.</p><p>Not that long ago, no one (not even the government) knew or cared about what Oct 1 meant. But when the alarm bells rang to warn of an impending “silver tsunami”, suddenly we see nursing homes, senior living residences sprouting up everywhere.</p><p>Conferences, talks, exhibitions on ageing well, retirement planning, healthcare are held practically every other week. It is as if the panic button had been activated, and there is a rush to get ready before the country’s growing ageing population aged 65 and above reaches 15% or six million by 2040.</p><p>While the government is speeding up building an elderly-friendly ecosystem, what can we, the seniors, do for ourselves? How do we prepare for our old age to ensure we have more years of good health and fewer years of disabilities?</p><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgmUpK3xPi8d28ruvsI2HOLNN1j2bsoAUt-AGVbmfOjDkl25fuci17YX9ON7SHjmVXxpLRbE5Iw5MYr3bAImggfWrYzoIS0B6H4FA-kFzmXbnmDH0R6XYJzCUe6a_j2SX_yCpy85v9sSk3NZDQk5KD8hJIUUClxzkmLZHnLIp1J9R4G2S7xayp8Vls5jBE/s580/STAR7.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="403" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgmUpK3xPi8d28ruvsI2HOLNN1j2bsoAUt-AGVbmfOjDkl25fuci17YX9ON7SHjmVXxpLRbE5Iw5MYr3bAImggfWrYzoIS0B6H4FA-kFzmXbnmDH0R6XYJzCUe6a_j2SX_yCpy85v9sSk3NZDQk5KD8hJIUUClxzkmLZHnLIp1J9R4G2S7xayp8Vls5jBE/s16000/STAR7.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>Amazing Seniors' Jasmin (far left) and Low (far right) with Timeless Inspiration Awards and Community Leadership Awardees (from left) Ras Adiba, Ivy, Khadijah, Lat (in brown) and Fu. (The Star)</i></td></tr></tbody></table><p>One of the open secrets to ageing well and being able to remain fit and do most of the things we enjoyed doing in our younger days is to start laying the foundation early.</p><p>If you have missed out on an early start, it’s never too late to begin adopting a healthy lifestyle. A daily exercise regime helps to strengthen our immune system and protect our body against frailty. If you don’t have the discipline to exercise on your own, join a line dance class or an outdoors group that goes hiking or brisk walking regularly.</p><p></p><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2ygZ_BCnyQ2G6DQlK-WZf-XeKJp4tndAXla9oNrUxbzYwhUNZgns5OEKzI7Cym7DwAA6QBgvhZX8rXtYeTaHSfsmsDQ86jmTzwEYQ20YCsUAakUkrGYV4-OOA_-iVjhdAbr2WYdXxpBftJPHMrJjkzljSH-b1JaMJSVsMelK2vPXom8fGJyUUiT25v98/s1240/star8.jpg" style="clear: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1240" data-original-width="836" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2ygZ_BCnyQ2G6DQlK-WZf-XeKJp4tndAXla9oNrUxbzYwhUNZgns5OEKzI7Cym7DwAA6QBgvhZX8rXtYeTaHSfsmsDQ86jmTzwEYQ20YCsUAakUkrGYV4-OOA_-iVjhdAbr2WYdXxpBftJPHMrJjkzljSH-b1JaMJSVsMelK2vPXom8fGJyUUiT25v98/s320/star8.jpg" width="216" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><div style="text-align: left;"><i>Community Leadership Award</i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i>recipient Lily Fu </i><i>founder of</i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i>SeniorsAloud community. (The Star)</i></div></td></tr></tbody></table>The social connection in group activities is an added benefit. Having supportive friends helps to keep our spirits up and drives away any hint of depression especially for seniors living alone.<p></p><p>The current generation of older people – the baby boomers, born during the post-WW2 boom years 1946 to 1964, is the first wave of retirees who have had the benefit of education and gainful employment.</p><div style="text-align: left;">They are now reaping the rewards of years of hard work, enjoying financial security and living life to the fullest. These septuagenarians and octogenarians are giving “old age” a brand-new meaning and image.</div><p>Thanks to advances in medicine, science and technology, the “new old” are fitter, healthier and looking much younger than their parents’ generation.</p><p>And their numbers are growing, worldwide. </p><p>We need not look further for evidence of this new breed of seniors than in the recently concluded three-day Senior Festival organised by Amazing Seniors.</p><p>The Talent Quest event was an excellent showcase of the new seniors. Looking at them singing and dancing with gusto on stage, the young ones in the audience couldn’t help but be amazed at the energy and the spirit of fun these seniors displayed. Who could believe the models in the fashion show were seniors with the oldest at 85?</p><p>The seniors in the Malay dances and those on the ukeleles showed that older people can learn from scratch anything if they have the interest and passion to do so.</p><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiq_roH1oJnznu_7Rj2HoUlFGb3gSxhbsXBxzI2hvG7DACVT0xNf7h2ZNgrcaZXDWyeVAjyz1xliSigjGV70ImuEklmT6MIxKn1pLYIHcvCDvNzoEtM4JGrC1pUJRX7V0Ggsf9P8Mjaifo7C8Z3R7UgTDLIpXLhNBJOYupjePEb0-YHksop3JFZwMdoKdE/s580/show.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="356" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiq_roH1oJnznu_7Rj2HoUlFGb3gSxhbsXBxzI2hvG7DACVT0xNf7h2ZNgrcaZXDWyeVAjyz1xliSigjGV70ImuEklmT6MIxKn1pLYIHcvCDvNzoEtM4JGrC1pUJRX7V0Ggsf9P8Mjaifo7C8Z3R7UgTDLIpXLhNBJOYupjePEb0-YHksop3JFZwMdoKdE/s16000/show.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: left;"><i>SeniorsAloud members taking part in a fun fashion show for the first-time. Most are in their 60s, with the oldest at 85.</i></td></tr></tbody></table><p>The new old are breaking all the rules on how we should age. Who says Grandmas are not supposed to look glamorous? Where does it say Grandpas shouldn’t have fun? Which handbook or religious book are these do’s and don’ts coming from?</p><p>Where does it say that older people should behave a certain way? The retirement years are for enjoying life. We deserve a well-earned rest after years of work.</p><p>What a terrible waste of precious time if we spend it counting the days and preparing religiously to hear that last boarding call for our final departure. If we are always afraid of death and ageing, and spend our time getting ready to depart, our lives will truly be grey.</p><p><b>Looking ahead with anticipation</b></p><p>We need to face ageing with positivity. So go out there. Try new experiences as long as they are not a risk to life or limb. The new generation of seniors are ready to venture forth to where their predecessors had feared to go.</p><p>They are saying no to social stigmas that dictate how older people should behave, or face public ridicule, scorn, even ostracism.</p><p>They are shattering the long-held perception of older people as frail, senile and economically unproductive, and a drain on the country’s resources.</p><p>Those who do not have the means, such as time, money and education to age well envy those who are ‘privileged’.</p><p>But why envy? Envy gets us nowhere. Take action. Anyone and everyone can age well.</p><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjzEJypOlJ94ep2_sac2X_YLgWTfglko03RVh53EO6VdOLyc3pcLCD_8tL7yCU-i7e5LzuUlQtLlXCPL1SXmXha_rwWUGmiBhA7ufh-9kiqfVdr4K7_Y2KeBNsBhvGp00TfsIuTXHhFtnoieo3q-LYgqLPeMCWtSz5XoXkMky-ZJT7vMLR85423G59Z44Y/s580/4907db2b-4bd0-4d13-b3d3-8af23ec63553.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="313" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjzEJypOlJ94ep2_sac2X_YLgWTfglko03RVh53EO6VdOLyc3pcLCD_8tL7yCU-i7e5LzuUlQtLlXCPL1SXmXha_rwWUGmiBhA7ufh-9kiqfVdr4K7_Y2KeBNsBhvGp00TfsIuTXHhFtnoieo3q-LYgqLPeMCWtSz5XoXkMky-ZJT7vMLR85423G59Z44Y/s16000/4907db2b-4bd0-4d13-b3d3-8af23ec63553.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>Seniors love the outdoors to keep fit and active.</i></td></tr></tbody></table><p>Getting our body moving is free. So are fresh air and sunlight. Thoughts are free too. Think positive. Think hope. You will be surprised what a huge dose of positivity and good habits can do for our health and wellbeing.</p><p>It’s a cliche but it needs repeating – change begins with us.</p><p>Our health is our responsibility. We know what to do, but we don’t do it. A lack of motivation makes us complacent until a serious health issue triggers an immediate response – an emergency trip to the doctor or the hospital.</p><p>Change takes time, but older people don’t have the luxury of time. So just do it. Live healthy, live well, live long.</p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiwHmSvGjULxXCbpJEgg3N-DGcvzGepjOL_nU57lGnpD2cIpJzZ08dH3ZOBvViPC6ColdVaNt24-GNynOMJ7CBZSckkZ7-_U4cdwYFbRwvSGmJkAgjad8KmxkJhJbWCXIORW9JwAmkcPCxk50PvKmvoH7VcRi3X9ZqjMlyIP5WZpFPTy1vWyYDLvqoWPkg/s478/Capture.PNG" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="391" data-original-width="478" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiwHmSvGjULxXCbpJEgg3N-DGcvzGepjOL_nU57lGnpD2cIpJzZ08dH3ZOBvViPC6ColdVaNt24-GNynOMJ7CBZSckkZ7-_U4cdwYFbRwvSGmJkAgjad8KmxkJhJbWCXIORW9JwAmkcPCxk50PvKmvoH7VcRi3X9ZqjMlyIP5WZpFPTy1vWyYDLvqoWPkg/s16000/Capture.PNG" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">I used to be amused at cartoons and jokes that poke fun at old people, depicting them as senile and</div> forgetful, like taking ages to cross a road and holding up traffic, or using Tipp-Ex to erase typos on the computer screen.<p></p><p>These images only reinforce the negative perception of older people as unfit for re-employment, and a drain on the nation’s resources. Such depictions of older people are in poor taste.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiypp4EXswYMNaohC2WcDswsscsOLm8q2y-Rzun2gjXZPQmfLOl2smSO8Ti395TG0fhkafECeCQWsBE72DuuPTtdVjsmmnBx01YPeydStEKefZJhr_IB7xVSGKW281Oqsm3kbj8ELHJPSJZmqI1hkCNgnhyphenhyphendoaUtKxz69xMmEDw2n5DNuWkA3CgSvZceng/s480/3094400_wordcloudageism_314824_crop.jpeg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="270" data-original-width="480" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiypp4EXswYMNaohC2WcDswsscsOLm8q2y-Rzun2gjXZPQmfLOl2smSO8Ti395TG0fhkafECeCQWsBE72DuuPTtdVjsmmnBx01YPeydStEKefZJhr_IB7xVSGKW281Oqsm3kbj8ELHJPSJZmqI1hkCNgnhyphenhyphendoaUtKxz69xMmEDw2n5DNuWkA3CgSvZceng/s16000/3094400_wordcloudageism_314824_crop.jpeg" /></a></div><p>It explains why ageism is still being practised especially in the job market, and older people continue to be overlooked or discriminated against.</p><p>As the country moves into an era that will see a huge demographic shift, it is pertinent that we change how society looks at older people. It’s time we see them through new lens that focus on their strengths, their experience and their talents.</p><p>Hopefully, the new old will herald a more positive perception of our senior citizens as vibrant and still capable of contributing much to the economy and to nation-building.</p><p><i>Lily Fu is a gerontologist who advocates for seniors. She is founder of SeniorsAloud, an online platform for seniors to get connected and enjoy social activities for ageing well.</i></p><p><i>(The above article was first published in The Star print edition on Wed 25 Oct 2023 under the Grey Matters column. Access the link <b><a href="https://www.thestar.com.my/lifestyle/family/2023/10/26/in-order-to-age-well-its-important-to-start-young?fbclid=IwAR1LLDznYHBOvQcTuEDIuHJqP1BiXILGZX6d70Wu8EJpQAmGLQB_tLTL5rE">here</a></b>.)</i></p>seniorsaloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15349552912264950538noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2398906867139907280.post-26277933696748362452023-10-05T19:13:00.003+08:002023-10-05T19:26:35.361+08:00FROM HOME SWEET HOME TO NURSING HOME<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgKq6yot0qMdmSDQxtt9KSrIR8UuQO_87A2ArWuv-gPPDvPU7Gq-7cucmL6vuPIUxdStm6uLWFYoaw2TKvZllBl2PkPGsvwwllrdJHg90P1Evp_J7NQMJGm0rmHHwPVL_RGKKNdthsm_6SQWVh2UndRC79wK2tM8ql_m_lYjGIep3aBDizlDrxXMvFHVNE/s580/star%20pic.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><i><img border="0" data-original-height="386" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgKq6yot0qMdmSDQxtt9KSrIR8UuQO_87A2ArWuv-gPPDvPU7Gq-7cucmL6vuPIUxdStm6uLWFYoaw2TKvZllBl2PkPGsvwwllrdJHg90P1Evp_J7NQMJGm0rmHHwPVL_RGKKNdthsm_6SQWVh2UndRC79wK2tM8ql_m_lYjGIep3aBDizlDrxXMvFHVNE/s16000/star%20pic.jpg" /></i></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>Make sure to find out if the home has certified nurses and trained support staff. Photo: 123rf.com</i></td></tr></tbody></table><br /><p style="text-align: left;">Whether we like it or not, there will come a time when we have to seriously consider where we see ourselves living 20 years after retirement. Given a choice, most of us senior citizens would prefer to age in place, that is, age at home in familiar surroundings.</p><p>Much as we may desire this, it may not be in our best interest. There will come a day when we find ourselves living alone. We may be fit and enjoying good health in our retirement years.</p><p>But all it takes is a fall to render us helpless, unable to get up and call for assistance. Climbing the ladder to change a bulb or reach for a jar on the top shelf may result in a mishap that sees us ending up with a broken hip and in a wheelchair.</p><p>As for adult children, they worry about their elderly parent being alone at home. They dread getting a call informing them something dreadful has happened to dear mom or dad. What if Dad suddenly has a stroke? There’s no one at home to call for an ambulance. What if Mum who has Alzheimer’s wanders out and can’t remember the way home? Worse, what if Dad experiences a cardiac arrest, and his body remains undiscovered till a week later?</p><p>Such cases have been reported in the media. We need to seriously consider the likelihood of moving to an aged care facility at some point in our later years. Living with our adult children may not be an option available to us. They may have settled overseas or are working in another city. Even when there is room in their home, the elderly parent may not want to move in and lose their freedom and independence.</p><p>There could be many reasons why the number of Home Alone elderly has risen in recent years. Only a small percent is due to a lack of filial piety. It’s best to be prepared for that eventuality and start checking out retirement homes and assisted living facilities, rather than wait for an emergency to happen and we end up leaving that choice out of our hands.</p><p>At least come up with a shortlist and share it with our children.</p><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgL5T5tkULyCzeas0c7HbXoePBWTC2yyWrY1UWSFZ3_63gcZum0-qiQC7h1YKY8OSqWcFNMkfD1MJiiaK94CQPLrMVo4Ny7XX3NMsvuHEm4Q-08m8vyMMktHwjRRbPhWIyHco2CsLehiBpqGAKDUTcVZEO6-M8jGoECFWwB7UVNVpDMATTRYPMgrc6Ed3o/s578/garden.JPG" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="434" data-original-width="578" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgL5T5tkULyCzeas0c7HbXoePBWTC2yyWrY1UWSFZ3_63gcZum0-qiQC7h1YKY8OSqWcFNMkfD1MJiiaK94CQPLrMVo4Ny7XX3NMsvuHEm4Q-08m8vyMMktHwjRRbPhWIyHco2CsLehiBpqGAKDUTcVZEO6-M8jGoECFWwB7UVNVpDMATTRYPMgrc6Ed3o/s16000/garden.JPG" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>A nursing home with a garden scores a plus point. Residents can enjoy the outdoor sunlight and fresh air, and engage in some exercise, or in gardening</i>.</td></tr></tbody></table><br /><p>Let’s start with private nursing homes which have been mushrooming in recent years in response to Malaysia’s growing ageing population. Operating an aged care facility, whether a nursing home or a daycare centre, has become a thriving business. Private nursing homes are a common sight in residential neighbourhoods.</p><p>Most are housed in converted bungalows or former service apartments rather than as purpose-built facilities. Nearly all have attractive websites promising quiet surroundings, daily activities and tender loving care.</p><p>Don’t be taken in by the marketing hype. The fees depend largely on the level of care required, and the services and facilities offered. Be prepared to cough up between RM3,000 to RM8,000 a month.</p><p>What do the fees cover besides meals? Laundry? Diapers? Medication? Personal toiletries? Personal grooming-haircuts, manicure, pedicure? Are there regular triage checks? The high-end ones offer a resort lifestyle, complete with swimming pool, gym, karaoke, ensuite rooms. In short, it’s akin to living in a five-star hotel, so be prepared to pay five-star fees. For the majority, even at RM3,000, most adult children can ill afford it, given their many financial commitments. With longer life expectancy, the sandwich generation of adult children has now expanded to include retirees who are carers for their elderly parent aged 90+.</p><p>With no income, limited savings, and their own declining health, these retirees struggle to look after their aged parents.</p><p>Here are some questions as a guide</p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjPkr6SbqDBpVd43dScn5oVIaUNUaEMW3cjTLbohpmjYAVSPDne4f13wi16Tu6txSsisYYFrvV6KDn0oFcqZq3m90FA8e7v3dhGXBBTHe4NxliMdsJ6AuHXJT2PibpfBK-uyXd1Asbz5Tqpu_nmRhSvfRYNLaLcO51H1S2GgL7DjxfFhrbgCH0ZL2-ZB1Q/s580/checklist-hero.jpg" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="406" data-original-width="580" height="224" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjPkr6SbqDBpVd43dScn5oVIaUNUaEMW3cjTLbohpmjYAVSPDne4f13wi16Tu6txSsisYYFrvV6KDn0oFcqZq3m90FA8e7v3dhGXBBTHe4NxliMdsJ6AuHXJT2PibpfBK-uyXd1Asbz5Tqpu_nmRhSvfRYNLaLcO51H1S2GgL7DjxfFhrbgCH0ZL2-ZB1Q/s320/checklist-hero.jpg" width="320" /></a></div>1. What is your first impression of the facility? Clean? Well-ventilated and well-lit? Elder-friendly furniture and fixtures? Quiet surroundings? Safe and comfortable environment? Any greenery? If it’s a double-storey building, look for a fire escape outside. If the home looks uninviting from the outside, there really is no point ringing the doorbell. It would be a total waste of your time.<p></p><p>2. Is the home licensed? This serves as a good guide as certain conditions such as fire safety need to be fulfilled before a license can be issued. Ask whether there is a proper admission procedure. Is there a management team to oversee running of the home? Homes that are operated by one or two individuals with little relevant experience or qualifications are likely to be unlicensed.</p><p>3. Are the nurses certified and the support staff trained? Remember, you will be leaving your loved one in their care 24/7. Do they treat the residents with respect and patience? Is there a resident doctor or physiotherapist? Do the staff look overworked or unfriendly? Are they mostly foreigners or locals? Are they able to communicate with the elderly to understand their needs? What are the provisions for emergencies? Do the staff keep you informed about your loved one when you are away? What is the staff to residents ratio?</p><p>4. Are there meals planned with the dietary needs of the elderly in mind? Is the menu changed daily? Is there a weekly programme of activities such as morning exercises, art and music sessions? Or are the residents left to themselves to watch TV most of the time? Does the home arrange for outings or for volunteer groups to visit regularly and interact with the residents? Do the elderly residents look neglected and bored?</p><p>Ask around for recommendations from friends who have a family member in a nursing home. Do some research online to back up a recommendation. Then contact the home to arrange for a visit.</p><p>If they say you are welcome to drop by anytime, it is a good sign that they are prepared to be ‘inspected’ at your convenience, and not theirs. Remember to ask the right questions during the visit, and make a mental note of everything you see, both good and not so good.</p><p>I hope this article gives you an idea of what to look for in a good retirement home or nursing home for yourself or for an elderly. You will be surprised how many homes you will strike out from your list before you finally find one that could be the answer to your prayers.</p><p><i>This article by Lily Fu was first published in The Star (Mon, 02 Oct 2023) in the Grey Matters column. The online edition can be accessed at this link: <b><a href="https://www.thestar.com.my/lifestyle/family/2023/10/02/starsilver-from-home-sweet-home-to-nursing-home">https://www.thestar.com.my/lifestyle/family/2023/10/02/starsilver-from-home-sweet-home-to-nursing-home</a></b></i></p><p>(Lily Fu is a gerontologist who advocates for seniors. She is founder of SeniorsAloud, an online platform for seniors to get connected and enjoy social activities for ageing well.)</p>seniorsaloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15349552912264950538noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2398906867139907280.post-74112004322065520932023-09-14T12:03:00.001+08:002023-09-14T14:55:35.195+08:00SENIORS, DITCH AGE-OLD STEREOTYPES AND LIVE YOUR BEST LIVES<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgMl-HJsSVg6dR-8vcj4ZTOzykQL1QqhaoiHgIOerR2JqmORxlpF9Jbj8ISG2NWE0izmbQEC4FrKV03rz0Muo0sAJToVeHkL09usVZ2gX1-Rw8R_DzD7nnFUzyrrMB39PuPidUD7IoLs7k275xagXftYa3lwNy911vDnLP2idu0LGi91Q7PWDCf7Kvk3aQ/s580/2257878.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="386" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgMl-HJsSVg6dR-8vcj4ZTOzykQL1QqhaoiHgIOerR2JqmORxlpF9Jbj8ISG2NWE0izmbQEC4FrKV03rz0Muo0sAJToVeHkL09usVZ2gX1-Rw8R_DzD7nnFUzyrrMB39PuPidUD7IoLs7k275xagXftYa3lwNy911vDnLP2idu0LGi91Q7PWDCf7Kvk3aQ/s16000/2257878.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>It's never too late to learn a new skill. - 123rf.com</i></td></tr></tbody></table><p>If there is one word that should be banned from a senior citizen’s vocabulary, it is the word ‘Old’. How can we expect society to have a positive perception of older people when we think of ourselves as ‘old’ – as in ‘‘I’m too old to...”</p><p>Words have power. Never ever think we are too old to learn. Our brain cells do not atrophy with age. In fact, they regenerate. Our brain cells get stimulated with new learning. Neurogenesis and neuroplasticity enable us to continue absorbing new knowledge, new skills and new experiences.</p><p>These two processes continue throughout our life span. When we think we have lived long enough, seen enough, and there’s nothing more to learn, it is easy to slip into boredom. Life becomes a long stretch of humdrum.</p><p>Nothing new, nothing exciting to enjoy or look forward to. On the contrary, the best time to learn new things, to pursue our dreams is in our retirement years. No more nine to five, no more parenting responsibilities. We now have time and savings to learn what we want, with no pressure to sit for exams. Welcome to learning for leisure.</p><p><b>Learning for Leisure</b></p><p>Want to pick up a new skill such as cooking, painting or home repairs D.I.Y? How about learning a new language, a musical instrument or a new dance? Looking for something related to wellness? There’s yoga, tai chi and qigong.</p><p>Technology is more your cup of tea? Well, there’s smartphone usage, cloud computing and drone basics, all taught under Digital Technologies. Thinking of setting up a home-based business or a start-up? Enroll for a course on entrepreneurship.</p><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiq8MTsrCu5mRpT_PrN44ENHoGYanxIKHoy_kSksxFMOOIaV9Pa0BBzmj9b075xpKdxtcaV05FPfN7D64OcAEIODfqpOUORgWF9Ys8rn9M3IN_L6524P1DgRc65Xjx7Sq7HhbFnwd1TmC9FXVXg3SSpCVbMAbIMwvIdYyABRS706kY-SDR1mHC9UbqX4kQ/s580/Design%20Thinking%20-%20Copy.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="326" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiq8MTsrCu5mRpT_PrN44ENHoGYanxIKHoy_kSksxFMOOIaV9Pa0BBzmj9b075xpKdxtcaV05FPfN7D64OcAEIODfqpOUORgWF9Ys8rn9M3IN_L6524P1DgRc65Xjx7Sq7HhbFnwd1TmC9FXVXg3SSpCVbMAbIMwvIdYyABRS706kY-SDR1mHC9UbqX4kQ/s16000/Design%20Thinking%20-%20Copy.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>Seniors at a U3A Design Thinking class - designing the ideal wallet </i></td></tr></tbody></table><p>All the above, and more, are courses offered at University of the Third Age (U3A) at MyAgeing, Universiti Putra Malaysia. When I first read about their Open Day in The Star in 2011, I was so excited. Right away, I registered for several courses. Now 12 years later, I am still taking up courses at U3A. The only difference is most of the courses have gone online via Zoom due to the Covid pandemic. This enables more seniors from outside the Klang Valley to take up courses.</p><p>There are more than 40 courses to choose from ranging from art and music to languages and digital skills. Most of the courses run for six weeks with course fees at an affordable RM80 per course.</p><p>Aside from U3A, there are 132 Pusat Aktiviti Warga Emas (PAWE) activity centres throughout the country. There are plans to have at least one PAWE in every constituency to promote active learning among the older population. Courses are offered free to enable seniors especially from the B40 group to expand their knowledge and learn new skills that could help them generate some income.</p><p><b>Academic Courses</b></p><p>Seniors who did not have the opportunity to further their studies after high school can now fulfill their dream of obtaining university qualifications.</p><p></p><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiEPBJO8QGqL0eD0Fg7bZHKuvqNOPh9svryfoYC4dn9SEPb09PlXiRDRTBOdvVdp3lVbB_gkgInAi6WsffIKzR1uoHSnzvoc1Lao-2c_LiYNl7mWNsCgdl8sIW0-FGPn_PzXNv3UfMKodrY-2uR4ob5yZ9AplGHEkdnyj6M8IV8_LsjUMBHt4-CXjR2fqY/s2770/Going%20for%20class.jpg" style="clear: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2770" data-original-width="2149" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiEPBJO8QGqL0eD0Fg7bZHKuvqNOPh9svryfoYC4dn9SEPb09PlXiRDRTBOdvVdp3lVbB_gkgInAi6WsffIKzR1uoHSnzvoc1Lao-2c_LiYNl7mWNsCgdl8sIW0-FGPn_PzXNv3UfMKodrY-2uR4ob5yZ9AplGHEkdnyj6M8IV8_LsjUMBHt4-CXjR2fqY/s320/Going%20for%20class.jpg" width="248" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>Doing my MSc in Applied Gerontology<br />in 2018 at age 70</i></td></tr></tbody></table>Compared to the limited number of courses in the 1960s-80s, our universities now offer literally hundreds of degree courses. As Malaysia heads towards ageing nation status, we can expect a surge in university applications from older adults. Yet, our university brochures invariably feature young undergrads fresh out of high school or college. This smacks of ageism, doesn’t it?<p></p><p>Grants, scholarships and loans have an upper age ceiling that shutout applications from older adults. Education has always been seen as a way out of poverty. This applies to young people as well as to older people. But with ageism, opportunities to improve the socio-economic status of retirees and pensioners via higher education remain limited.</p><p><b>Online Resources for Learning</b></p><p>One alternative is to go online for learning resources. With thousands of courses available online, many for free, adult learners are spoilt for choice. All that is required is the determination to complete the courses. Mind you, these courses are offered by some of the world’s top universities like Yale University, University of California, Los Angeles, National University of Singapore and Peking University.</p><p></p><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgkjCVa4v1Xgs5Oa3k7xQDmtqTj0zMH7CUfXAgMQmbX-B3Eu-fBRaXuIpwNdk8In6RBNyo-iCBAUBdJfFPa5OZ3ae1zTc-iBBtOOD_NWNidmL5wzfeeFqzzo0kfCSI6rYcl5s3Rjh9QNMNEdbRK9gkikgdFuL7jcYVVlvCzZYrh-7ONJNAqXBXbqM_52WE/s639/1450729_10152423400477785_1818276073_n%20(2).jpg" style="clear: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="639" data-original-width="493" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgkjCVa4v1Xgs5Oa3k7xQDmtqTj0zMH7CUfXAgMQmbX-B3Eu-fBRaXuIpwNdk8In6RBNyo-iCBAUBdJfFPa5OZ3ae1zTc-iBBtOOD_NWNidmL5wzfeeFqzzo0kfCSI6rYcl5s3Rjh9QNMNEdbRK9gkikgdFuL7jcYVVlvCzZYrh-7ONJNAqXBXbqM_52WE/s320/1450729_10152423400477785_1818276073_n%20(2).jpg" width="247" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>My first Coursera certificate<br /> from Johns Hopkins, 2013</i></td></tr></tbody></table>For those who are interested in online academic courses, you might want to check out Coursera. I signed up for my first online course “Care of Elders with Alzheimer’s Disease” in 2013 through Coursera. My certificate was issued by Johns Hopkins Hospital.<p></p><p>I have done a dozen free online courses since then.</p><p>The internet opens up a world of e-learning. It is our go-to virtual library. Knowledge is practically at our fingertips, and just a click away. It’s that simple to enrich our mind.</p><p>Unfortunately, there are still many among the older generation who think they are beyond learning anything new.</p><p>We seniors have to make the effort to learn digital tools. It is not as daunting as we think. YouTube is an excellent source of learning skills for those whose learning preference is visual rather than textual. You can learn practically anything under the sun, all with just a laptop and a stable internet connection.</p><p>There is really no excuse at all for not making the effort to learn because of our age.</p><p><b>Benefits of Lifelong Learning</b></p><p>Use it, or lose it: That applies to our brains as well. If we continue to use our brain, we are exercising it, stimulating it to think, to analyse, to reason, to stay mentally sharp. Learning new things throughout our lifetime can help reduce the risk of Alzheimer’s disease. Our memory improves when we challenge it with learning new skills. Learning something new also boosts self-esteem. When we learn a new skill, we feel a sense of achievement and pride. When we add a new qualification to our name, we earn respect from others. More doors are open to us for employment.</p><p></p><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjYHcMLPPiQ6fNiYOsgi7gT-C0jN9ErmNIO10QN-3JLnpfRVOIxoggIH6ON7yIVu50jKPT3p1uHxp3N0iur0fLciYiY3tdmWuSFCavtr55ytQuQ3lJgM2RcB-3LjMenKhdhRTmBk8t-_IBPNthBpxbNV9lkDp9YKkMKSm2Sl9uQYMVmqDSHpJ1NRn1xxLk/s575/IMG-20191212-WA0103.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="385" data-original-width="575" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjYHcMLPPiQ6fNiYOsgi7gT-C0jN9ErmNIO10QN-3JLnpfRVOIxoggIH6ON7yIVu50jKPT3p1uHxp3N0iur0fLciYiY3tdmWuSFCavtr55ytQuQ3lJgM2RcB-3LjMenKhdhRTmBk8t-_IBPNthBpxbNV9lkDp9YKkMKSm2Sl9uQYMVmqDSHpJ1NRn1xxLk/s16000/IMG-20191212-WA0103.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>Learning a new skill - at the 24-drums class with other seniors, enjoying the fun and camaraderie of group learning</i></td></tr></tbody></table><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">For me personally, I enjoy the supportive social environment that comes with learning together with others. We form new friendships that are essential for our health and well-being. This is especially important for seniors who live alone or are dealing with stressful events. Going for hikes with friends can turn into a lesson on discovering wild flowers and rare mushrooms.</div><p></p><p>Visiting a museum or an exhibition can expand our knowledge. Attending a workshop on ChatGPT can help keep us abreast of the latest in digital tools. Everything and anything can be turned into a learning experience if we see it as such. There really is no excuse not to make use of the resources and opportunities available to us to remain mentally sharp as we age. Not doing so may earn us the label that is so often applied to older people – senile or nyanyok.</p><p>(This <b><a href="https://www.thestar.com.my/lifestyle/family/2023/08/30/seniors-ditch-age-old-stereotypes-and-live-your-best-lives?fbclid=IwAR3gP2ytW5LloHz1lP0O8UTMVzE1QGesnBqABd0oc8P_FCgeW1VVjafUWyo">article</a></b> was first published on 30 August 2023 in The Star under 'Grey Matters', a monthly column that focuses on issues and topics of interest and relevance to older persons. Some of my pictures have been added in this blog version to illustrate that age is no barrier to learning.)</p><p><i>Lily Fu is a gerontologist who advocates for seniors. She is founder of SeniorsAloud, an online platform for seniors to get connected and enjoy social activities for ageing well.</i></p>seniorsaloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15349552912264950538noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2398906867139907280.post-2236860251601061162023-08-07T10:18:00.003+08:002023-08-07T10:18:47.631+08:00GROWING OLD TOGETHER...OR NOT<p><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjFhDCweARzUY936MbP7xQUJ1dG2r3DE47So9f1aMy2AtmMBJhhYjB-YTJwAMeuev0B58LZsSgVMPKv897IY03bpuJnxiM1MVNHPvaN_NVlV3hkxWQMZtYs9ToBCiKKGbH15B2MqfI7VcTM7ikg9tXdjrdhozP7jf6fDWhPmKca9nRUmQvuSfNfCQvk7Uc/s580/2215165.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="386" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjFhDCweARzUY936MbP7xQUJ1dG2r3DE47So9f1aMy2AtmMBJhhYjB-YTJwAMeuev0B58LZsSgVMPKv897IY03bpuJnxiM1MVNHPvaN_NVlV3hkxWQMZtYs9ToBCiKKGbH15B2MqfI7VcTM7ikg9tXdjrdhozP7jf6fDWhPmKca9nRUmQvuSfNfCQvk7Uc/s16000/2215165.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: left;"><i>But being together 24/7 could also result in daily acrimonious exchanges, with the couple getting on each other’s nerves. (Photo: Josh Felise/Unsplash)</i></td></tr></tbody></table></p><p>‘To love and to hold, till death do us part’. </p><p>Those were the days when marriage was a sacred institution. Marriages then were meant to last a lifetime.</p><p>Even when death took away one partner, the other would remain faithful till the end. Couples stayed together because they took their marriage vows seriously, especially if they married in a place of worship and exchanged vows before God. My mother remained a widow for 64 years after my father passed away at a very young age.</p><p>In this digital age, with freer social interaction between the sexes, and with online dating sites easily available, remaining faithful to one person for the rest of one’s life seems to be strictly for the firm believer in fairy tales of the genre ‘... and they lived happily ever after’.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgBBPy8tNGmn89orJpMeazbdQpW8WhzN1ggmOai3wI3qz7DEwdFZExoVM-2NTbEZkZccCoONv1Ypv8H3d2q_hbVDgJWtTl-1ceddiBXryBrKedtjr_7S8qNyS3y87i-3dMRMl4kwSx_H49dBaR3H1zEAln0eic7KALdktfUihec7QHHTpFSfcqux2tEs_0/s580/seniorsaloud%20(10).jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="326" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgBBPy8tNGmn89orJpMeazbdQpW8WhzN1ggmOai3wI3qz7DEwdFZExoVM-2NTbEZkZccCoONv1Ypv8H3d2q_hbVDgJWtTl-1ceddiBXryBrKedtjr_7S8qNyS3y87i-3dMRMl4kwSx_H49dBaR3H1zEAln0eic7KALdktfUihec7QHHTpFSfcqux2tEs_0/s16000/seniorsaloud%20(10).jpg" /></a></div><p>Silver or grey divorces are on the rise. Asian societies have generally become more open to divorces.</p><p>Divorcees and single mothers are no longer stigmatised by family and friends. Children have become more accepting of their parents’ divorce.</p><p>The retirement years for empty nesters can make or break a marriage. When the children have flown the nest, one would think that is the best time for married couples to enjoy each other’s company. Having the whole house to themselves means having the peace and privacy to rekindle the romance that was relegated to the back-burner when the children were growing up.</p><p>But being together 24/7 could also result in daily acrimonious exchanges, with the couple getting on each other’s nerves. This was one of the possible explanations for the spike in non-Muslim divorce cases during the Covid pandemic when people were told to remain at home and not go out unless necessary.</p><p>According to National Statistics Department’s latest figures, non-Muslim divorces increased by 30.4% from 9,419 to 12,284 during Covid from 2020 to 2021.</p><p><b>Losing that loving feeling</b></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg1BpoLI0rkq9GDxqpmZ1tfbqOXPn2QM4WA36jpqUdqFAIxp4KGO75yqDX6q2bemA0HEGBaeVko_57ZaMD5Clpwyb9PaMZIM80c8ldQrNiJjv6n1Ca5sXV3PR3rR3-ySR462jAXJjGrc2H6RI2Bfj8sQwpl6t3G9jf6QAvDjNDz1VQdSifHbZuEHXtWGmo/s580/article-0-1AF15522000005DC-92_634x424.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="390" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg1BpoLI0rkq9GDxqpmZ1tfbqOXPn2QM4WA36jpqUdqFAIxp4KGO75yqDX6q2bemA0HEGBaeVko_57ZaMD5Clpwyb9PaMZIM80c8ldQrNiJjv6n1Ca5sXV3PR3rR3-ySR462jAXJjGrc2H6RI2Bfj8sQwpl6t3G9jf6QAvDjNDz1VQdSifHbZuEHXtWGmo/s16000/article-0-1AF15522000005DC-92_634x424.jpg" /></a></div><p>For many senior couples, that old loving feeling is long gone, only to be replaced by a deep sense of loneliness, of unfulfilment and even regret at the realisation that perhaps their spouse is not that someone they want to spend the rest of their life with.</p><p>The situation is made worse when one partner has sexual needs that cannot or will not be met by the other partner.</p><p>Divorces are usually messy, ugly and expensive. The only winners are the lawyers. There is no point in saving a marriage that may have started off in heaven, but that has since quickly descended into marital hell.</p><p>Sure, there are couples who are blessed to have found their “soulmate” to share their lives with. But for many middle-aged couples, they are more likely to find themselves stuck in an unhappy marriage, wondering what happened to that sweetheart they loved and married so many years ago.</p><p>This is especially true for women in their 50s and 60s who feel trapped in their marriage. Emboldened by the rising number of silver-haired divorces they read about, they no longer think twice about initiating divorce proceedings. They no longer feel pressured to keep up a pretense of a happy marriage. They no longer fear facing the future alone.</p><p>Now better educated and able to support themselves financially, many divorcees are enjoying the single life again, or entering into new relationships. And with the children all grown and independent, there is even less reason for them to remain in the role of the long-suffering wife, especially if their husband has been unfaithful or abusive to them.</p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg7loiyHBbL1_8uifhEcTxRoY6FvZS4vxqO8DoORyQFBnmMlkqBlHoNpeHWw3Nk6Aq9N8gCxGyOspkopnyzHnltCSPF0Q8bs8w6FP-zmJm3IJhVm_fonpYspUkud25LVRmA6zJyW1wf0Bt9wlBRHphvhK2tTOQ44LIuqR2a-Q5kyRjsTeJFHf1RD2f2Lv4/s668/10-I-didn-t-expect-you-to-live-this-long-cartoon.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="668" data-original-width="554" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg7loiyHBbL1_8uifhEcTxRoY6FvZS4vxqO8DoORyQFBnmMlkqBlHoNpeHWw3Nk6Aq9N8gCxGyOspkopnyzHnltCSPF0Q8bs8w6FP-zmJm3IJhVm_fonpYspUkud25LVRmA6zJyW1wf0Bt9wlBRHphvhK2tTOQ44LIuqR2a-Q5kyRjsTeJFHf1RD2f2Lv4/s320/10-I-didn-t-expect-you-to-live-this-long-cartoon.jpg" width="265" /></a></div>To be fair, there are husbands who want to leave their wives too. Some women are no angels, and do cheat on their husbands. Others are gold-diggers or title-seekers. Still others are so insecure, they become overly jealous and possessive of their husband, while many are born naggers, constantly harping on their husbands’ perceived faults. Such women can make marriage a living hell for their husband.<p></p><p>If it’s the man who initiates the divorce, it’s usually because of another woman who has re-kindled the spark of passion in him. Few men would want to divorce their wives who have brought up the children and provided them with all the comforts of home.</p><p>Even if these men have lost physical and emotional interest in their wives over the years, they would still want to remain married.</p><p>Couples who split amicably can choose to live separately without going through a divorce. They can still remain friends and enjoy family reunion dinners and outings. There should be no regret or bitterness on both sides. Forgive, forget and move on.</p><p>Women are no longer fixated on finding a husband before they get “too old”. Men are just as happy to remain eligible bachelors. We know friends who are happy to remain single if they have not found a kindred spirit to spend the rest of their lives with.</p><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgAqjFupdToTYY2syDYWNm4Juk248Wf4rxGy5QeUa9n06jOVHiTUWqK6ynmplvKnmQtMEOO3HE17nt8M1SoM5luR8p82BRRhdNaOMPjawCdh8B8ufEWLGVg7bgkmlTaprYPyt9_Fl9s3jJNeU7H_yB-wYzASx6sAKcR0ryjVrRNDIfM3G7kF6v33NDFI6w/s783/July%20-%20Copy.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="783" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgAqjFupdToTYY2syDYWNm4Juk248Wf4rxGy5QeUa9n06jOVHiTUWqK6ynmplvKnmQtMEOO3HE17nt8M1SoM5luR8p82BRRhdNaOMPjawCdh8B8ufEWLGVg7bgkmlTaprYPyt9_Fl9s3jJNeU7H_yB-wYzASx6sAKcR0ryjVrRNDIfM3G7kF6v33NDFI6w/s16000/July%20-%20Copy.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: left;"><i>Datuk Dr Khairuddin Yusof and Datin Khairiah are an example of a happily married couple who've journeyed through live together. (Photo: DR KHAIRUDDIN YUSOF)</i></td></tr></tbody></table><p>On the bright side, there are couples who have enjoyed marital bliss from their wedding day till the present day. These are truly marriages made in heaven, that no one and nothing can break asunder. These are rock-solid marriages, not marriages on the rocks. These happily married couples would be the first to tell you that it takes a lot of “give-and-take” and sacrifices to make a marriage work.</p><p>It is a milestone, an enviable achievement, when couples celebrate their golden wedding anniversary together. It’s a rarity too.</p><p>Given the changing times and the liberal social norms of today, the odds are heavily stacked against young couples to stay happily married for the rest of their lives.</p><p>When we look at young married couples, including our own adult children, we can only pray in our hearts that they will “love and honour each other for as long as they shall live”. Given the longer life span today, that could mean the next 40-50 years of their lives.</p><p>All newly-weds want their marriage to work. They want to grow old together.</p><p>Here are some tips for a long-lasting marriage. Remember it takes a lot of work for both parties.</p><p>1. Appreciate your spouse and show it with little acts of love.</p><p>2. Communicate. Share your feelings, your views, and your worries.</p><p>3. Continue to have sex and intimacy. Have weekly dates.</p><p>4. Never criticise or humiliate your spouse in front of others.</p><p>5. Have realistic expectations of each other.</p><p>6. Embrace your differences.</p><p>7. Have your own pursuits as well as shared ones.</p><p>8. Learn from each other, and respect each other.</p><p>9. Support each other in maintaining an active healthy lifestyle.</p><p>10. There will come a time when one spouse will pass on before the other. So cherish every moment spent together. </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgIehaOcgEIBWEByLemSTuLe0hX2xKC8sqZDcxronVVua4d_rQVwZl5PDADEVau3W74pkzKhn36IMVdUlA5swKzOUR9HBUQvjg4V4UyzcI_QIyfVxwqCt71VJMIq7F1U3je7J53jWBvDmGrejxIVMm8HyEUQlKvgTcwez-2wIZD423HQruDnKtcZdp0h0o/s805/Screenshot_20230802_194655%20-%20Copy.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="805" data-original-width="580" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgIehaOcgEIBWEByLemSTuLe0hX2xKC8sqZDcxronVVua4d_rQVwZl5PDADEVau3W74pkzKhn36IMVdUlA5swKzOUR9HBUQvjg4V4UyzcI_QIyfVxwqCt71VJMIq7F1U3je7J53jWBvDmGrejxIVMm8HyEUQlKvgTcwez-2wIZD423HQruDnKtcZdp0h0o/w289-h400/Screenshot_20230802_194655%20-%20Copy.jpg" width="289" /></a></div><p>The print copy was published on 2 Aug, and the online edition on 5 Aug. Some images have been added for this version. The Star article can be accessed at </p><p><b><a href="https://www.thestar.com.my/lifestyle/family/2023/08/05/growing-old-together-or-not/">https://www.thestar.com.my/lifestyle/family/2023/08/05/growing-old-together-or-not/</a></b></p><p><i>Lily Fu is a gerontologist who advocates for seniors. She is founder of SeniorsAloud, an online platform for seniors to get connected and enjoy social activities for ageing well.</i></p>seniorsaloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15349552912264950538noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2398906867139907280.post-46224598301972992582023-07-19T19:23:00.000+08:002023-07-19T19:23:03.980+08:00LIVE TO 100? WHY NOT!<p><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj_7TAYbp7IdDD3DaMiruCPV-Q8P6dIo_2bmnAr0yw6HLF025rffzrSdnmB8xB0n6ngv2M9SPjYDvhrth2Zj0W-bS5wxj8U296-1bsaE-4CdOYEeysRQKQ6efwFlQ6MJfOTqrnoU_qrhPE2HKLxAUurb1ZRISNgyZWxYdM2EIuIPFeTYmLoA6PitIYJR3k/s580/2160708.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="386" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj_7TAYbp7IdDD3DaMiruCPV-Q8P6dIo_2bmnAr0yw6HLF025rffzrSdnmB8xB0n6ngv2M9SPjYDvhrth2Zj0W-bS5wxj8U296-1bsaE-4CdOYEeysRQKQ6efwFlQ6MJfOTqrnoU_qrhPE2HKLxAUurb1ZRISNgyZWxYdM2EIuIPFeTYmLoA6PitIYJR3k/s16000/2160708.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>The very fact that the retirement age keeps rising is one indication that longevity is here to stay. Photo: 123rf.com</i></td></tr></tbody></table></p><div style="text-align: left;"> “75 is good enough for me!”</div><p>This response never fails to surprise me whenever I pose this question to my friends: How long would you like to live? Rarely do I hear someone say, 100.</p><p>Even as a hypothetical question, those who say they want to live as long as they can usually qualify it with “must be still in good health and of sound mind”.</p><p>Of course, we are not talking about living to a ripe old age frail, senile and bed-bound. No one would want to live that long without quality of life. Life is precious. It is a gift. We want to cling to it for as long as we can. And it is entirely up to us, our responsibility to ensure we remain reasonably fit and well as we enter advanced age. The golden years should not be a misnomer.</p><p>I am 75 now. I definitely want to stick around to see my grandchildren graduate, get married and be blessed to cradle in my arms my first-born great-grandchild. How could anyone not want such joys in life?</p><p>Many of my friends are in their 70s, 80s and even 90s. All of us feel we are in our second prime, still fit, vibrant and energetic. And full of zest for life.</p><p>There was a time when centenarians were so rare in Japan, on their birthdays they would receive a silver sake dish or sakazuki from the government. When this practice was introduced in 1963, there were only 153 centenarians. By 2014, the number had increased to almost 30,000! This practice was eventually discontinued in 2015.</p><p>Each generation lives longer and better than the previous one. My mum was 95 when she passed on. According to the National Registration Department census, Malaysia had a total of 43,599 centenarians in 2015. That number would have gone way up by now. In 2020, 109-year-old Annamah Abukutty entered Malaysia’s Book of Records as the oldest living woman in Malaysia. She was hale and hearty and able to give a lucid interview on Star TV.</p><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh4vEAF7yYLvr808MuVrLpEynpiImaDQGuCYIyhzdepxICCp9iqMePb07UUwX-O3As16FHhPwe7Co4-nZRKJd3WJR8l6sd2qY0hXUm3egZk3Coi0tkd3OkmruMVQtXGkiUItrNw9kePwOBKc-CUJMLJAVKIjtEwz3SEGg3aQv6EPS89TLxcAy2747uRwUA/s717/2160703.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="717" data-original-width="480" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh4vEAF7yYLvr808MuVrLpEynpiImaDQGuCYIyhzdepxICCp9iqMePb07UUwX-O3As16FHhPwe7Co4-nZRKJd3WJR8l6sd2qY0hXUm3egZk3Coi0tkd3OkmruMVQtXGkiUItrNw9kePwOBKc-CUJMLJAVKIjtEwz3SEGg3aQv6EPS89TLxcAy2747uRwUA/s16000/2160703.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>Teresa Tsu at 112 enjoying the thrill of kite-flying. - BELLE LEE</i></td></tr></tbody></table><p>The oldest person I met was already 110 when I first met her in October 2008 at a talk she was giving on “How to live to 110”. She was my inspiration for my work in the seniors’ community. We remained in touch till she passed on at 113. Her mantra was laughter – the ability to take life lightly. To her, laughter was anytime preferable to tears.</p><p>The very fact that the retirement age keeps rising is one indication that longevity is here to stay. Studies show that a child born today in developed countries is expected to live to 150. Biochemist and gerontologist Aubrey de Grey came out in the 1990s with his conviction that living forever is possible once we have conquered age-related diseases such as cancer, stroke, dementia, diabetes, osteoporosis and atherosclerosis.</p><p>Since then, research and study into the science of ageing has exploded. In 2013, Google started the R&D company Calico, and invested over a billion dollars into life extension research. Coming up is the Longevity Summit in Dublin from Aug 17 to 20. It will be a showcase for the most up-to-date research and innovations in the longevity industry.</p><p>In Singapore, the Tsao Foundation held a Longevity Forum in May 2023. Founding director of Stanford Centre on Longevity, Prof Laura Cartensen, who delivered the keynote address, spoke of the need to match healthspan with lifespan. Experts attending the conference felt that businesses, the government and society in general should start preparing for the longevity future. Singapore will reach super-aged status in 2026.</p><p>Welcome to longevity. Living to 100 will be the norm by 2050. It is no longer a pipe dream, and there is no need to seek the proverbial fountain of youth. Thanks to advances in health, nutrition, medical care, education, technology and public awareness of what constitutes healthy living, we are not only living longer, but living better and looking younger than our chronological age. Videos of amazing seniors in their 80s and 90s working out, modelling clothes and enjoying life in full have gone viral on social media. The number of “granfluencers” on Tik Tok is growing.</p><p>The next obvious question is: How do we ensure we live up to 100 still physically fit and mentally sound as when we were in our 40s?</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiWMlqlAyq8aWYRM02o6d3US2QzpU5AdC1CE4__SwQRRThFF5IGvNzOzm58Gc-vC2tDle1W4DJg3kFj4xSdHs4L3u6bqREjiaYY5A5EsD4-JiZbzMA_Zb845v2Xl_j-to4QreBsC3K28nAM9wfYjnoDBMcOPj919_I2lW5CAbhNXgUBoimvMPp24-dr1DA/s580/blue-zones.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="246" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiWMlqlAyq8aWYRM02o6d3US2QzpU5AdC1CE4__SwQRRThFF5IGvNzOzm58Gc-vC2tDle1W4DJg3kFj4xSdHs4L3u6bqREjiaYY5A5EsD4-JiZbzMA_Zb845v2Xl_j-to4QreBsC3K28nAM9wfYjnoDBMcOPj919_I2lW5CAbhNXgUBoimvMPp24-dr1DA/s16000/blue-zones.jpg" /></a></div><p>In 2009, I came across a National Geographic article by Dan Buettner. He identified five places in the world which he called Blue Zones where people live the longest, and are healthiest: Okinawa, Japan; Sardinia, Italy; Nicoya, Costa Rica; Ikaria, Greece, and Loma Linda, California.</p><p>Obviously, these are places and cultures foreign to most of us. But we can adapt some of the findings from Buettner’s seminal study, and from a simple survey I did of the Malaysian and Singaporean super agers I know.</p><p>Here’s a list of “pillars” of ageing well. Most are familiar to us, but remember: No action, no results.</p><p>1. There are NO obese centenarians. So, let’s watch our weight and don’t overeat. Stop when we are 80% full.</p><p>2. Choose “forks over knives” (watch the excellent documentary of the same title). Go for a plant-based diet that includes nuts and whole grains.</p><p>3. Treat ourselves to a glass or two of red wine a day. Asians prefer tea. It is a good anti-oxidant too.</p><p>4. Know our purpose in life (ikigai) and be driven by it. Volunteering for a good cause is just as meaningful.</p><p>5. Have an anchor, a belief system – spiritual or religious. Many seniors turn to religion not only for refuge and comfort, but also to prepare for the next and final chapter of life.</p><p>6. Learn to relax and enjoy life. Nothing is worth losing sleep or friendship over. Forgive, forget, and move on.</p><p>7. Keep physically and mentally active. Top of the list are brisk walking, strength training and brain stimulating exercises. Supplement with some taiji or yoga for balance and fall prevention.</p><p>8. Be part of a healthy social network. Lack of social engagements, especially for seniors living alone, may lead to loneliness and depression, and a tendency for suicidal thoughts.</p><p>9. Maintain good family ties. Enjoy family celebrations and reunions. This is a big boost to our wellbeing.</p><p>So, the question again: “Is it worth living to 100?” My answer is a resounding Yes!</p><p><i>The above article written by LILY FU was first published in Star Silver pullout of The Star on Wed 5 July 2023. The link is at</i> <b><a href="https://www.thestar.com.my/lifestyle/family/2023/07/05/live-to100-why-not?">https://www.thestar.com.my/lifestyle/family/2023/07/05/live-to100-why-not?</a></b></p>seniorsaloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15349552912264950538noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2398906867139907280.post-28073246864914888522023-06-23T17:48:00.003+08:002023-06-23T17:51:23.914+08:00FINDING FULFILMENT IN RETIREMENT<p><span style="font-size: medium;"></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhGNHWFN9HKmWcSzvFOMWbPevltfXp48bC-EEiDxo1XctK-XlyKhbtkH0SFFxhYQiwjkIcgGaN6kCc4BTbeT_lW7l1b-6ZcMimjaO1YePnnTg0PnjyRmVuU5x3iWnhpnrpNMaYRUhDdTvY_dGcvFzER0meXlODigtFWJLrs8kELecW7-FWw394PRteI3fg/s1102/photo_6323142684323197861_y.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1102" data-original-width="869" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhGNHWFN9HKmWcSzvFOMWbPevltfXp48bC-EEiDxo1XctK-XlyKhbtkH0SFFxhYQiwjkIcgGaN6kCc4BTbeT_lW7l1b-6ZcMimjaO1YePnnTg0PnjyRmVuU5x3iWnhpnrpNMaYRUhDdTvY_dGcvFzER0meXlODigtFWJLrs8kELecW7-FWw394PRteI3fg/w504-h640/photo_6323142684323197861_y.jpg" width="504" /></a></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><br /></span></div><i style="font-size: large;">'Volunteering in community service may be the missing piece that completes our overall well-being and contentment in retirement'</i><p></p><p><b><span style="font-size: large;">Grey </span><span style="font-size: large;">Matters b</span><span style="font-size: large;">y Lily Fu</span></b></p><p>Eat, sleep, wake. Repeat. Eat, sleep, wake. Ad infinitum. Doing what we like, living how we want, and no one to answer to. Bliss! But sooner or later, we will wake up one morning feeling something is missing in our lives. The hours ahead seem stretched. Day in, day out, it’s the same old routine. Retirement is turning out to be one big yawn.</p><p>Once we have got over the initial joy of being master of our time, harsh reality sets in. While some find they are busier (not necessarily happier) than ever in retirement, there are those among us who complain about the long endless days of boredom, with nothing exciting or fulfilling to occupy them. Beyond looking after their grandchildren, going shopping, playing golf, travelling, watching TV, meeting up with friends, indulging in their hobbies or learning something new, what else is there? </p><p>Is this all there is to living life to the fullest in our retirement years?</p><p>When we have the rest of our lives ahead of us, what would make us look forward to welcoming each new day? How does one get to find meaning in life, that elusive ‘ikigai’, that ‘raison d’etre’?</p><p>Perhaps we could borrow Marie Kondo's tagline 'spark joy', not so much to declutter our homes although that would certainly help when we downsize our home, and give away the bulk of our possessions accumulated over the years, but to apply the same concept to finding something that would spark joy in our lives.</p><p>Some have found pleasure in activities such as gardening, painting and writing at home. But these are primarily solitary activities. They spark joy only in us. Why not take it one level higher, one step further to also spark joy in others by sharing, caring and giving to others?</p><p>Can we be truly happy and at peace with ourselves while there are so many people out there needing help, and so many causes out there that could do with our support?</p><p>Being financially well-off does not guarantee happiness or peace of mind. We know that. Even the rich may feel a void in their lives, an emptiness that needs to be filled with something they have yet to discover. This is why many billionaires turn philanthropists when they approach their senior years. They know they can’t bring their wealth with them when they depart on what my mom euphemistically refers to as ‘a world cruise with no return date’. It makes them feel good to use their wealth for altruistic purposes. Many set up foundations to offer scholarships to deserving students and grants to promising start-ups.</p><p>Ordinary folks like us can contribute too.</p><p>For those of us with some money to spare, we can donate to a deserving charity or to a noble cause. Even RM10 can go a long way if many contribute. Some charities such as Hospice Malaysia, Alzheimer’s Disease Foundation Malaysia (ADFM), Malaysian Association for the Blind would welcome our help. Not all of us can afford to donate money, but we can certainly give our time, our energy, our experience, our talents/skill to help where it is needed. There are so many ways we can give back to society, including donating blood, even donating our bodies for research in University of Malaya’s ‘Silent Mentor’ programme. </p><p>We could offer to help at animal shelters, soup kitchens, recycling centres, community gardens and many more. Temples, churches and mosques welcome volunteers to help out with their community service projects. If we have a skill, why not make use of it to do something for the community? Retired teachers can offer to give free tuition. Retired nurses can volunteer at community clinics or old folk’s homes. It is never more rewarding than putting a lifetime’s accumulated wisdom and experience to good use at one’s golden age. And if we have more than what we need, to give some to others who have much less.</p><p>Camie Choo, 61, winner of the Tender-Hearted category in the ‘Be a Star Beyond 50’ campaign (organised by The Star in collaboration with Nutren Optimum by Nestle Health Science), is a fine example of a senior who made use of her excellent sewing skills to sew 1000 facial masks during the Covid-19 pandemic to raise funds for SPCA Selangor. She is currently sewing hats for sale with proceeds going to Cheshire Home to train those with disabilities to be independent.</p><p>There is Kamil Yusof, 72, who regularly delivers food and essential items to families living in low-cost PPR flats. Twin sisters Choke Ling and Choke Wun, 79, help out regularly at Kebun-Kebun Bangsar community garden. </p><p>There is no end to appeals for volunteers, but not many will respond. </p><p>The best gifts are those that are meaningful, that light up the recipients' face and bring joy to their hearts. Indeed, giving to those in need shouldn't be restricted to festive seasons, but whenever the opportunity arises to help.</p><p>Doing good generates positive effects on our physical and mental health. Our time is gainfully occupied, and we experience a sense of greater self-worth. </p><p>Nothing is more satisfying and more rewarding than being able to help others who are in need. Volunteering in community service gives purpose and meaning to our golden years. It is the missing piece that completes our overall well-being and contentment in retirement.</p><p>If tables were turned, wouldn’t we wish for help from others? Kindness begets kindness. Let’s spread more of that. The world certainly needs it.</p>seniorsaloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15349552912264950538noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2398906867139907280.post-25844306014926313802023-05-23T22:40:00.000+08:002023-05-23T22:40:18.067+08:00IS THERE A RIGHT AGE TO RETIRE?<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEimlHThPGycVCXccOKQBoDYXFchn-vtD5OJKpZZRf9Rvi-ThkDlIKaokZ8vdQ8t_HvDp-YeYWdXjHmpocesTHHw6V_BzRoA1Y21VB1yU4fUeFs29EBdVi690BS8h-yF67FtiZOd-dDcUyTCShtM6Ea2KYw19PfjxvUTrUUhLZxKdkCT2vyc-edi2Nx0/s580/2064681.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="385" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEimlHThPGycVCXccOKQBoDYXFchn-vtD5OJKpZZRf9Rvi-ThkDlIKaokZ8vdQ8t_HvDp-YeYWdXjHmpocesTHHw6V_BzRoA1Y21VB1yU4fUeFs29EBdVi690BS8h-yF67FtiZOd-dDcUyTCShtM6Ea2KYw19PfjxvUTrUUhLZxKdkCT2vyc-edi2Nx0/s16000/2064681.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: #dae4ef; color: #4a4a4a; font-family: Lato, Arial, Helvetica, Arial, Tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 13.008px; font-weight: 600; text-align: start;">One idea to consider is to let workers decide for themselves and be given the option to work as long as they are able to, or need to, says gerontologist Lily Fu. Photo: 123rf.com</span></td></tr></tbody></table><p><span style="background-color: white; color: #4a4a4a; font-family: Lato, Arial, Helvetica, Arial, Tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 15.2px;"><b>Thursday, 11 May 2023</b></span></p><p><span style="background-color: white; font-size: 15.2px;"><span style="color: #4a4a4a; font-family: Lato, Arial, Helvetica, Arial, Tahoma, sans-serif;"><b>By LILY FU</b></span></span></p><p>Former PM Tun Mahathir, once jokingly said the new retirement age in Malaysia will be 95 when he hands over his premiership to his successor. That was in 2018. He may have said it in jest but at the rate our demography chart is changing, Malaysia will reach ageing nation status by 2030, when we will see more people working well into their 70s. This is inevitable.</p><p>When the Employees Provident Fund (EPF) was set up in 1951, life expectancy then, believe it or not, was 55! With the retirement age set at 55, lump sum EPF withdrawals would be more than sufficient to sustain contributors through the short retirement period. We now know those figures were way off the mark. Advances in science, medicine and technology have drastically extended life span. Life expectancy in Malaysia currently stands at 76, and is set to rise further in the years ahead. 60 is the new 40, and living to a ripe old age of 80 and beyond is fast becoming the norm.</p><p>But what good is a longer life span if we do not have sufficient savings to enjoy those extra years? According to EPF figures, 51.5% of its 6.67 million members under the age of 55 have less than Rm10,000 savings. EPF’s 2019 Expenditure Guide for Malaysian individuals and families in the Klang estimates that an elderly couple living in the Klang Valley would need at least RM3090 a month for living expenses, or at least RM240,000 in savings by the time they retire at 55. With prices escalating and inflation showing no sign of abating, for those living in the urban areas, this figure will be grossly inadequate in the years to come.</p><p>With longer life span, retirees in their 60s-70s have elderly parents in their 80s-90s to look after. Long term age care alone for their parents will eat up whatever savings they may have. What about their own medical and healthcare expenses? The family structure has changed so drastically that parents can no longer expect their adult children to support them in their old age. Family size has shrunk, and with the grown children moving out to work or settle elsewhere, older couples are often left to fend for themselves.</p><p>That is why more and more retirees are returning to work life almost immediately after retirement. And older workers want to continue working past 60. Except for those with ample savings, most older workers especially those from the lower socio-economic group can ill-afford to stop working. </p><p>But getting a job is easier said than done. Older workers face age discrimination in the workplace. Unless they have skills that are highly sought after, and unless the government offers a helping hand to retrain and upskill older workers, many have difficulty re-entering the job market once they have left it. It certainly doesn’t help when the public has a negative perception of older persons as frail, senile and a burden to support.</p><p>We are moving rapidly into an ageing society. Businesses that deal with retail, travel and hospitality, for example, would do well to employ more silver-haired staff to cater to customers in the older age group. Indeed, older people make good workers. Here’s why.</p><p>They are mature and conscientious. They are committed to their job, and do not job-hop. They have excellent people skills, and are experienced in handling crisis and emergencies. Older customers definitely feel more comfortable with older sales personnel who understand their needs and tastes much better. They are also more patient and confident in handling customers’ requests or complaints.</p><p>On the other hand, unless they have much-needed skills or expertise, older workers seeking to re-enter the workforce should not be too picky about job offers and be prepared to accept lower remunerations and fewer benefits.</p><p>In acknowledging the plight of retirees and those nearing retirement age, the government has sought to increase job opportunities by offering tax incentives for employers hiring older Malaysians. More companies are offering pre-retirement courses to help their soon-to-retire employees prepare for the years ahead. Whether this will make a significant difference remains to be seen.</p><p>One thing is for certain - we can expect the retirement age to continue going up in tandem with the rise in life expectancy. In developed countries such as Singapore and Japan, life expectancy is 82.8 and 84.8 respectively. The retirement age is moving towards 65. Former PM of Singapore, Lee Kuan Yew, famously said that 'retirement means death', and was in favour of doing away with the retirement age.</p><p>Let workers decide for themselves. They should be given the option to work as long as they are able to, or need to. </p><p>As it is, we are already complaining about escalating prices and soaring expenses. With inflation eating into our nest egg, we just have to keep on bringing home the bacon, especially if we have college-going children and elderly parents to support. </p><p>When older workers continue working, everyone benefits. The older workers themselves can remain self-supporting. For young people, they can be thankful that their working parents can fend for themselves and not be a financial burden to them. The government can save billions that would otherwise have to be spent on welfare aid for older citizens. Companies will be able to address labour shortage by hiring from a big pool of mature workers.</p><p>So, whichever way we look at the situation, the retirement age will have to be raised. The likelihood of doing away with a retirement age altogether will gain traction in the years ahead. Let's just hope it won't reach a situation where we have to work until we drop dead!</p><p><i>(The above <b><a href="https://www.thestar.com.my/lifestyle/family/2023/05/11/is-there-a-right-age-to-retire?fbclid=IwAR26C7wcohsIjLQD1R36hW2rezkmcSUyfXey1OPIUpL-4KrIKqDfntkFYs0#.ZFzHVaC4-ck.facebook">article</a></b> was first published in <b><a href="https://www.thestar.com.my/">The Star</a></b> under the monthly column 'GREY MATTERS'.)</i></p>seniorsaloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15349552912264950538noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2398906867139907280.post-14171603154851118702023-04-29T23:22:00.003+08:002023-04-29T23:24:41.762+08:00A CRYING NEED FOR A DEPARTMENT OF AGEING TO TAKE CARE OF OUR ELDERLY<p></p><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEitzTPWdA4a98RGxR_rSFoBnHw3RH104mrp-l46BNZANEAJxlFf3sERtGKUgSHhUbXq81SrDNqPkMe0wHqLmAjGT8vR8HC859k2I4jcQ-QfpjSbiTVId51pySyQObuwmQTpQWZF4dO7k_zLx6IrkhRQybk26pqMM13tZW6U8pcBTFzEVDHQj5RtQaur/s580/2021405.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="386" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEitzTPWdA4a98RGxR_rSFoBnHw3RH104mrp-l46BNZANEAJxlFf3sERtGKUgSHhUbXq81SrDNqPkMe0wHqLmAjGT8vR8HC859k2I4jcQ-QfpjSbiTVId51pySyQObuwmQTpQWZF4dO7k_zLx6IrkhRQybk26pqMM13tZW6U8pcBTFzEVDHQj5RtQaur/s16000/2021405.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><span face="Lato, Arial, Helvetica, Arial, Tahoma, sans-serif" style="background-color: #dae4ef; color: #4a4a4a; font-size: 13.008px; font-weight: 600; text-align: left;">Unless we have prepared well, the years after retirement can be far from golden. — 123rf.com</span></td></tr></tbody></table><p></p><div style="text-align: left;"><i>by LILY FU</i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i>Wednesday 12 April 2023</i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="text-align: left;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhmXT1SMiscDctWTcQdTW45fmBkWe-_tzQER0ZltmoRvEJEdKe6UZJ6wTU9bt-fyCbQdA-Bfo8SvnzmaSjVuLhkdFmqYnUZD4lOxkKGOtUqgCiHzVH4LrJ9Zpe4lFV3j4gSZIVRc3IsICRmWaQZD-Jj2MllHqk7Yq9eEPpxm-ebVKvHbBUp5gU0H1XE/s1253/lily.jpg" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1253" data-original-width="1080" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhmXT1SMiscDctWTcQdTW45fmBkWe-_tzQER0ZltmoRvEJEdKe6UZJ6wTU9bt-fyCbQdA-Bfo8SvnzmaSjVuLhkdFmqYnUZD4lOxkKGOtUqgCiHzVH4LrJ9Zpe4lFV3j4gSZIVRc3IsICRmWaQZD-Jj2MllHqk7Yq9eEPpxm-ebVKvHbBUp5gU0H1XE/w173-h200/lily.jpg" width="173" /></a>Working folks envy their colleagues who have retired. No more nine to five, no more taking orders from the boss, no more stress from meeting deadlines or worrying about ROI.</div></span></div><p>They have all the time now to do what they like, go where they want and be able to finally pursue their dreams, whether it’s to travel, take up a new hobby or get a degree.</p><p>This is an idealised picture of retirement. Unless we have prepared well, the retirement years can be far from golden. Just take a walk in the inner-city streets, the back alleys, or visit low-cost flats (PPR). You will see the other side of retirement. Not a pretty picture.</p><p>Every so often we read about an elderly abandoned at the bus-stop or at a hospital.</p><p>According to the Social Welfare Department (JKM), about 2000 elderly have checked into welfare homes over the past five years. The actual figure is probably much higher. An estimated 71% of EPF contributors do not have enough savings to live above the poverty line.</p><p>To be fair, there have been improvements over the years. Senior citizens enjoy discounts on public transport. Medical care is practically free at government clinics, and easily affordable at public hospitals. Elder-friendly facilities are now fixtures in public buildings, and there are special lanes in government departments to serve the elderly.</p><p>There are plans to have an activity centre for seniors (Pusat Activiti Warga Emas or PAWE) in every parliamentary constituency. The grant for each PAWE to run the centre has been raised from RM33,330 to RM50,000 annually. All very good, but these improvements have been long overdue, and are a very small step towards preparing for the future.</p><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjr1QLiAg0m9vPNT9gnzKGEfVNwCAI8F39F__fcI7a71yb-5P1z9vOF0Xzla9VZbkYaraNkcIhC9NlQ7OXQB2R2Ag3tuiuNLJji1ASZbgcvlsXT-0Pqby4Jj1huQNdi2d6bIxTbVmU4zvmO7ltmFR1xg1a4lbh-uKENbpmGB0yWUqb8MNCJaVRWdO2O/s580/2021407.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="385" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjr1QLiAg0m9vPNT9gnzKGEfVNwCAI8F39F__fcI7a71yb-5P1z9vOF0Xzla9VZbkYaraNkcIhC9NlQ7OXQB2R2Ag3tuiuNLJji1ASZbgcvlsXT-0Pqby4Jj1huQNdi2d6bIxTbVmU4zvmO7ltmFR1xg1a4lbh-uKENbpmGB0yWUqb8MNCJaVRWdO2O/s16000/2021407.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><span face="Lato, Arial, Helvetica, Arial, Tahoma, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #4a4a4a; font-size: 13.008px; text-align: start;">There are plans to have an activity centre for seniors (PAWE) in every parliamentary constituency such as this one in Taman Medan, Petaling Jaya. The grant for each PAWE to run the centre has been raised from RM33,330 to RM50,000 annually. These improvements have been long overdue, and are a very small step towards preparing for the future. - Filepic</span></td></tr></tbody></table><p>Based on findings of the on-going Malaysia Ageing and Retirement Survey (MARS) conducted by Universiti Malaya’s Social Wellbeing Research Centre, and involving 5,613 respondents, Malaysia will be classified as a super-aged nation by 2056 when 20% of the population is aged 65 and above.</p><p>Academicians and researchers on ageing have conducted countless surveys over the years. It is such a waste of time, money and effort when nothing much happens after they have presented their findings to the government.</p><p>The proposal to introduce legislations against elder abuse and abandonment has been brought up now and then over the past two decades. Each time the issue raises a storm of controversy, then the buzz fizzles out till the next time it is mentioned again in Parliament.</p><p>As an example, in Sept 2019, then Deputy PM and Women, Family and Community Development Minister Datuk Seri Dr Wan Azizah Wan Ismail announced the Senior Citizens Bill would be tabled in Parliament in early 2021.</p><p>With the subsequent change in government, the bill was left in limbo. Fast forward to March 2023. Current Deputy Minister Aiman Athirah Sabu, in responding to a question, said the bill would be tabled in Parliament for the first reading in 2024! When that time comes, will there be yet another delay? Will the same scenario repeat itself?</p><p>Speaking in the Dewan Rakyat recently, Women’s Minister Datuk Seri Nancy Shukri, commended the National Senior Citizens Advisory and Consultative Council (MPPWEN) on their role they played. The council meets only twice a year. The urgency is not there.</p><p>There is a crying need for an inter-ministerial committee on Ageing. Any action plan on ageing should involve more than just the Women, Family and Community Development Ministry.</p><p>NGOs, CSOs and representatives from the B40 group should also be at the table. These are the grassroot leaders who are familiar with the problems faced and are directly impacted by any decisions made. They speak from lived experience, and their voices should be heard.</p><p>Bear in mind proposals and plans are just that, on paper and in discussions in meeting rooms where the elderly who are the target group do not have a seat at the table.</p><p>Even when Acts and Bills are passed, implementation is painfully slow due to bureaucratic red tape. The Social Welfare Department (JKM) has too much on its plate: from the welfare of women, children, senior citizens, OKU to the community at large.</p><p>Each demographic group has its own set of issues to deal with. When resources are limited, priority is often given to women, children and youths.</p><p>After all, for the elderly their days are numbered. They do not contribute much to the economy and in fact are seen as a drain on limited resources for welfare.</p><p>These retirees and pensioners, mostly in their 70s and 80s, have contributed much to nation-building in their younger days. Now in their twilight years, they are overlooked, if not forgotten in the broader scheme of things.</p><p>The haves can take care of themselves. Our concern is the have-nots – theB40 elderly and those living without family support. Aside from the crumbs given to senior citizens at every Budget allocation, they are often shut out in the job market, and denied opportunities to better themselves.</p><p>What they need is sustained financial support, not one-off handouts as and when, and also access to long-term health care. How long do the elderly have to wait for better days ahead in the time they have left? It is a time bomb ticking away when we consider the ramifications an ageing population presents.</p><p><i>(The above article was originally published in Star Silver pullout of The Star under the column 'Grey Matters'.)</i></p>seniorsaloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15349552912264950538noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2398906867139907280.post-83490434620779043722023-03-20T11:11:00.006+08:002023-03-20T12:47:59.085+08:00ARE WE MODELS OF FILIAL PIETY FOR OUR CHILDREN?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjPutG04MJQkY_NjH4uo2RtHr33IUBWe7MLXeBZNsiYdLm3NevrD68WZYF18cWu0H_u3hqFcoOwdTBFeR68-8dh6i-_2SmQoYnsO38vK-xtBWoInRGlCVi0wO26vbqGE0OyccvAV1Ik4bRNzthfkeRZ29z2kk3IGOtcyuLbSjRFDuF1hUlXoma8gab-/s556/filial.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="296" data-original-width="556" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjPutG04MJQkY_NjH4uo2RtHr33IUBWe7MLXeBZNsiYdLm3NevrD68WZYF18cWu0H_u3hqFcoOwdTBFeR68-8dh6i-_2SmQoYnsO38vK-xtBWoInRGlCVi0wO26vbqGE0OyccvAV1Ik4bRNzthfkeRZ29z2kk3IGOtcyuLbSjRFDuF1hUlXoma8gab-/s16000/filial.jpg" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">Are we baby boomers the last line of defence left to uphold and preserve filial piety? If our adult children and grandchildren seem lacking in respect for their elders, are we as much to blame as the changing times and hence, changing values? Have we pampered and mollycoddled them too much? Have we allowed them to get away with indiscipline and disrespect to their parents and grandparents?</div><br /><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgH675Bdbj_SADb9e8PDle1YKWvMBr_hH88G9NrPNRQjyo41bhtqqbKItepw2kUOESi89e_7Y6exv_bavgoWl-9Mxpi_XNwtwn5DoZkcipZxinGBfeOkxSoiguPiSUkniEJNae4Y2j1w4qx15-lgPKSXBv7YGtDC0QPESog5FIzSeZ-rCfbd7byD_in/s580/homeless%20-%20Copy.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="346" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgH675Bdbj_SADb9e8PDle1YKWvMBr_hH88G9NrPNRQjyo41bhtqqbKItepw2kUOESi89e_7Y6exv_bavgoWl-9Mxpi_XNwtwn5DoZkcipZxinGBfeOkxSoiguPiSUkniEJNae4Y2j1w4qx15-lgPKSXBv7YGtDC0QPESog5FIzSeZ-rCfbd7byD_in/s16000/homeless%20-%20Copy.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>Getting to be a common sight in the city - the elderly having to fend for themselves.</i></td></tr></tbody></table><br /><div>What about us? We have elderly parents in their 80s to look after. Are we exemplary models for our adult children to emulate? Can we look at ourselves in the mirror and honestly say that we have looked after our elderly parents well, and given them our love and respect?</div><div><br /></div><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhhcjtnG20SZLc0S-po0CoDOexADT9LGieQblQHKdVVdNAiUEp5pn7yei_aMvZjYSeWJOhNxpHcgnsIoctd84O0Y59LLPVISQ4nFClcOX3SxX-u1Frhx8IuHryzYfjrUHRZsYNixYnAV1d6IK618oCjL68qfqHPvBpNQPfm81s6FZj4XnP24To-kwRb/s576/elderly_hands_small_4k1i.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="365" data-original-width="576" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhhcjtnG20SZLc0S-po0CoDOexADT9LGieQblQHKdVVdNAiUEp5pn7yei_aMvZjYSeWJOhNxpHcgnsIoctd84O0Y59LLPVISQ4nFClcOX3SxX-u1Frhx8IuHryzYfjrUHRZsYNixYnAV1d6IK618oCjL68qfqHPvBpNQPfm81s6FZj4XnP24To-kwRb/s16000/elderly_hands_small_4k1i.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>When was the last time we held our elderly parents' hands or gave them a hug?</i></td></tr></tbody></table><div><br /></div><div>When was the last time we hugged our parents or held their hands? They don't need gifts of money, hampers of food or bouquets of flowers. All they want is the reassurance that they have not been forsaken and forgotten by their family members.</div><div><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjJxt-zQPT4EHK3DKCP748bkvltJxik6lXOwyC33oiTiyOLhxU-vxhXhUSNcFaVKsZGAyn2ExFaPcTH25tKpcNJ0NHg8AwmBLiw_a5-VJQ4LoBZkW4N1LafDWVa2sauc1wmFjWhUVRKpcQeh90RZ2_kFOiQc0prJ6gYny2BtGXE6-iF9poPTMxIINT3/s580/34a065e5e89520b21723ef476210aab9.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="534" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjJxt-zQPT4EHK3DKCP748bkvltJxik6lXOwyC33oiTiyOLhxU-vxhXhUSNcFaVKsZGAyn2ExFaPcTH25tKpcNJ0NHg8AwmBLiw_a5-VJQ4LoBZkW4N1LafDWVa2sauc1wmFjWhUVRKpcQeh90RZ2_kFOiQc0prJ6gYny2BtGXE6-iF9poPTMxIINT3/s16000/34a065e5e89520b21723ef476210aab9.jpg" /></a></div><br /><div>When our parents are gone, can we ever forgive ourselves for neglecting them in their final years? The time for us to start is right now, before the sands of time run out for our elderly parents, and it's too late for regrets.<br /><br />How we treat our elderly parents is how our children will treat us one day in our old age. They will learn from us.<br /></div>seniorsaloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15349552912264950538noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2398906867139907280.post-62495315023340007542023-02-28T21:20:00.001+08:002023-02-28T21:23:33.690+08:00IT'S CRUMBS AGAIN FOR SENIORS, LAMENTS ADVOCATE<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh0bz3TQaNQ24O5l7AywjC-ypKFajJQSPzY3XTX7JwwYL8pKoLNENIhhWptCElu9RsreOuY3BtCcR3Kduj27nrC9K4-ObdXgm8JFo4834l0YDG3lNSuxKLYv0iZxwGR6XhaWtNkNia6aW8I4WRqBMm5dh83pP3NmTeOp2bLf-pOUabfX_of31wr5fCK/s546/crumbs.PNG" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="438" data-original-width="546" height="257" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh0bz3TQaNQ24O5l7AywjC-ypKFajJQSPzY3XTX7JwwYL8pKoLNENIhhWptCElu9RsreOuY3BtCcR3Kduj27nrC9K4-ObdXgm8JFo4834l0YDG3lNSuxKLYv0iZxwGR6XhaWtNkNia6aW8I4WRqBMm5dh83pP3NmTeOp2bLf-pOUabfX_of31wr5fCK/s320/crumbs.PNG" width="320" /></a></div>KUALA LUMPUR: Gerontologist and advocate for seniors, Lily Fu (pic), wishes there are more funds for the elderly.<p></p><p>"Well, a bit of good news for some sectors but, generally, crumbs again for seniors. Not much to cheer about.</p><p>“If only we had a minister or an agency on aging to speak out for older people.</p><p>“All of us will age, and we also have elderly parents and grandparents. Most of the MPs are not spring chickens either.</p><p>“Why are the needs of the elderly often ignored or overlooked?” she lamented after the revised Budget 2023 was tabled at Parliament on Friday.</p><p>Fu is disappointed that there was no mention of age-friendly facilities and infrastructure or tax incentives for companies to employ older persons.</p><p>“There was no mention of special digital literacy programmes to help seniors grapple with technology.</p><p>“There was no tax allocation for families looking after the elderly who need long-term care or those with comorbidities.</p><p>“I feel that most of the allocations are catered for the B40 group,” said the 75-year-old, who is also the founder of Seniors Aloud, an online network of senior citizens.</p><p>Malaysia entered an ageing society in 2020.</p><p>With the population of its senior citizens (age 65 and above) standing at 7.3% now, the country is expected to enter an aged society about 21 years from now and eventually turn into a super-aged society in 2056.</p><p>The process is faster than previously projected due to a declining fertility rate and low birth rate.</p><p>According to the Statistics Department, a total of 439,744 babies were born in 2021, a 6.7% (31,760 births) drop from the previous year.</p><p>The Total Fertility Rate has also shown a declining trend from 4.9 children per woman of childbearing age (15 to 49 years) in 1970 to 1.7 in 2021.</p><p>Despite the Budget 2023 not targeting many goodies for senior citizens, retired teacher Josephine Odela Soosay Raj, 82, said she is still glad that overall, the budget benefits most Malaysians.</p><p>“From what I see, the budget will enable our country to move into a new phase that will see more foreign investors coming in.</p><p>“I’m also pleased that our Prime Minister is looking at the needs of the younger generation. He spoke about the problem of pornography and upgrading schools in rural areas.</p><p>“So for me, I feel that our country will have a new image,” said the former teacher of SK St Theresa 1 here.</p><p>The grandmother of five is happy about the government’s focus on the welfare of padi farmers and rubber tappers.</p><p>“A lot of money will be spent to upgrade clinics and hospitals and repair roads in flood-prone areas.</p><p>“I don’t mind that the senior citizens’ interests are left aside for now.</p><p>“Let our leader see to the needs of others. Once that’s in place, he should see to our needs,” she added.</p><div><i>(The above article was first published in <b><a href="https://www.thestar.com.my/news/nation/2023/02/26/its-crumbs-again-for-seniors-laments-advocate#.Y_xmrBSUGQE.whatsapp">The Star on Sunday 26 Feb 2023</a></b>. The comments were made in response to the PM's Budget Speech delivered in Parliament on Fri 24 Feb.)</i></div><div><br /></div>seniorsaloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15349552912264950538noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2398906867139907280.post-85670228594273129922023-01-30T00:52:00.008+08:002023-02-07T22:21:01.622+08:00LAUGHTER & NOSTALGIA AT THE BOOK REVIEW OF 'OUR STORIES, OUR LEGACY'<p> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhcvrrl5DOPzIccudkTRjES0k66petvg6qnBbVOZEvvySiKUJNe_xIvNERJ1HM54zI6eEfPbeHK95wVHjJC8H6lV-X2WsE-bY0HbZrHp8QuSAY2tdBbgNlvNC9RJDNulCO39Tcy7imjINVagw0s4utAlYqJI4gULHj1OwlDqb6yK8ZuCrq5dbOGm9nk/s580/2db844c4-d3e4-4d9c-85e0-faf9e54653cc%20-%20Copy.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="413" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhcvrrl5DOPzIccudkTRjES0k66petvg6qnBbVOZEvvySiKUJNe_xIvNERJ1HM54zI6eEfPbeHK95wVHjJC8H6lV-X2WsE-bY0HbZrHp8QuSAY2tdBbgNlvNC9RJDNulCO39Tcy7imjINVagw0s4utAlYqJI4gULHj1OwlDqb6yK8ZuCrq5dbOGm9nk/s16000/2db844c4-d3e4-4d9c-85e0-faf9e54653cc%20-%20Copy.jpg" /></a><br />The happy faces reflect the success of the first book review held recently to connect the readers of "Our Stories, Our Legacy" with the writers. More about the event in the writeup below, courtesy of Liow Moi Lee, editor of the book. </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEikfU-GMIOOGzn6wHD4aEpOAYjL4gLGErHQ-NF8l9G3ofOGUlLUGX2mYhuyrCrEgVjMyv5fitE9jD2dzBDJVBg33vEnof4zTZYImhWPujOWWegk79qxOQrBZUlTUwgH_LSIps1Q6P83y6ih-c9owqWCOeyDIl7jYtnY-KsHXlKSc-wa2ZKGaEUsKXBh/s870/1%20-%20Copy.jpeg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="870" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEikfU-GMIOOGzn6wHD4aEpOAYjL4gLGErHQ-NF8l9G3ofOGUlLUGX2mYhuyrCrEgVjMyv5fitE9jD2dzBDJVBg33vEnof4zTZYImhWPujOWWegk79qxOQrBZUlTUwgH_LSIps1Q6P83y6ih-c9owqWCOeyDIl7jYtnY-KsHXlKSc-wa2ZKGaEUsKXBh/s16000/1%20-%20Copy.jpeg" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjd5EF6hzJrhyQyM_CupbV_89kG6X858Hu8gvYbHCMo24Wn8yjXWAYupBHN-Ru7Bx7g_DeyYczvQ93KeuUUTXhVzuXIZwSija4afagWL0ZVqOlSGMb_X5QYJi-Iwy-1ZLAHfI0XIONYMvbOp1B_PdjASbJBwl6sc47W-yk_4vJDkR29Xat85g-uXQy-/s870/2%20-%20Copy.jpeg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><br /><img border="0" data-original-height="870" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjd5EF6hzJrhyQyM_CupbV_89kG6X858Hu8gvYbHCMo24Wn8yjXWAYupBHN-Ru7Bx7g_DeyYczvQ93KeuUUTXhVzuXIZwSija4afagWL0ZVqOlSGMb_X5QYJi-Iwy-1ZLAHfI0XIONYMvbOp1B_PdjASbJBwl6sc47W-yk_4vJDkR29Xat85g-uXQy-/s16000/2%20-%20Copy.jpeg" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEizlQoKHYgkeSxygDt6xRJYlqtaT6W3ce5X46H_OaDB7ic40wU0JX5F6I2YFqAILhvkTtMRb0W1zwciAGZfXOdVoYGKeqlxa1jPd8FCNco2WZqVH4cxP-C-cKg18enYu7A_KZTLD0yBqbb33WT_0LS1JDRSWCihVBNDgBBa0yUCCH1baHIS94OjjvJe/s870/3%20-%20Copy.jpeg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="870" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEizlQoKHYgkeSxygDt6xRJYlqtaT6W3ce5X46H_OaDB7ic40wU0JX5F6I2YFqAILhvkTtMRb0W1zwciAGZfXOdVoYGKeqlxa1jPd8FCNco2WZqVH4cxP-C-cKg18enYu7A_KZTLD0yBqbb33WT_0LS1JDRSWCihVBNDgBBa0yUCCH1baHIS94OjjvJe/s16000/3%20-%20Copy.jpeg" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhkJ7IuQe5BCwTgWcUAREXgkGkYaDQocCQPKrAyXCENNYT0b5uQS9d7t6RYVc9WHZlHFN2gnM1XS64aqRvfbC3sx0yFuLI6DJijAc_fxbHcipAHTreEZSC-_mWKo2wxlFVOcgiQMNGfk-56EF3nwRVhZezYoFWU73jG9la3gVUsZMxl0YKkMJwFkJ2N/s870/4%20-%20Copy.jpeg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="870" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhkJ7IuQe5BCwTgWcUAREXgkGkYaDQocCQPKrAyXCENNYT0b5uQS9d7t6RYVc9WHZlHFN2gnM1XS64aqRvfbC3sx0yFuLI6DJijAc_fxbHcipAHTreEZSC-_mWKo2wxlFVOcgiQMNGfk-56EF3nwRVhZezYoFWU73jG9la3gVUsZMxl0YKkMJwFkJ2N/s16000/4%20-%20Copy.jpeg" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjWNOz7Beq2BfSQE9tm5CraMP8ZqKbxrjevcNBTnk5Vz1TmEspiKKlz27UsaoJpU2XPWSwU8zOVgwVDF6BIlSR313IJDmC22frB5y2diuoecvU2lIBs-ScpWKJquyYZefPvWHAfkC1ZyJXvB7z3uChlpqvR1jpOGrO5H9hgi3vZgi4kN7iHUs3FtStJ/s870/5%20-%20Copy.jpeg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="870" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjWNOz7Beq2BfSQE9tm5CraMP8ZqKbxrjevcNBTnk5Vz1TmEspiKKlz27UsaoJpU2XPWSwU8zOVgwVDF6BIlSR313IJDmC22frB5y2diuoecvU2lIBs-ScpWKJquyYZefPvWHAfkC1ZyJXvB7z3uChlpqvR1jpOGrO5H9hgi3vZgi4kN7iHUs3FtStJ/s16000/5%20-%20Copy.jpeg" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhfLjmakmy3jzlpfKyZuiHm818ESezMhWD4gYpy8MJn1mUv6uZf_KOxOSaOIX1uXJNqMimIKNTnQ23e61DEYX1YnRaIXbo3HbmynxV0HLheilR5ZzhvsfSEqDtPqWOC0mprCmo6wVnR_cmlyNmegLT5NcZ8g-wJ6AUL7BBXoAH1cL_S13wutIfm6nqs/s870/6%20-%20Copy.jpeg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="870" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhfLjmakmy3jzlpfKyZuiHm818ESezMhWD4gYpy8MJn1mUv6uZf_KOxOSaOIX1uXJNqMimIKNTnQ23e61DEYX1YnRaIXbo3HbmynxV0HLheilR5ZzhvsfSEqDtPqWOC0mprCmo6wVnR_cmlyNmegLT5NcZ8g-wJ6AUL7BBXoAH1cL_S13wutIfm6nqs/s16000/6%20-%20Copy.jpeg" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiEE4V1yjTyDEulVUadNjrLjgiBQK43dGL2ZIzBgaMx-19Y12Gu5uOB7uI-WudezzCcGAIKbKB28JIkK4c738G_A1CWZaBS-_87OfyFWzCxbsYTkO6uSY_rOjfJShdv0VfllMQyNYtOZI_wQXSzw1c60P6A5Vmsrj6jWz8vXCrEqchZIQlvI5wfUngX/s726/eaeca303-496d-4ce5-81a6-7fcc1bc17c91%20-%20Copy%20(1).jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="726" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiEE4V1yjTyDEulVUadNjrLjgiBQK43dGL2ZIzBgaMx-19Y12Gu5uOB7uI-WudezzCcGAIKbKB28JIkK4c738G_A1CWZaBS-_87OfyFWzCxbsYTkO6uSY_rOjfJShdv0VfllMQyNYtOZI_wQXSzw1c60P6A5Vmsrj6jWz8vXCrEqchZIQlvI5wfUngX/s16000/eaeca303-496d-4ce5-81a6-7fcc1bc17c91%20-%20Copy%20(1).jpg" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="text-align: left;">Copies of the book are available for sale at these locations below: Mont Kiara, Bangsar and Ampang. Please contact Lily for more info. Thank you. </span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEizFCo2UGTrs7_T4O0444Xlkip3kTvQf6v-LB1aIiUDsEfiN4fihpwv4Iqm3Jf06p-WzewmJQya13-ICki_n3-J-VMgE6YaKW_OEkLoEORNLFwyWgrJ1s2lOKKOQTa7usqssc0lAAtfe10_Op1lJ1jTys0EYt6hEk6mAYQN1zlQcMyttsjJeAdhpqXe/s580/book%20gift%20-%20Copy.PNG" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="330" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEizFCo2UGTrs7_T4O0444Xlkip3kTvQf6v-LB1aIiUDsEfiN4fihpwv4Iqm3Jf06p-WzewmJQya13-ICki_n3-J-VMgE6YaKW_OEkLoEORNLFwyWgrJ1s2lOKKOQTa7usqssc0lAAtfe10_Op1lJ1jTys0EYt6hEk6mAYQN1zlQcMyttsjJeAdhpqXe/s16000/book%20gift%20-%20Copy.PNG" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div>seniorsaloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15349552912264950538noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2398906867139907280.post-6362511899192557972022-11-30T23:38:00.007+08:002022-12-02T15:10:59.587+08:00SENIOR CITIZENS' VOICE MATTER<p> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEghP_7l0WOio2zb-j_Wb32YlFwI-ahfxVDUieZrXQJ2FFSr_2Z3QVcRyGcT1Zx1yzh7J7590eDW7A26zDUMYgzPSr36VI-MWzbQxdI6iEvyrewjUSRJkyYmUbC0guBALqJAfAdPVqN4ZPA/s1600/blog+-+Copy.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="373" data-original-width="585" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEghP_7l0WOio2zb-j_Wb32YlFwI-ahfxVDUieZrXQJ2FFSr_2Z3QVcRyGcT1Zx1yzh7J7590eDW7A26zDUMYgzPSr36VI-MWzbQxdI6iEvyrewjUSRJkyYmUbC0guBALqJAfAdPVqN4ZPA/s1600/blog+-+Copy.jpg" /></a></p>
The anxiety of waiting for the results of GE15 is over, as is the jubilance. Very soon, the new cabinet will be announced. It will then be time to get down to brass tacks for our new unity government. We understand PM Anwar has plenty on his plate at the moment, so no demands just a wish list for him and the relevant ministries to work on as soon as he has seen to the top priorities.<div><br /></div><div>But first, let me share my comments in an interview published in <b><a href="https://www.thestar.com.my/news/focus/2022/10/02/what-senior-voters-want">The Star</a></b> dated 2 October. <i>(I have taken the liberty to add my own images.)</i><br /><div><br /></div><div><i>"</i><i>Every election, you can see many senior citizens lining up for hours at voting stations despite their weakness and frailty, just to carry out their democratic duty and cast their vote.</i></div><div><i><br /></i></div><div><div><i>In return, our prospective representatives should pay this sage cohort the attention they deserve, especially now with many facing the brunt of inflation and the rising cost of living.</i></div><div><i><br /></i></div><div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgKnCQZQdAXNX3fPUz71JmoqCOOUet15DenZR72jGR6hGZd7HkGq1Tn3TskWo9iZZwYlGsvc9vq7F_nB0bdRO2qiFqmtpJur8Wh4lgBgLf3f8g5HJQPkkFvkOPqmfPBB1sbKo03_yiskGYCy1bIucVtaD2oVI7vQpYk7CGWD0jksZ0AYUYw4MvLdSuQ/s580/20170721_120057%20-%20Copy.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="496" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgKnCQZQdAXNX3fPUz71JmoqCOOUet15DenZR72jGR6hGZd7HkGq1Tn3TskWo9iZZwYlGsvc9vq7F_nB0bdRO2qiFqmtpJur8Wh4lgBgLf3f8g5HJQPkkFvkOPqmfPBB1sbKo03_yiskGYCy1bIucVtaD2oVI7vQpYk7CGWD0jksZ0AYUYw4MvLdSuQ/s16000/20170721_120057%20-%20Copy.jpg" /></a></div><i><div><i><br /></i></div>As gerontologist Lily Fu puts it, seniors like her would vote for candidates who will support and push for reforms that benefit seniors and the community they live in.</i></div><div><i><br /></i></div><div><i>“We would also choose a candidate or party that acts for all older people without discriminating against race or religion, someone who understands the challenges of ageing and is proactive about seeking solutions.</i></div><div><i><br /></i></div><div><i>“It is also important that the candidate we vote in will listen to the voices and feedback of seniors before implementing anything to ensure success. Because, otherwise, it’s money and resources down the drain,” says the 74-year-old who is also the founder of <b><a href="https://www.facebook.com/SeniorsAloud">Seniors Aloud</a></b>, an online network of senior citizens.</i></div><div><i><br /></i></div><div><div><i><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjH_mXPTjLbWIANx0RTCyaigfDuD7axEn3Bepmoy8WyKaHB2taafnsIo0z91vswbOStowStq5jIVZEQrbHh9zaqKbYvGPISrfNKTCkIjTsvDOYPwnXXHNHWtjpPWxuVqaVPgKJx_wcWHo9AEyoXXq4e30x-3FZNHQdKenj1UU6BnSvQRBgQnVG_jlJq/s773/19.-MCOA-Bunting.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="773" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjH_mXPTjLbWIANx0RTCyaigfDuD7axEn3Bepmoy8WyKaHB2taafnsIo0z91vswbOStowStq5jIVZEQrbHh9zaqKbYvGPISrfNKTCkIjTsvDOYPwnXXHNHWtjpPWxuVqaVPgKJx_wcWHo9AEyoXXq4e30x-3FZNHQdKenj1UU6BnSvQRBgQnVG_jlJq/s16000/19.-MCOA-Bunting.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>At present we do not have an inter-ministerial committee on ageing, but we do have a <b><a href="https://www.mcoa.my/">Malaysian Coalition On Ageing (MCOA)</a></b> launched in Feb 2022.</i></td></tr></tbody></table><br />Fu also urges for an agency for an ageing population to be set up to push for the needs and rights of older people.</i></div><div><i><br /></i></div><div><i>She points out that among the most pressing issues for seniors is the provision of long-term care centers, particularly for seniors with no family or financial support.</i></div><div><i><br /></i></div><div><i>“Currently, there are only two government-run ones in whole country!” she points out.</i></div><div><i><br /></i></div><div><i><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg_DQ8RmW6N7JCa7mtBgLtTodk_266PETl7sivd4dsN6y2Lqzqwdjft2YzMQHccZObI1D3toRDiMyh5i7IL8pqdiCRvPbml0o6JMet9ghZjWuUM_aWoLgDysGhCeBJ5VUUyXAWrHhqZKoBNsru05vxfx0fFOfR284Cs_V_eir1U35Qso9CCCdwpE-iA/s580/20200902_165127.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="435" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg_DQ8RmW6N7JCa7mtBgLtTodk_266PETl7sivd4dsN6y2Lqzqwdjft2YzMQHccZObI1D3toRDiMyh5i7IL8pqdiCRvPbml0o6JMet9ghZjWuUM_aWoLgDysGhCeBJ5VUUyXAWrHhqZKoBNsru05vxfx0fFOfR284Cs_V_eir1U35Qso9CCCdwpE-iA/s16000/20200902_165127.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>Me interviewing two senior citizens who are looking for jobs. They spoke about the difficulty in getting employed because of their age. They are in their 60s but still fit and able to work.</i></td></tr></tbody></table><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><i>The government must also stamp out ageism in employment, she says.</i></div></i></div><div><i><br /></i></div><div><i>“Open job opportunities to able seniors who want to work to support themselves [and their families]. The new 60-year-olds are not frail, senile or ready to drop dead! There is a huge pool of retirees with a wealth of expertise and experience to draw on, given the shrinking young labour force.</i></div><div><i><br /></i></div><div><i>“In this respect, the government should also open digital and entrepreneurial training and upskilling opportunities to older people. Publicize HRDF [Human Resources Development Fund] workshops, etc, so that these seniors can apply for them,” Fu says.</i></div><div><i><br /></i></div><div><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiJ46XYV2HEzmTKLc_FFta03-j4fNOnblI8tigX16oPJUoyavLrVvDb0_SgVy8edRDNi4sWWMRptvyp7r0x00ZgfoON1jfiNDo2X28sJjWXF9hQ06MU5wsUZAda14E2hLDcddXQyhO0N5tmORyVbDvjNk76vOPe4SSHsdq9jDJBzsYOvnMvOLDq2W3z/s580/20220819_080457.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="326" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiJ46XYV2HEzmTKLc_FFta03-j4fNOnblI8tigX16oPJUoyavLrVvDb0_SgVy8edRDNi4sWWMRptvyp7r0x00ZgfoON1jfiNDo2X28sJjWXF9hQ06MU5wsUZAda14E2hLDcddXQyhO0N5tmORyVbDvjNk76vOPe4SSHsdq9jDJBzsYOvnMvOLDq2W3z/s16000/20220819_080457.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>A common sight at the Semantan MRT station. Long queues of commuters waiting in the sweltering noon heat. Oftentimes there are five to six buses with 'Out of service' displayed and the drivers sitting inside in air-con comfort busy scrolling on their mobile phones.</i></td></tr></tbody></table><br /></div><div><i>Another big area that needs attention is improving the country’s public transport system for the aged, especially for the last mile, she adds.</i></div><div><i><br /></i></div><div><i>“The buses, especially feeder buses, are the bane of commuters. A total revamp is much needed. Also, have more age-friendly facilities in public places. When the government takes care of the public safety and needs of seniors, everyone benefits.</i></div><div><i><br /></i></div><div><i>There should also be sustainable programs for the welfare and wellbeing of older people. It is pointless to have occasional, one-off campaigns. They don’t work.”</i></div></div><div><i><br /></i></div><div><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiJZ9fcbOHEpSIVesDnJ_hfCDGPzxfO005CXczJ9fq8Wi-GqQtqjZ2EaMgOQ2qlQeKvRHjNt1OGBSh6Ha9qigoDV30nEmtT8lXa_w1gqSmXZctDoMKEk_RQFDKIijRajG82KxVnZNX0p8RihCe_5XI3fApCv8cPLKOC1UMuyFMMyoatyLH8H3Gt9Ufy/s580/20200721_173114.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="435" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiJZ9fcbOHEpSIVesDnJ_hfCDGPzxfO005CXczJ9fq8Wi-GqQtqjZ2EaMgOQ2qlQeKvRHjNt1OGBSh6Ha9qigoDV30nEmtT8lXa_w1gqSmXZctDoMKEk_RQFDKIijRajG82KxVnZNX0p8RihCe_5XI3fApCv8cPLKOC1UMuyFMMyoatyLH8H3Gt9Ufy/s16000/20200721_173114.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>Senior citizens queuing up for food packages during the Covid pandemic. Most are jobless.</i></td></tr></tbody></table><br /></div><div>The recent Budget 2023 delivered by the former Minister of Finance on 7 Oct was a huge disappointment for senior citizens and the elderly. Once again, they were given crumbs. So, that begs the question, what can our government offer us older Malaysians to make us happy and looking forward to our retirement years? We have given 30-40 of our prime years in the service of the country. Surely that must merit some recognition and appreciation?<div>
<br /></div>
<div>
<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiZKrfx5gwb1dXCBJK8cswq9NNoRBz_z7NeTEg_yeU1WI3ri1jPpnRxqVQK5sPSf_b_TLA1Rp3SmKFIGkHwV1nSwek3N8zIJyeHGkhZXDwBkjEKOIKe_hgGgTtq4S4Vt0BhnaolfBwkbvY/s1600/old.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiZKrfx5gwb1dXCBJK8cswq9NNoRBz_z7NeTEg_yeU1WI3ri1jPpnRxqVQK5sPSf_b_TLA1Rp3SmKFIGkHwV1nSwek3N8zIJyeHGkhZXDwBkjEKOIKe_hgGgTtq4S4Vt0BhnaolfBwkbvY/s1600/old.jpg" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>Above all, we want to be accorded respect and dignity, not be ignored or seen as unproductive and a burden to society</i></td></tr>
</tbody></table>
<br />
We certainly don't want empty pre-election promises of what the government can do or will do for us. We don't want vague general references to what it plans to do for seniors. We want details, specifics and deadlines. And if the government doesn't deliver, we have the right to protest, to hold it accountable if it reneges on its word, and not vote for any under-performing ministers should he or she stand for re-election. </div>
<div>
<br /></div>
<div>
So, what do we want?<br />
<br /></div>
<div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhOG_jVFZsqYAa1mhXR9Q-bOaE2TFWBdnJcLqEZwI1FMoOo-pMIkKEmaAHMJAh-Fx5EwopvF0M98GNOSP7ouwTq_N6N8rqz3JVs69H68K3OK3rTImY_F8q_Ezy0A-QaPD5TdLvLsxh-hog/s1600/11576_p1_s_1.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhOG_jVFZsqYAa1mhXR9Q-bOaE2TFWBdnJcLqEZwI1FMoOo-pMIkKEmaAHMJAh-Fx5EwopvF0M98GNOSP7ouwTq_N6N8rqz3JVs69H68K3OK3rTImY_F8q_Ezy0A-QaPD5TdLvLsxh-hog/s1600/11576_p1_s_1.jpg" /></a></div>
<br />
Here's a short checklist to begin with for the relevant ministries to take note of. In no particular order.</div>
<div>
<ul>
<li>more <b>elder-friendly facilities</b> in public places e.g. government buildings, parks and hospitals. More benches to rest weary feet, decent public toilets, priority queues for the elderly, etc.</li>
<li>a <b>public transport system</b> (and transport hubs) that takes into account the physical limitations of the elderly and OKUs. There has been vast improvement in the MRT-LRT lines, but bus transport and the peripherals suck, and need urgent upgrading.</li>
<li>a <b>senior privilege card</b> with genuine discounts that covers items seniors regularly spend on. By 'genuine' we mean 'without a long list of terms and conditions'. The government should give seniors a<b> discount card</b> similar to the one for university students.</li>
<li>well-maintained<b> </b>and fully-equipped<b> senior community centers</b> in every housing area or constituency, not rundown under-utilized community halls that are usually locked up. </li>
<li>more opportunities for <b>re-training and re-employment of seniors </b>so they can return to the work force to supplement their savings</li>
<li>more <b>affordable nursing care</b> for those who require long term care, and well-managed welfare homes for the elderly </li>
<li>more<b> lifelong learning programs</b> similar to that offered at University of the Third Age at UPM Serdang to be extended to other states</li>
<li>no <b>age discrimination </b>but respect for all seniors, please</li>
</ul>
<ul>
</ul>
<ul>
</ul>
</div>
<div><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgXugyL3FvIiT4F8goRYMxQi1XpQ6szWb49_ejLENSMEqRqxfdcAVsWDAPuzPyiq4JLEEiO4kBWTad0Op3NjxqMaWxW36T106WpZlUp-s2O_tzq3HJ3FuFyWQ7LPfCTKnl7hMu-Tq-DbNxyGR9eV7MMffSWRKfI1_g7UXAgMceOXfNtMq7JQ-8mK00i/s580/IMG_1748.JPG" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="435" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgXugyL3FvIiT4F8goRYMxQi1XpQ6szWb49_ejLENSMEqRqxfdcAVsWDAPuzPyiq4JLEEiO4kBWTad0Op3NjxqMaWxW36T106WpZlUp-s2O_tzq3HJ3FuFyWQ7LPfCTKnl7hMu-Tq-DbNxyGR9eV7MMffSWRKfI1_g7UXAgMceOXfNtMq7JQ-8mK00i/s16000/IMG_1748.JPG" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>Morning exercises at a well-run assisted living facility set up by an NGO.</i></td></tr></tbody></table><div><br /></div><div>SeniorsAloud has been making these proposals as far back as 2009. We will continue to voice our concerns till we are heard.</div>
<br />To be fair and give credit where credit is due, we do appreciate the government's efforts in making public healthcare accessible and affordable to seniors. We welcome the 50% discount for seniors travelling on trains and buses, and the priority lanes for warga emas at government departments. We also acknowledge the financial assistance given to Selangor residents for funeral expenses under the <b>Mesra Usia Emas Scheme </b>and other schemes. </div>
<div><br />
But these provisions are either limited, too slow in implementation, or if already available are not efficiently maintained or managed. Moreover, most of these are concentrated in the Klang Valley. What about in other states? What about in Sabah and Sarawak? What is the govt doing for the wellbeing of the seniors and the elderly in these areas? Is it sufficient?</div>
<div><br /></div><div>Many of our ministers are seniors themselves. Like us, they have elderly parents. The big difference is we are from the grassroots, they are from the ivory towers. One day they too will be elderly. Isn't it time they gave more attention to what senior citizens and the elderly want?<br /></div>
</div></div></div>seniorsaloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15349552912264950538noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2398906867139907280.post-46827778163321197932022-10-28T19:34:00.004+08:002022-10-28T19:39:19.224+08:00STORIES WITH PLENTY OF HEART… AND HISTORY<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhTK_QvgXqQtDyGv5-98TBa50JCMQL8Vpnz38Dn184x033B9uYszRidsn1I9lOYKse6MpCyOGRnjL6VmcRn-uU14Z_Stny25yLStdNYFagvyikD-G-hv4CZc348Kodmw6OiBY7rV9v0WE5PkXMwBlNjwlZLtsoTJv0LITwVYkqp2TxsUvwYRGngAUnh/s580/book%20launch%20blog.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="389" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhTK_QvgXqQtDyGv5-98TBa50JCMQL8Vpnz38Dn184x033B9uYszRidsn1I9lOYKse6MpCyOGRnjL6VmcRn-uU14Z_Stny25yLStdNYFagvyikD-G-hv4CZc348Kodmw6OiBY7rV9v0WE5PkXMwBlNjwlZLtsoTJv0LITwVYkqp2TxsUvwYRGngAUnh/s16000/book%20launch%20blog.jpg" /></a></div><p><b>STORIES WITH PLENTY OF HEART… AND HISTORY</b></p><p>A review by Liow Moi Lee</p><p>Where to start with a collection of stories that is part memoir, part social commentary and part reflection on our history? Perhaps we can start with our community of feisty and energetic senior citizens with a love for writing and a penchant for telling stories. Then, one woman’s vision to create a platform for these stories, capture their essence as a legacy and share them as our collective heritage. This is possibly the first book of its kind in Malaysia. </p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhUemho-kg_hhwrEefxDES75zc-6S5CBBnSpWddLkaLv954A8piegvKcVAh3jJkGKun3qv813i43neJqK3X_aY9tBzlxtVlFMUYPo5TDU20_exdt8_7zULG7I29FolKxESFBEoZJ1JQwOe5t4t2fWdUfv0zNxHUVI5pOZzBS-IjyMkFNgQ_ZRn3z85u/s580/contents%20-%20Copy.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="512" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhUemho-kg_hhwrEefxDES75zc-6S5CBBnSpWddLkaLv954A8piegvKcVAh3jJkGKun3qv813i43neJqK3X_aY9tBzlxtVlFMUYPo5TDU20_exdt8_7zULG7I29FolKxESFBEoZJ1JQwOe5t4t2fWdUfv0zNxHUVI5pOZzBS-IjyMkFNgQ_ZRn3z85u/s16000/contents%20-%20Copy.jpg" /></a></div><p><b>'Our Stories, Our Legacy'</b> brings together 38 stories of growing up in Malaya/Malaysia of the 1950s, 1960s and 1970s, three decades of big social and economic changes for our then young nation. With the passage of time, this ‘world’ is fading fast but for the recollections of our senior citizens, the Merdeka generation. Each story in this book, deeply personal and lovingly written with clarity, humour and plenty of heart, is a testament to the power of memories and lessons from rich life experiences. </p><p></p><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh2YExOmqsimVljBJ28c_NyIejGsCnbCETboDIzRfYhn5orKAybN83Ef8zlkNGeEstRbvgVm3URYb7T3161CcGUtUQkQyTrjTYlL7XQXTjIny0XZZgzfhlFxkW99q86_VcDFCFPDTx2a2LgTX16qD5Na7vgALucDYZy6QomaIX6OqWgMuqOucLIyw6_/s580/CamScanner%2010-28-2022%2015.37_3%20(2).jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="364" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh2YExOmqsimVljBJ28c_NyIejGsCnbCETboDIzRfYhn5orKAybN83Ef8zlkNGeEstRbvgVm3URYb7T3161CcGUtUQkQyTrjTYlL7XQXTjIny0XZZgzfhlFxkW99q86_VcDFCFPDTx2a2LgTX16qD5Na7vgALucDYZy6QomaIX6OqWgMuqOucLIyw6_/s16000/CamScanner%2010-28-2022%2015.37_3%20(2).jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>From 'Life During the Japanese Occupation'. (Source: Wikimedia Commons)</i></td></tr></tbody></table><p>In <b>Pre-Merdeka Years</b>, six stories about the Japanese Occupation, World War II and British rule offer vivid recollections of the horror of war on ordinary families, the impact of foreign rule on life in the kampung, on food shortages, on hiding and escape, on conscription, and later, on organising to fight for independence. A rickety old bridge stirs up fond memories of a child’s daily anxiety and amusement. Till today the remnants of the British colonial period continue to colour the lives of many, in both physical and emotional ways as described in <i>'The Hill of Education has no Summit'</i> and <i>'The Polished Rock'. </i></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjro8N1Dv1f30A3zqCe8hIMntYgNVNG9FYS-CzvAwcC2ldCXDNslmsXQr6E6B2jfQiPBO6oGs_gEZcHZk8ONwmc7E2wGs51PJLrjEopD7jjf8dWBGIFxhaKIukxTijv_3xgikrsjyB18X71bFINjdKy17J3RbnHy4Tf29Z8rBHxF0PeSAlggfOZsTB6/s580/IMG-20211104-WA0058%20-%20Copy.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="383" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjro8N1Dv1f30A3zqCe8hIMntYgNVNG9FYS-CzvAwcC2ldCXDNslmsXQr6E6B2jfQiPBO6oGs_gEZcHZk8ONwmc7E2wGs51PJLrjEopD7jjf8dWBGIFxhaKIukxTijv_3xgikrsjyB18X71bFINjdKy17J3RbnHy4Tf29Z8rBHxF0PeSAlggfOZsTB6/s16000/IMG-20211104-WA0058%20-%20Copy.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>School dance competition from 'Secondary School Years in a Mission School'</i></td></tr></tbody></table><br /></div>The 10 or so years we spend in schools are hugely influential in shaping our young minds and preparing us for our future as adults, whether in the 1960s or today. The eight stories under <b>School Days</b> are full of fun, adolescent energy and innocent charm. From glowing admiration of teachers, forming of lifelong friendship or witty remembrances, parents and teachers’ arsenal of discipline tools and keeping scores, simple games for amusement to the first brush with sexual curiosity and raging hormones, we know it all so well! <div><br /><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi9bR9aIEpEnh8RCVmndKMonbu71pgO1RkBwH4uDaCnK_sttpWDQNw-vAhuDVR_MDw8hyEFAwxwcJmKP9GMnnascaoVRh5wtfuAF1i6HZfrleKMH6kATEcnuRZj4E5kwsdZ64FbmsMwqowHM0hexZ_vPMC_fZBoj4-gKn-cFbEDwyFhBDhr2imBQq9S/s580/20221028_171049.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="579" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi9bR9aIEpEnh8RCVmndKMonbu71pgO1RkBwH4uDaCnK_sttpWDQNw-vAhuDVR_MDw8hyEFAwxwcJmKP9GMnnascaoVRh5wtfuAF1i6HZfrleKMH6kATEcnuRZj4E5kwsdZ64FbmsMwqowHM0hexZ_vPMC_fZBoj4-gKn-cFbEDwyFhBDhr2imBQq9S/s16000/20221028_171049.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>From the story 'A Weekend Sleepover with Grandma in the 1960s'.</i></td></tr></tbody></table><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><b>Family Ties</b> are, as expected, where our writers have the most profound recollections. The 11 stories in this category offer glimpses of family life from 1950s to 1970s. The colonial-era shophouse is emblematic of the practicality of merging family life with family livelihood. Appreciative tributes to fathers and mothers who made do with so little, and yet provided a loving memorable environment for their children. The sweet role played by grandparents, the lure of the cinema with mom including shopping and sweets, simple observations of life as a child of a government district official or on a daily trip to buy groceries all recall a world of resilient, resourceful families in those early days of post-1957 nation-building. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: right;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEje42iOWpwHc9rnFCU2WgyJdt93PRnyIXkjpwFeDKZujicxp7aIqNZk-Rjy3ni7CzL75cEa1ozYU5UbhcqgTV9yu275snD1RyxB_KQ9VQWDmvw-4RVmzTdradml9j7cjav5F5o-pL5uJqGypzzEiww5rbNZE5xLg0U6eHKthiMW8NoFDt-fnjAmilZP/s853/20221028_174959.jpg" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="853" data-original-width="575" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEje42iOWpwHc9rnFCU2WgyJdt93PRnyIXkjpwFeDKZujicxp7aIqNZk-Rjy3ni7CzL75cEa1ozYU5UbhcqgTV9yu275snD1RyxB_KQ9VQWDmvw-4RVmzTdradml9j7cjav5F5o-pL5uJqGypzzEiww5rbNZE5xLg0U6eHKthiMW8NoFDt-fnjAmilZP/s320/20221028_174959.jpg" width="216" /></a><span style="text-align: left;"><div style="text-align: left;">Nowhere is change more rapid and obvious than in the work place (<b>Memories of Work</b>). From the perspective of a young typist/office worker, the ever-increasing array of new and more complex typing and documenting equipment is evidence of the fast pace of change in society, even then. We needed to adapt, and adapt quickly. The nursing profession was, it seems in the 1960s-70s, a popular choice of vocation of female school leavers, especially if it involved a foreign country, usually the UK. But cultural discovery could also be experienced at home as a big-city girl got an eye-opening adventure from a teacher’s posting to a far-off conservative East Coast state. </div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div></span></div><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh1NnzawtmkSetO2i2VrlZVOFUTjq8FoCyhi2DC7wTMqKi5L-mSomb6Ld9n4_ue2fuZlUqWYbiwDwKwanetncOFTBPU7TLPTtcBRnZ5uPWTYOfTC1BedX4pnfv2NIfCt36APU-PwX4tI3UgcbCDHfXU0dqcX67Gb0PVqN_-ZIOBbTyGBOL_EwLraY3S/s580/20221028_175833.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="457" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh1NnzawtmkSetO2i2VrlZVOFUTjq8FoCyhi2DC7wTMqKi5L-mSomb6Ld9n4_ue2fuZlUqWYbiwDwKwanetncOFTBPU7TLPTtcBRnZ5uPWTYOfTC1BedX4pnfv2NIfCt36APU-PwX4tI3UgcbCDHfXU0dqcX67Gb0PVqN_-ZIOBbTyGBOL_EwLraY3S/s16000/20221028_175833.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>From 'Deepavali Nostalgia'</i></td></tr></tbody></table><p>The nine stories in <b>Fun and Festivities</b> convey the spirit of family togetherness during festivals and holidays, our great obsession with food, and priceless recipes and skills passed on by our mothers . There are cheeky accounts of childhood adventures at the cinema and kids being kids playing with each other. Alas, that cinema in Malacca is now in a sorry state of disrepair while children in 2022 play with tech toys indoors, not hopscotching outside. A trip to a popular park provides gentle flashbacks to a less crowded and more innocent time, while<i> 'Getting Old'</i> reminds our Warga Mas that there is life in us still, so stay healthy and enjoy it! </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhTlZGYLwMAYWeXPky8CBOrG9COiToluysatCJnLiuE0Pj_QHywDSqSnAaFA7y4F5V02-bqgHrRXHUczT1c9n-aDvZDLto0NGWyvtwrmSzy-LX65d2N19PuO3Z3cm5xBEHOu7im35CPFhJAS3hfsmh41BXVxntMNZGzptCvdL-5UKeX51vxpccdK8E_/s580/ipiccy_image.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="580" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhTlZGYLwMAYWeXPky8CBOrG9COiToluysatCJnLiuE0Pj_QHywDSqSnAaFA7y4F5V02-bqgHrRXHUczT1c9n-aDvZDLto0NGWyvtwrmSzy-LX65d2N19PuO3Z3cm5xBEHOu7im35CPFhJAS3hfsmh41BXVxntMNZGzptCvdL-5UKeX51vxpccdK8E_/s16000/ipiccy_image.jpg" /></a></div><br /><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh3gD72I_DP_kFe5OD8MxprNH8BjOKWc8h6VKcVupGbYRj5FMq0juHLDz1mG_aelsSRAWI8jrRfbtbYTFa9oC6HgNRVDMgNiSBlJLq9At3hTlgLQGp-yoOBoNEObkLnODBpvYZgcguRuNtvtkFFOEHbjMtMTtTSWcQx5homw230VUKgg8CpQ4tg5bYE/s580/ipiccy_image%20(1).jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="547" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh3gD72I_DP_kFe5OD8MxprNH8BjOKWc8h6VKcVupGbYRj5FMq0juHLDz1mG_aelsSRAWI8jrRfbtbYTFa9oC6HgNRVDMgNiSBlJLq9At3hTlgLQGp-yoOBoNEObkLnODBpvYZgcguRuNtvtkFFOEHbjMtMTtTSWcQx5homw230VUKgg8CpQ4tg5bYE/s16000/ipiccy_image%20(1).jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>The images above did not make it into the book, but we remember them well growing up <br />in the 60s and 70s.</i></td></tr></tbody></table><p><b>'Our Stories, Our Legacy'</b> is thoroughly Malaysian in character and flavour. In every story, on every page, we discern common threads of a shared culture and values system through our upbringing and schooling, family life, sense of humour, love of food, friendships, and even entertainment, amongst many things. Despite our different ethnicities, religions and customs, we are Malaysian at our core. Whether set in Klang, Kuala Lumpur, Teluk Anson or Temerloh and Kota Bharu, the writers’ stories feel like a warm hug or a nice teh tarik on a rainy day. </p><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgFkSBvSb6mRm9QQlZO2T4CDQlaYgQcqVSQibdx1oHMW5jFPjFtbI5eSP2OquUV1OIPQK1EGtMSAJR1i9A6ec-tyWE7wM6Qsx4Ax8xOw7BnR_JFcM2a6jbxD2svzrTMl5G7LOqiUJ2sXx5V4zyPAjl_46R-7J9rIAep4kmRYxBdFRbmCusBda324_CY/s736/20220218_155234%20-%20Copy.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="736" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgFkSBvSb6mRm9QQlZO2T4CDQlaYgQcqVSQibdx1oHMW5jFPjFtbI5eSP2OquUV1OIPQK1EGtMSAJR1i9A6ec-tyWE7wM6Qsx4Ax8xOw7BnR_JFcM2a6jbxD2svzrTMl5G7LOqiUJ2sXx5V4zyPAjl_46R-7J9rIAep4kmRYxBdFRbmCusBda324_CY/s16000/20220218_155234%20-%20Copy.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>A collage of vintage photos that we couldn't include due to space constraints. They tell of the old days when the pace was slow and leisurely, and there was always time to relax and enjoy life .</i></td></tr></tbody></table><p>For younger readers, perhaps from the later Baby Boomers onwards, this collection of stories is a legacy to you from the Merdeka generation. If you are in your 20s, 30s or even 40s, you may not recognise the world of the 1950s, ‘60s and ‘70s, but our senior citizens, growing up then, had fun, with similar hopes and aspirations for their future. While we all now wrestle with the latest flip-phones, 5G, AI or hybrid work place in a post-Covid world, do take time out to give <b>'Our Stories, Our Legacy'</b> a read. It may make you relax and smile, and you will certainly look at our senior citizens, including your (older) parents and grandparents, with new eyes. </p><p>-----------------------------------</p><p><b>What others say about the book</b></p><p><i>‘This book is a treasure that documents the different webs of life and trajectories of Malay, Chinese and Indian communities in Malaysia, culminating in harmonious cohesion, away for life that is truly Malaysian.’ </i></p><p><i>‘This is a book I cannot stop reading.’</i></p><p><i>‘This is indeed a huge contribution, the first of its kind, by a group of seniors to leave behind priceless memories for themselves, their families, the community and future generations to come.’</i></p><p><i>"I started reading the book which Angeline kindly delivered today. I could not put it down!"</i></p><p><i>"My mother also read a story from it (about BB Park) and she loved it. So the book is for anyone upwards of our age group and would make great gifts."</i></p><p><i>"I recognised so many things mentioned, from collecting autographs to eating shaved ice balls to the description of playing five stones and hopscotch. The best thing is that I can share the book with my children and they will know what growing up was like for me."</i></p><p><i></i></p><p><i>"Can't wait to read mine. Also thought they would make great gifts. It's great that all these stories are written down before they're lost. We have a very different new generation today that doesn't even know what fountain pens, rotary phones etc are."</i></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjVCLV3aM7qKX2fXpuAC75SnPdVy-XsVFixOLAiiXW2pXXFuHZWC3RWioevjBzryO3b4n2-bo-9WPP3OJ9MCsjLBUeTVW-b7ySPn6COW0BlU1pSWYolOztBZOci0DZHvrWAzG3xxsDuk8B7zkCtP6beVM2tFEpHtl8aMh6f-1a_QxMFdVeQUpjPc6LU/s907/312202479_10162069420487785_1338437048659622544_n%20-%20Copy%20(1).jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="907" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjVCLV3aM7qKX2fXpuAC75SnPdVy-XsVFixOLAiiXW2pXXFuHZWC3RWioevjBzryO3b4n2-bo-9WPP3OJ9MCsjLBUeTVW-b7ySPn6COW0BlU1pSWYolOztBZOci0DZHvrWAzG3xxsDuk8B7zkCtP6beVM2tFEpHtl8aMh6f-1a_QxMFdVeQUpjPc6LU/s16000/312202479_10162069420487785_1338437048659622544_n%20-%20Copy%20(1).jpg" /></a></div><p></p>Copies of the book are available for sale at locations in Mont Kiara, Bangsar and Ampang. Please contact Lily for more info. Thank you. </div>seniorsaloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15349552912264950538noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2398906867139907280.post-32330578105251329222022-09-25T14:37:00.004+08:002022-09-25T22:01:06.139+08:00VISITING THE WORLD'S FIRST DEMENTIA VILLAGE<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjfcE7-6ugthErUqLlVEYRwUmkHhA7NrZJSQYHxZYG2y-NDfF-KYVvs32ZTh_a8ltG3vpmdcllZ8lX-quLZBkW6hM6toiu68lLhu8txB5x0Sq7wJjwr1IPlLb2-SkAwWwWognfmQNMyDsU/s1600/me.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjfcE7-6ugthErUqLlVEYRwUmkHhA7NrZJSQYHxZYG2y-NDfF-KYVvs32ZTh_a8ltG3vpmdcllZ8lX-quLZBkW6hM6toiu68lLhu8txB5x0Sq7wJjwr1IPlLb2-SkAwWwWognfmQNMyDsU/s16000/me.jpg" /></a></div><div><br /></div><div>September is World Dementia Awareness Month. I am reminded of my visit to Hogeweyk in 2015. It was definitely an eye-opener. What prompted the visit was my interest in dementia, in particular, Alzheimer's Disease (AD). My mother was diagnosed with AD in 2011 after a fall. She had fractured her hip and was in hospital for surgery. During her stay there the doctors noticed certain signs of AD in her, and advised me to send her to Dr Philip Poi at UMMC for a diagnosis. That marked the start of my caregiving AD journey with my mom. She passed away in Feb 2021. </div><div><br /></div><div>In recent years there has been much attention given to raising awareness of AD, the early signs and how to care for persons with dementia (PWD). There are now a few purpose-built daycare centres for PWD. The majority are in aged care centres and nursing homes. A big Thank You to <b><a href="https://adfm.org.my/" target="_blank">Alzheimer's Foundation of Malaysia (ADFM)</a></b> for playing a huge role in educating us on AD, and pioneering the first dementia daycare and residential care homes in KL and Selangor. Also for creating a much-needed support network for AD carers. </div><div><br /></div><div>Let me share this article below written in August 2015 after my visit to Hogeweyk. I haven't been back for a second visit. </div><div style="text-align: center;"><b>~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~</b></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div>
Thanks to an unexpected birthday gift of a return air ticket to Amsterdam, I had the opportunity to visit Hogewey Village. It has been on my wish list since I first read about the place two years ago, and watched CNN's Dr Sanjay Gupta's insightful documentary 'Dementia Village' (video below). Now I can happily strike Hogewey off my wish list.<br />
<br />
The prime mover behind this innovative concept is co-founder and former nurse Yvonne van Amerongen. I had emailed her earlier requesting permission to visit the facility with Marianne Abbink Lankhorst, my Dutch friend. She wrote back to say we were both welcomed to visit anytime. Excellent!<br />
<br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgR7DXycOis1weeATxsktXpsK9N-idx0GXfJLfNICtVeEEbCip2MMPJkqXMzVfjAZ1ckbg42FnzbfqFojtIZC-u6eANbEc3u-xRwZAaSdKdMhUymvQyb8SmuYAsGHSb_PQzpZzRE78MtmY/s1600/map.jpg" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="284" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgR7DXycOis1weeATxsktXpsK9N-idx0GXfJLfNICtVeEEbCip2MMPJkqXMzVfjAZ1ckbg42FnzbfqFojtIZC-u6eANbEc3u-xRwZAaSdKdMhUymvQyb8SmuYAsGHSb_PQzpZzRE78MtmY/s320/map.jpg" width="320" /></a></div>
So there we were at Hogewey on a warm Thursday afternoon of 29 July 2015. Visitors enter and exit via the sliding door which is controlled by the receptionist. The door remains closed to the residents. They are not allowed out of the facility on their own.<br />
<br />
We were given a map showing the layout of the place, and several information sheets about Hogewey. We had the freedom to move around and explore but were reminded to respect the privacy of the residents. In other words, no peering into their living quarters or taking their photos without their permission. But we were welcome to use the information and images provided on the <b><a href="http://translate.google.com.my/translate?hl=en&sl=nl&u=http://www.vivium.nl/hogeweyk&prev=search">Vivium website</a></b>. (Select the option of viewing it in English.)<br />
<br />
<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgzWeJ40iTRpiKx6r4FZiCqQU5wEwgEl-wsIEdUC44bl-1yVtoAZ97Hgt3f6NxofdzTgUaH0tu-YdmQcroYPeRw67YxTf57vOhSgWMfUPzU16auk3aTYwc2Chz0EZVofDOvJS483bOF9Ng/s1600/IMG_7301+-+Copy.JPG" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgzWeJ40iTRpiKx6r4FZiCqQU5wEwgEl-wsIEdUC44bl-1yVtoAZ97Hgt3f6NxofdzTgUaH0tu-YdmQcroYPeRw67YxTf57vOhSgWMfUPzU16auk3aTYwc2Chz0EZVofDOvJS483bOF9Ng/s1600/IMG_7301+-+Copy.JPG" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>Front view of Hogewey</i></td></tr>
</tbody></table>
<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiII6p9vHbCUmURfhYau14E3P3yJbH5Ncsz4m5csKe52r5vCJz8RIZt5fhwvP-WFOIQT6hkBcdI9bBzQfPm-GhZanWL2-od8bb5_sGQR3m6fiPlihyphenhyphenGhjvb26Q2p_vxU7Wq_CCKxo-VSog/s1600/IMG_7223+-+Copy.JPG" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiII6p9vHbCUmURfhYau14E3P3yJbH5Ncsz4m5csKe52r5vCJz8RIZt5fhwvP-WFOIQT6hkBcdI9bBzQfPm-GhZanWL2-od8bb5_sGQR3m6fiPlihyphenhyphenGhjvb26Q2p_vxU7Wq_CCKxo-VSog/s1600/IMG_7223+-+Copy.JPG" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>The homes and the courtyards. So much greenery and flowering shrubs, and benches everywhere.</i></td></tr>
</tbody></table>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjHC9dtQ2MWIcgOnexHV-PoX2Oq18wHIokXlst3jPff9VhN70AVFm7lTCp-FbnbxKq1UYztk0aTaUZkWTUTK2nCR5gwPbJzw2WS3jGOX9ofWuC6aBwam9CH3YH8KFf_cBTONhCn4qVFBEg/s1600/IMG_7257+-+Copy.JPG" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjHC9dtQ2MWIcgOnexHV-PoX2Oq18wHIokXlst3jPff9VhN70AVFm7lTCp-FbnbxKq1UYztk0aTaUZkWTUTK2nCR5gwPbJzw2WS3jGOX9ofWuC6aBwam9CH3YH8KFf_cBTONhCn4qVFBEg/s1600/IMG_7257+-+Copy.JPG" /></a></div>
<br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEieJpwGihx8gnkjm5qj1kkpVwfj4WekLSAPEquABcBai8tVDHPKETpOkvXdTwahP3I1dpl6GqkTWpOoG4_NbMcz82wg0yUm2NCHhPg3Nv1mYJBZI_cRoJ5ZjphSRUZu98kwueaUtXAOGtg/s1600/IMG_7227+-+Copy.JPG" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEieJpwGihx8gnkjm5qj1kkpVwfj4WekLSAPEquABcBai8tVDHPKETpOkvXdTwahP3I1dpl6GqkTWpOoG4_NbMcz82wg0yUm2NCHhPg3Nv1mYJBZI_cRoJ5ZjphSRUZu98kwueaUtXAOGtg/s1600/IMG_7227+-+Copy.JPG" /></a></div>
<br />
<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEicvk2X7EHV1wj6bJgiF2OmT_jppnsTnHeVd34ieegDEatIHMTsPhc2xgHG2NMvRqQ5ZhzmOpZ7k-xRI9lrLJMNBsCYy5SuwQRCnL6wkVL22cASgO9xyt_Ia8AAHVxg8-Z3doF87QHwVRM/s1600/IMG_7269+-+Copy.JPG" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEicvk2X7EHV1wj6bJgiF2OmT_jppnsTnHeVd34ieegDEatIHMTsPhc2xgHG2NMvRqQ5ZhzmOpZ7k-xRI9lrLJMNBsCYy5SuwQRCnL6wkVL22cASgO9xyt_Ia8AAHVxg8-Z3doF87QHwVRM/s1600/IMG_7269+-+Copy.JPG" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>The Indonesian lifestyle corner. Indonesia was once a Dutch colony.</i></td></tr>
</tbody></table>
<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjZUy2uzAG6irgELdmhIge_Q3DjuQcI3xutL2wDlzo5MbshPQ_ZfgWuHg53yBRm_YGCR4XTe51polDgCiVUoRnPyxA5rWAUfBa436rvTNcZs2LsqvSHjwn6UwD84CXiTTtKRAwX-XfapkE/s1600/lifestyles.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjZUy2uzAG6irgELdmhIge_Q3DjuQcI3xutL2wDlzo5MbshPQ_ZfgWuHg53yBRm_YGCR4XTe51polDgCiVUoRnPyxA5rWAUfBa436rvTNcZs2LsqvSHjwn6UwD84CXiTTtKRAwX-XfapkE/s1600/lifestyles.jpg" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>As we had no access to the homes, this composite image is taken from internet sources. It gives you an idea of the different lifestyle settings. Residents are housed in groups according to the lifestyle they are familiar with. </i></td></tr>
</tbody></table>
<br />
Hogewey is the world's first village built specifically for people in the advanced stage of dementia. The concept for it is based on the belief that dementia patients can still enjoy a relatively normal life if they live together with like-minded people in an environment that is familiar to them.<br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
</div>
<br />
<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg0U0UHxYace_gIREzaAlGVVE9RrECnHvhzlLo25LmSKlY57h05vvzJDjImSfV_4bVqgrgUcbl9efM5xagvAVjcX6JG9rou_zgJZqRaoecomSAwfRUUgknVLoD10rV289KFZeVnBuf3VX8/s1600/dmCollage.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg0U0UHxYace_gIREzaAlGVVE9RrECnHvhzlLo25LmSKlY57h05vvzJDjImSfV_4bVqgrgUcbl9efM5xagvAVjcX6JG9rou_zgJZqRaoecomSAwfRUUgknVLoD10rV289KFZeVnBuf3VX8/s1600/dmCollage.jpg" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>Residents share a common dining room and living room (Images: <b><a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2109801/Dementiaville-How-experimental-new-town-taking-elderly-happier-healthier-pasts-astonishing-results.html">Daily Mail</a></b>)</i></td></tr>
</tbody></table>
<br />
There are currently 152 residents at Hogewey, with six to seven housed in each of the 23 homes. grouped into seven distinct lifestyle settings: urban, homely, cultural, traditional, Gooi (well-to-do), Indonesian and Christian. Residents have their own bedrooms but share a common living room, dining room and kitchen. Each home has one or two staff to look after the residents and do the cooking.<br />
<br />
<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjZKt-eMvCw-XFH1YXjwgNc4VUAm_hjogL6DrMCLP8xRZDws5zjftS2wA096PrM93nhpxMtMIg5V0jvkZEq5AS12JwK3yzk5sOyC36ebTjaRN6ne0ziAJydjEWkZwXb7FAKB2qE3gbEPk0/s1600/upper+floor.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjZKt-eMvCw-XFH1YXjwgNc4VUAm_hjogL6DrMCLP8xRZDws5zjftS2wA096PrM93nhpxMtMIg5V0jvkZEq5AS12JwK3yzk5sOyC36ebTjaRN6ne0ziAJydjEWkZwXb7FAKB2qE3gbEPk0/s1600/upper+floor.jpg" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>Another view of the homes. </i></td></tr>
</tbody></table>
<br />
The staff at Hogewey outnumber the residents 4:1. You will see them as housekeepers, shop assistants and minders, but you won't find them in staff uniform. Volunteers are identified by a nondescript badge they wear. Hogewey takes great pains to avoid any resemblance to a hospital or a nursing home. Instead, it strives to make Hogewey as close as possible to a small gated neighbourhood complete with its own supermarket, cafe, restaurant, beauty salon and theatre. There is a large central square and smaller ones or courtyards with benches and chairs where residents can sit and soak in the sunshine, weather permitting.<br />
<br />
(When we were there, there was intermittent rain. That explains why you don't see any residents outdoors in the photos.)<br />
<br />
Join me as I take you on a tour of Hogewey.<br />
<br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjHiE1ZW3APJb2oX-K7VI11mK6auPocKh7WxNqREVRGo1No31Kc2ATixaq-ke8vPzYUac8G5vJqbf4-YxQ5BAUOE-24vQYG1rf7RNqkoKuKCfAnpGHw5_ShlFEbPhfchPHbCmCIyHFUnTI/s1600/IMG_7215+-+Copy.JPG" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjHiE1ZW3APJb2oX-K7VI11mK6auPocKh7WxNqREVRGo1No31Kc2ATixaq-ke8vPzYUac8G5vJqbf4-YxQ5BAUOE-24vQYG1rf7RNqkoKuKCfAnpGHw5_ShlFEbPhfchPHbCmCIyHFUnTI/s1600/IMG_7215+-+Copy.JPG" /></a></div>
<br />
<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgyHv75T5CJu7eFn0EfuG59_FgSbIHxRxXnBNPn5kfvPdb3w0KX8N57fExGaiiIz99Fkzc48du0fHhVTwY8MpUXkPr-0aXRpt4KbJqOToatuc1o8QFBCE7GUs4jXJsUxuouDv2eoc79NN4/s1600/boulevard.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgyHv75T5CJu7eFn0EfuG59_FgSbIHxRxXnBNPn5kfvPdb3w0KX8N57fExGaiiIz99Fkzc48du0fHhVTwY8MpUXkPr-0aXRpt4KbJqOToatuc1o8QFBCE7GUs4jXJsUxuouDv2eoc79NN4/s1600/boulevard.jpg" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>The main boulevard, with shops flanking both sides.</i></td></tr>
</tbody></table>
<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEijpZDelnHOgU6IZoxQ7LFLgiiui_D0I8uKBWEWMgPzeuvatutNfUR6_05uPYmssyDVoLJM1ceVXHpc_xkrjUvOzQGgxI31XSmJ9pYbZfgyib-N6s5KvO3v81bxcA5-DOkteh0KbdqGldE/s1600/cafe.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEijpZDelnHOgU6IZoxQ7LFLgiiui_D0I8uKBWEWMgPzeuvatutNfUR6_05uPYmssyDVoLJM1ceVXHpc_xkrjUvOzQGgxI31XSmJ9pYbZfgyib-N6s5KvO3v81bxcA5-DOkteh0KbdqGldE/s1600/cafe.jpg" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>The cafe is the first outlet you see on your left as you walk along the boulevard.</i></td></tr>
</tbody></table>
<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjurSbiB208aWNp6N0qQf0wCuiPZVd06OxqWwRQ76OUXEjXBiXCoTeRv5FIJe49zkDfHV5zHKtaz_ckQQKbJGyskselAhl4JUy0O6Tx0hOGXueDLU61Gajbzmav0r6Ii4_-Q45UmoX_8Mo/s1600/physio.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjurSbiB208aWNp6N0qQf0wCuiPZVd06OxqWwRQ76OUXEjXBiXCoTeRv5FIJe49zkDfHV5zHKtaz_ckQQKbJGyskselAhl4JUy0O6Tx0hOGXueDLU61Gajbzmav0r6Ii4_-Q45UmoX_8Mo/s1600/physio.jpg" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>This is probably where the residents go to work their muscles and limbs.</i></td></tr>
</tbody></table>
<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhguZ4adDHl_UaVNnjFC5xfdjWegGeERGIV8PPwe0ndpbfVgvFY3bC4oJal9nGZNiLoFTkFjPrfYbAd5xvg1WKh0_fnTh0Vb08PuZLV154neWPCpOa1H5qO9IIbARyQqTG4TdGuipo_YVE/s1600/DIY.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhguZ4adDHl_UaVNnjFC5xfdjWegGeERGIV8PPwe0ndpbfVgvFY3bC4oJal9nGZNiLoFTkFjPrfYbAd5xvg1WKh0_fnTh0Vb08PuZLV154neWPCpOa1H5qO9IIbARyQqTG4TdGuipo_YVE/s1600/DIY.jpg" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>There's even a repair shop in case anything needs fixing.</i></td></tr>
</tbody></table>
<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEigC8EU7SVBFMTm-etLIMpW1rSlFoe2qNOQNpp9SwhbB-dt0V83ghEAS4B1pyBNc85eueRzXJC9dWRYCBYuBQE-7eFEtpz0jx8-gUS4ZD2aXZUtjQTzXENGU_KgiINx93zFdN39j8GZHBk/s1600/daily+mail2.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEigC8EU7SVBFMTm-etLIMpW1rSlFoe2qNOQNpp9SwhbB-dt0V83ghEAS4B1pyBNc85eueRzXJC9dWRYCBYuBQE-7eFEtpz0jx8-gUS4ZD2aXZUtjQTzXENGU_KgiINx93zFdN39j8GZHBk/s1600/daily+mail2.jpg" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>Inside the beauty salon. We didn't get to enter so this image is taken from the <b><a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2109801/Dementiaville-How-experimental-new-town-taking-elderly-happier-healthier-pasts-astonishing-results.html">Daily Mail</a></b>.</i></td></tr>
</tbody></table>
<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhAwgC1YCuY0mzeoUzZnUPxB7ZKlRoF5QbmPcy_mLR1plzTxoGM2WxT0Ne2jAG8MKbpsFjZ7ifp2WDxBageuELXTcnNTwdlbhQ2C-S2AR_IIxG31kxNrEEsW-KQ73XLqs1sf2QXiJXBgx8/s1600/passage.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhAwgC1YCuY0mzeoUzZnUPxB7ZKlRoF5QbmPcy_mLR1plzTxoGM2WxT0Ne2jAG8MKbpsFjZ7ifp2WDxBageuELXTcnNTwdlbhQ2C-S2AR_IIxG31kxNrEEsW-KQ73XLqs1sf2QXiJXBgx8/s1600/passage.jpg" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>This is The Passage - a spacious hall where the residents gather to enjoy group activities. There is always music playing in the background as the elderly love music from the old days. Expect to see some of them dancing too. We did.</i><br />
<i><br /></i>
<br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEit2R4V_9cMjNBaRWzeYQUetexHJzgnbX308LDvJZYuQ-sGiwAN9Vglc5ahIm9dAKpkJYOUqn7s9q3zqGkrlR_-pXbkbHpHNI6jWo5BYm4g_a-iamz7SNqUrbd3JieSD81OKJCC68e647s/s1600/art+roomCollage.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEit2R4V_9cMjNBaRWzeYQUetexHJzgnbX308LDvJZYuQ-sGiwAN9Vglc5ahIm9dAKpkJYOUqn7s9q3zqGkrlR_-pXbkbHpHNI6jWo5BYm4g_a-iamz7SNqUrbd3JieSD81OKJCC68e647s/s1600/art+roomCollage.jpg" /></a></div>
<i style="font-size: 12.8px;">That's Marianne at the door of the Rembrandt Room. This is where the residents enjoy art and craft activities.</i></td></tr>
</tbody></table>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
</div>
<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgd3a8uy5B7Q_9OoMVA8x8fn6-CB_A3ymyJhzc5do-V5MAkhtjN86YrXUE9VQtheTmvvKO5ZdYYA7MFbdwpmoppfUkLuU7tJ8YbGjMvn_gcogC73oXxT1Gw6XhVlTTvM5RObcclwGrYKEU/s1600/supermart1.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgd3a8uy5B7Q_9OoMVA8x8fn6-CB_A3ymyJhzc5do-V5MAkhtjN86YrXUE9VQtheTmvvKO5ZdYYA7MFbdwpmoppfUkLuU7tJ8YbGjMvn_gcogC73oXxT1Gw6XhVlTTvM5RObcclwGrYKEU/s1600/supermart1.jpg" /></a><br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjTfL6N-5v4k20tY17rg-Ec2X7gh1t4ZUA3YcnK7a0TRlkqfOSePg9nAysSpq-GeNSG3O6Ilb1_j73g7qrNJZZSEpDd7SSAkLjxD1WGIfWrzqZetmD1bEoycdbi4yz36BvMv0SgmyTnhy4/s1600/IMG_7241+-+Copy.JPG" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjTfL6N-5v4k20tY17rg-Ec2X7gh1t4ZUA3YcnK7a0TRlkqfOSePg9nAysSpq-GeNSG3O6Ilb1_j73g7qrNJZZSEpDd7SSAkLjxD1WGIfWrzqZetmD1bEoycdbi4yz36BvMv0SgmyTnhy4/s1600/IMG_7241+-+Copy.JPG" /></a></div>
<i style="font-size: 12.8px;">The supermarket at Hogewey is well-stocked. Every item carries a price tag. The cashier issues a receipt for purchases but no cash changes hands. All transactions are covered in the residents' payment scheme.</i></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><br /></td></tr>
</tbody></table>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
</div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgbfhZATeSRQmLbUEzjmChcCEjMxn2r1d1pS4HAcPU9szRjnkyvfqmqJbuSSLTXgz2E6XL-jE0oWxlNSJJeVG-XSqV5zkDZ5sSlWyC7H-_FZMexlcKA5xah7FcjHgbqBqxFmIsK-3IDxy8/s1600/restaurant.jpg"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgbfhZATeSRQmLbUEzjmChcCEjMxn2r1d1pS4HAcPU9szRjnkyvfqmqJbuSSLTXgz2E6XL-jE0oWxlNSJJeVG-XSqV5zkDZ5sSlWyC7H-_FZMexlcKA5xah7FcjHgbqBqxFmIsK-3IDxy8/s1600/restaurant.jpg" /></a></div>
<br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
</div>
There are no locks anywhere. Doors and elevators open and close as you step on the weight-sensitive floor panel. Residents have the freedom to move around and participate in the daily programme of activities if they wish to. The objective is to make life in Hogewey as normal as possible, and as close to what they are accustomed to.<br />
<br />
<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhiJ9dKtNeaMzVXj-dYqdJVEg-1Uoli2oAoHmr1tdGcBlXWVxYNDrMTis0OmCyt9G2sbAM2L0wg0UhUSUQ8qeYOukx4z97VOJHdup3Mi6n6tfhARXmMt3mN8Il7mgocquwb96K-nXtS7FI/s1600/lifts.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhiJ9dKtNeaMzVXj-dYqdJVEg-1Uoli2oAoHmr1tdGcBlXWVxYNDrMTis0OmCyt9G2sbAM2L0wg0UhUSUQ8qeYOukx4z97VOJHdup3Mi6n6tfhARXmMt3mN8Il7mgocquwb96K-nXtS7FI/s1600/lifts.jpg" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>No need to press any button or turn any door knob. Doors open when you step on the floor panel in front of it.</i></td></tr>
</tbody></table>
<br />
According to Yvonne in the CNN interview, the concept works. Residents do not need as much medication, they seem happier and are living longer. The Hogewey model has been replicated in Canada, Switzerland and the UK, and that's evidence of its success, aside from the awards it has won since 2010. Apparently those on the waiting list have to wait at least a year before there is a vacancy. That only happens when a resident has passed on. Hogewey is where those with severe dementia come to live out their remaining years in peace and with dignity.<br />
<br />
<iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="327" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/LwiOBlyWpko" width="582"></iframe>
<br />
<br />
The residents I met while strolling around Hogewey gave me friendly smiles and nods. Except for one resident in a wheelchair cuddling a doll, visitors would not know that the elderly folk enjoying activities in The Passage have Alzheimer's. A group was happily playing a board game, another was setting up pins for bowling.<br />
<br />
To the outsider, Hogewey is a microcosm of a make-believe world. But to the residents, it is a reality that is a continuation of life as they know it, in a setting that they are familiar with.<br />
<br />
<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiMgTcX3GKGcgFmBmA2Zrq9lVyaVBYb3ZJyOjQVUik0uruLvORvpHO1DJvDDZ1skCeO6-Krd9DLFH4mgraFtaBhmPY65H-m-wZb6LfPUtQ04bCamvZwVyMhTthRW54sYJIkyD4do4ZOJS4/s1600/activities.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiMgTcX3GKGcgFmBmA2Zrq9lVyaVBYb3ZJyOjQVUik0uruLvORvpHO1DJvDDZ1skCeO6-Krd9DLFH4mgraFtaBhmPY65H-m-wZb6LfPUtQ04bCamvZwVyMhTthRW54sYJIkyD4do4ZOJS4/s1600/activities.jpg" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>Programme of activities in Dutch, of course.</i></td></tr>
</tbody></table>
<br />
The burning question readers might want to ask is: How much are the fees? Around USD3600 per resident per month. It's heavily subsidized by the Dutch government, otherwise it would cost upwards from USD8000 a month. At such figures, only the super rich with dementia in Malaysia and Singapore can afford to live out their final days in this utopia.<div> <br />
<div style="text-align: center;"><b>~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~</b></div><div style="text-align: left;">As far as I know, there are no dementia homes or daycare centres set up by the government here, only aged care centres and welfare homes for the elderly. Privately-run nursing homes accept PWD, but this is not ideal as the care of PWD differs greatly from that of other diseases or illnesses. <b><a href="https://healthyageing.org/" target="_blank">Malaysian Healthy Ageing Society (MHAS)</a></b> is one of several NGOs that conduct training courses for caregivers. In Singapore, such courses are open to domestic helpers. </div></div>seniorsaloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15349552912264950538noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2398906867139907280.post-12026818744992117562022-08-31T18:23:00.007+08:002022-09-01T20:59:49.120+08:00TO FULLY RETIRE OR CONTINUE WORKING? THAT'S THE QUESTION<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjvck6VNzugt7MeEdh7uVCs94KtVocrVzvcZlwITZljF5dcoQWXRinsY19AYIXLwUlyIJSA1mZ4dNzVBHLIf5LsbNk8eAewyPIW1jursHG9pe0dN0Af5yeMvPbiuo9t9MQqKTNlsKYR6_k/s1600/26b550a.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em; text-align: center;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjvck6VNzugt7MeEdh7uVCs94KtVocrVzvcZlwITZljF5dcoQWXRinsY19AYIXLwUlyIJSA1mZ4dNzVBHLIf5LsbNk8eAewyPIW1jursHG9pe0dN0Af5yeMvPbiuo9t9MQqKTNlsKYR6_k/s16000/26b550a.jpg" /></a></div><p>We need to have at least RM240,000 in savings by the time we retire at 55, so we have been told. With prices escalating and inflation showing no sign of abating, for those living in the urban areas, this figure is grossly inadequate. Long term age care alone will swallow up a sizeable chunk of our savings. </p><p>Here's a guide from the <b><a href="https://www.kwsp.gov.my/">Employees Provident Fund</a></b> to help us with some estimates:</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi4BrTmRPhqvU2MjDn5d_AuFw1EEeBYz2d3MoOq5ooCRt5n2P3bbAtuSVIR8G_WeRb12TEyjlRMWDqMSIOYpoZ02b5EXyuAJE8a7UBwgkLzOa-uvFUBvXrobzcETjbjqeuHOFF_ZTu_2Q5cgt1wLO25Ceq1BA-VNE1ys0IZbbgRwamA2dkC08wzNBvJ/s492/belanja.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="266" data-original-width="492" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi4BrTmRPhqvU2MjDn5d_AuFw1EEeBYz2d3MoOq5ooCRt5n2P3bbAtuSVIR8G_WeRb12TEyjlRMWDqMSIOYpoZ02b5EXyuAJE8a7UBwgkLzOa-uvFUBvXrobzcETjbjqeuHOFF_ZTu_2Q5cgt1wLO25Ceq1BA-VNE1ys0IZbbgRwamA2dkC08wzNBvJ/s16000/belanja.jpg" /></a></div><div style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgvK_qTuf7Lz_f4r4r4uApta-jJTqU-ro_qEQ951rb1KBkA8-r3xTk2HXtGsEQsCydf_0zICPP5d4U9Znquzo6OvK40QJcRzivwTCWN7QiKgduX1RxRhbTcIZpFGzjYSgcYa2PNR4d5sMewUPyHihp9V-8zvmUKxoqXnaotPB7NhwBDs8I6ihvNiZqJ/s492/budget%202.PNG" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="413" data-original-width="492" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgvK_qTuf7Lz_f4r4r4uApta-jJTqU-ro_qEQ951rb1KBkA8-r3xTk2HXtGsEQsCydf_0zICPP5d4U9Znquzo6OvK40QJcRzivwTCWN7QiKgduX1RxRhbTcIZpFGzjYSgcYa2PNR4d5sMewUPyHihp9V-8zvmUKxoqXnaotPB7NhwBDs8I6ihvNiZqJ/s16000/budget%202.PNG" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><i>(Above adapted from <b><a href="https://www.kwsp.gov.my/documents/20126/131635/Panduan_Belanjawanku.pdf/76872674-983a-3860-19a3-c47d2d2d2ab6 ">Panduan Belanjawanku</a></b>.)</i></div><p>That's why more and more retirees are returning to work life almost immediately after retirement. With longer life expectancy and the ever rising cost of living, most retirees simply cannot afford to enjoy full retirement. Would a 60-year old retiree have accumulated enough in his EPF to support him for the next 15 to 20 years? The answer is an absolute NO.</p>What is the solution? Go back to work? Easier said than done. Retirees face age discrimination in the workplace. Unless they have skills that are highly sought after, and unless the government offers a helping hand to retrain and upskill older workers, many will have difficulty re-entering the job market.<div><br /></div><div>But thanks to enterprising young individuals like Jasmin Amirul, looking for re-employment is now a lot easier. Today the <b><a href="https://hireseniors.my/">hire.seniors website</a></b> is the go-to place for seniors looking for employment. The company conducts workshops for those who register with them to upgrade their skills including teaching them to write a cv and helping them be work-ready. <br /><div><br /></div><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEilmMoS0-zPy9XWjXIg2gm954gHBLIT0yVrcFJR4Jd0uW4nACZg-vVqc9TQKYmIUjINkrtfi3cjd-FqCDWtGrY3xZu3g7qQBQ-vJcgK6soy1mk2qOLTBIHMQOF6ArxaYPMjRDmFvnshSPsNPzZcExYVilf5T4LU_-3UPBl-llfE34yqxGBwVpO9ROxK/s580/ipiccy_image.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="296" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEilmMoS0-zPy9XWjXIg2gm954gHBLIT0yVrcFJR4Jd0uW4nACZg-vVqc9TQKYmIUjINkrtfi3cjd-FqCDWtGrY3xZu3g7qQBQ-vJcgK6soy1mk2qOLTBIHMQOF6ArxaYPMjRDmFvnshSPsNPzZcExYVilf5T4LU_-3UPBl-llfE34yqxGBwVpO9ROxK/s16000/ipiccy_image.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>Jasmin Amirul, co-founder of <a href="http://hire.seniors"><b>hire.seniors</b></a></i></td></tr></tbody></table><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div>Not all retirees return to work to generate an income. Those who are financially comfortable wouldn't mind doing gig work or part-time work with flexible hours. They do so to keep active and remain socially connected. The extra money doesn't hurt. James Quah (<i>pic below</i>) is an excellent example. He has been featured in several festival videos and commercials playing the part of an elderly father, a resident at an assisted living facility and various other roles.</div><div><br /></div><div>With the growing interest in the seniors market, there is a demand for seniors to promote products and services. TV agencies and production companies are always scouting for older models for their clients, e.g. fashion houses, healthcare companies, retirement homes, to showcase their products. The pay can be quite good.</div><div><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgmCJEP8xupDgzMT1xGoqb8thEsyIbrOFeS5MOhNG0hIu6YxDwZ_2fOPxcYJ18BgHfJYJGIQCT5uUiUwLL56smKHLfnsW_wELUbmZoWDWz9iakQBKkvjBilNEWEvqPktRe6NCTtkggP9LwuSkf6uk7TtD0ocasO7KCVyTt5JcAc1NUDzrROBC4VRU7o/s580/james.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="494" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgmCJEP8xupDgzMT1xGoqb8thEsyIbrOFeS5MOhNG0hIu6YxDwZ_2fOPxcYJ18BgHfJYJGIQCT5uUiUwLL56smKHLfnsW_wELUbmZoWDWz9iakQBKkvjBilNEWEvqPktRe6NCTtkggP9LwuSkf6uk7TtD0ocasO7KCVyTt5JcAc1NUDzrROBC4VRU7o/s16000/james.jpg" /></a></div><div><br /></div><div>If you don't fancy working for someone else, you can always start your own business and be your own boss. This involves taking on some risks, especially financial ones. If you are unable to secure a loan or find partners, would you have the business acumen and confidence to inject your retirement savings into the venture? How good is your appetite for risk-taking? Do the research and tick all the relevant boxes before you take the plunge. </div><div><br /></div><div>But having said that, <b><a href="https://www.gemconsortium.org/">data</a></b> shows the highest rate of entrepreneurship worldwide is in the 55-64 age group and the over-50 age group is twice as likely to be successful. Although data is not available for Malaysia, a simple survey among my network of friends seem to support this trend. As early as 2014, The Star did a cover feature on the "<b><a href="https://www.thestar.com.my/Business/SME/2014/09/10/Rise-of-the-olderpreneurs-More-retirees-are-opting-to-start-their-own-businesses/">Rise of the Older-preneurs".</a> </b>Here are some current examples.</div><div><br /></div><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhq0_3HEwbbXcMa5HnImAaY-C6nwfHpTSsFY76qxFZtPTk_2LQOCQ21G0xbJLkBZtrX7WOFM7q8onqnHxkpPoDM9lGfuqMeUvkdxmtWGLq8C7aa0zpYKLG9ymC2ZkMGRng_WaTRUwBxOPCEwJ2c64woxOq5axPF8frsj3i5TOqXFIaHV5Ffsvr6bFKK/s580/1degreeC-Richard-Koh-and-Ong-Bee-Yan.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="360" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhq0_3HEwbbXcMa5HnImAaY-C6nwfHpTSsFY76qxFZtPTk_2LQOCQ21G0xbJLkBZtrX7WOFM7q8onqnHxkpPoDM9lGfuqMeUvkdxmtWGLq8C7aa0zpYKLG9ymC2ZkMGRng_WaTRUwBxOPCEwJ2c64woxOq5axPF8frsj3i5TOqXFIaHV5Ffsvr6bFKK/s16000/1degreeC-Richard-Koh-and-Ong-Bee-Yan.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>(Source: <a href="https://mothership.sg/2020/11/1degreec-retrenchment-interview/">https://mothership.sg/2020/11/1degreec-retrenchment-interview/</a> )</i></td></tr></tbody></table><br /><div>Richard Koh, 56 and his wife Ong Bee Yan, 66, took the bold step when they started their 1degreeC Cold Brew Coffee. Through sheer resilience and determination, the couple overcame the initial challenges. Today, their business has taken off. Not only that, Bee Yan is now a professional model who has graced the pages of fashion magazines including Harper's Bazaar. Based on her own experience of not finding clothes that was age-appropriate and yet stylish, she decided to team up with Yacht21 to start their own line of trendy clothes called Y21 X grey_evolution collection. You can read more about it <b><a href="https://cnalifestyle.channelnewsasia.com/style-beauty/grey-evolution-model-ong-bee-yan-yacht-21-ageless-fashion-capsule-325161">HERE</a></b>.</div><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiYLu2W2Q4EiSGo1j2xih-ave8PlkyG6GB7mI6tB-bhTNRI_YrmWOWvRIzoiC1gJ5p15-1axijpUHfiNeT6mr48-YT6uSzcxtBDiNFuPQSUG0BVHZQAnwOmMuqmkLk9CmSqX9eyamkTi72qpqprqhk8DE_h8DxA06kuNbxWkmBQfuN5rais7owTVNHx/s580/ong%20bee%20yan.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="399" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiYLu2W2Q4EiSGo1j2xih-ave8PlkyG6GB7mI6tB-bhTNRI_YrmWOWvRIzoiC1gJ5p15-1axijpUHfiNeT6mr48-YT6uSzcxtBDiNFuPQSUG0BVHZQAnwOmMuqmkLk9CmSqX9eyamkTi72qpqprqhk8DE_h8DxA06kuNbxWkmBQfuN5rais7owTVNHx/s16000/ong%20bee%20yan.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>(Photo: Y21 X grey_evolution)</i></td></tr></tbody></table><div><br /></div><div>Retirees have a wealth of working experience and knowledge in specialised areas. One of the most popular encore careers (second career on retirement) is to set up a consultancy in your field of expertise. If you don't want the stress of setting up your own company, you could operate a simple home-based business making use of your skills and passion. Many of my women friends enjoy cooking and making handicrafts. Some have started providing homecooked meals on order, others deliver personal home services e.g. physiotherapy, manicure & pedicure, tuition. </div><div><br /></div><div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj0hP8oq8e5Ivxk1VWmi3Ez0kVHviKLTrbCBa9xeF_Z4Vn7jJgsoJ49wW0rhEhGUxOoWTVt2B6bBLE28d7sutR9ufLG1DcGQWnJrJi96DPRQlnFwfoaiWHFhDnwdHcIZX-If8ocWUJGFF6JNAgBQECM0ICa0ZGQ4R-BjxihbjTjFLfQMs84gPeQZ32k/s580/jc4.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="580" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj0hP8oq8e5Ivxk1VWmi3Ez0kVHviKLTrbCBa9xeF_Z4Vn7jJgsoJ49wW0rhEhGUxOoWTVt2B6bBLE28d7sutR9ufLG1DcGQWnJrJi96DPRQlnFwfoaiWHFhDnwdHcIZX-If8ocWUJGFF6JNAgBQECM0ICa0ZGQ4R-BjxihbjTjFLfQMs84gPeQZ32k/s16000/jc4.jpg" /></a></div><br /><div style="text-align: left;"><i>(Pic above: Jacey Choo has a passion for cooking and baking. She also runs a business in renting out traditional wedding costumes at <b><a href="https://www.facebook.com/ladyJCweddinghouse/">Lady JC Enterprises</a></b>, and is an instructor in floral arrangement at <b><a href="https://u3aklsel.wixsite.com/malaysia">University of the Third Age, KL & Selangor</a></b>. Truly an enterprising </i><i>senior!)</i></div></div><div><i><br /></i></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjmVMAtd9pSHAo9iMq7WSfi_OyB2lsITKJ_7XOGLZTroSaGPZa93N1dHXYEYt99o44QULs_q4xu6pK45LfkvVmhWJTREwJTVrAtqJcqlffc0X-xOCjcLM-9Rq9tUZPLiCMu2JWyARka4bTJIgyws8pGni4N009x2HuZH1QI_x9s258M6do2ULYEbK_f/s905/ken%20g%20-%20Copy.jpg" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="905" data-original-width="580" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjmVMAtd9pSHAo9iMq7WSfi_OyB2lsITKJ_7XOGLZTroSaGPZa93N1dHXYEYt99o44QULs_q4xu6pK45LfkvVmhWJTREwJTVrAtqJcqlffc0X-xOCjcLM-9Rq9tUZPLiCMu2JWyARka4bTJIgyws8pGni4N009x2HuZH1QI_x9s258M6do2ULYEbK_f/s320/ken%20g%20-%20Copy.jpg" width="205" /></a></div>With the country reaching aged nation status by 2040 when 15% of the population will be aged 60 and above, it makes good sense to cater to the needs and demands of this demographic segment of the population. Indeed retirees and older people are a fast growing market that is often ignored. Those who see the opportunities and are prepared to invest time and money in the emerging older consumers market will reap the benefits, like Ken G, a certified senior fitness specialist. He has established himself as a fitness trainer for senior citizens. He also does physiotherapy for older clients at their homes.</div></div><div><br /></div><div>If you are seriously considering turning entrepreneur, but unsure of what to go into, the diagram below may help. I am sure you would have heard of the Japanese 'ikigai', or purpose in life. Finding your ikigai will help boost your chances of succeeding in the business you want to get into should you plan to return to work. Leverage on your vast working experience, skills and interests. </div><div><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhqvq1vUV7KSr-y9_0edi7QiTeDI6jhbOc8wxni4lTM7wOdP0ztLFUBQIQKp3aCk8IdWbGftv4aBjcphXjnE_c5QTd-dMN0PTMSNY5DPwJ5EHmJZsVD7YSG86FSVGCI2T0GP8m76tjTQ5y29zoPoMbDZNJkxLTZAhKH1nzXF02ocs4arrqEWZ8LnmaQ/s580/ikigai_japanese_secret_to_a_joyful_life_pic.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="569" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhqvq1vUV7KSr-y9_0edi7QiTeDI6jhbOc8wxni4lTM7wOdP0ztLFUBQIQKp3aCk8IdWbGftv4aBjcphXjnE_c5QTd-dMN0PTMSNY5DPwJ5EHmJZsVD7YSG86FSVGCI2T0GP8m76tjTQ5y29zoPoMbDZNJkxLTZAhKH1nzXF02ocs4arrqEWZ8LnmaQ/s16000/ikigai_japanese_secret_to_a_joyful_life_pic.png" /></a></div><div><br /></div><div>Do read <b><i><a href="https://www.wemu.org/wemu-news/2020-02-11/modern-aging-senior-entrepreneurship-is-it-for-you#stream/0">Senior Entrepreneurship - Is it for you? </a></i></b></div><div><b></b></div></div>seniorsaloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15349552912264950538noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2398906867139907280.post-11904459017020546752022-07-31T16:13:00.009+08:002022-08-01T14:05:50.439+08:00REVIVING THE KAMPUNG SPIRIT IN CITY LIVING<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh_HdkuFie_4L3sgzSehjrKTbpEJwkqTMw6ByVhVOpzVJo0jiRwkfYaxY_XWVuovkqu2XZ-MV9ZG_moT-zWB6_oqhBkN_P3k8vkKhyVOObtiwSKopaD3JZA1yR5aqnpdbdG_J88EPynmjCrCz3XrLIRJyN_ZVp5POZ_nY5MOxzcXoAXGwF5ht6OEn4U/s580/desa%20288.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="327" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh_HdkuFie_4L3sgzSehjrKTbpEJwkqTMw6ByVhVOpzVJo0jiRwkfYaxY_XWVuovkqu2XZ-MV9ZG_moT-zWB6_oqhBkN_P3k8vkKhyVOObtiwSKopaD3JZA1yR5aqnpdbdG_J88EPynmjCrCz3XrLIRJyN_ZVp5POZ_nY5MOxzcXoAXGwF5ht6OEn4U/s16000/desa%20288.jpg" /></a></div><p>We need a new model for community living in urban townships, and definitely a new role for residents management committee (RMC). We need to revive the kampung spirit and bring it into our cities and towns. Today we have the sad situation of neighbours living within the same block, sharing the same premises for years, yet not know one another. They are total strangers - no names, no smiles or greetings when their paths cross in the common areas. The two years of living under Covid SOP restrictions has shown that we need to support one another to get through difficult times. That's why reviving the community spirit is so crucial especially for older people.</p><div>I have always felt the residents' management committee (RMC) can play a much bigger and more important role beyond mostly collecting maintenance fees and supervising the common areas. I shall use where I live as an example. There are 288 units in my taman or housing area. I was among the earliest resident-owners to move in when the project was completed in 1990. I was in the first RMC.</div><div><br /></div><div>Here are some of my proposals:</div><div><br /></div><div>1. The first step is to start a residents' services directory. The management office already has all the files. Just add on other info of residents e.g. field of expertise, work experience, what services they can provide e.g. child/elder care, food catering, home tuition. The RMC can promote this to the residents who can decide whether they want to be included in this directory or no. Actually why not? This directory will come in useful for residents/tenants who have services to offer, whether on a gratis basis or as a side income. Think of going to work minus the anxiety of wondering whether your elderly parent is safe alone at home versus the relief of knowing that a neighbour is helping to care for your parent or your child. Consider the convenience of home tuition or home repair services just doors away, or meals, personal grooming, tailoring as well as physiotherapy, etc delivered at your door-step by your friendly neighbour. Or for car-pooling and getting a lift from a neighbour. Or getting neighbours over for a mahjong game. Or watching a sports event together on TV or a movie on Netflix. The acts of neighbourliness are endless.</div><div><br /></div><div>2. The multi-function rooms or hall could be used for cooking demonstrations, health talks or skill-based workshops. I recall years ago we celebrated festivals e.g. Hari Raya, Mooncake festival, Deepavali in the garden. Neighbours brought their home-cooked dishes for the pot-luck dinner. The children had a great time running around while their parents chatted and made friends. I miss those get-togethers. They tapered off when the RMC underwent changes over the years with each new committee. The reason given was always lack of funds. I am more inclined to think it was lack of initiative. </div><div><br /></div><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh9K825z_uFrLhOOY6SR62r_p5LF1T1OtB43hwxnVQ0DPuULl8pYUt7MEpdU0aKHCPuRjljmAwpVjvpSzFj2bGMpmh3Sd_PhltQCYuRO-VDtZA1E7c7wsBjPmJ1j5YeU37rRnyAa_hlIBD-joDw6P-7SUWOGM53bdoc8RsJkQDL92sGAwpReMDlZQlm/s580/fruits.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="580" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh9K825z_uFrLhOOY6SR62r_p5LF1T1OtB43hwxnVQ0DPuULl8pYUt7MEpdU0aKHCPuRjljmAwpVjvpSzFj2bGMpmh3Sd_PhltQCYuRO-VDtZA1E7c7wsBjPmJ1j5YeU37rRnyAa_hlIBD-joDw6P-7SUWOGM53bdoc8RsJkQDL92sGAwpReMDlZQlm/s16000/fruits.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>Some of the many fruits grown by the residents including bananas, papayas, mangoes and chikus. Pity the durian tree didn't survive!</i></td></tr></tbody></table><i><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div></i><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">3. My taman doesn't have a community garden but those on the ground floor have a small patch of greenery that many have converted into a fruit/veg/herbal garden. I love the neighbourly spirit of some of the residents. One good example is Puan Hafsah who lovingly tends to her herbal and spice garden daily. There is also Mrs Lim who prefers to plant flowers and vegetables. She has several varieties of orchids in her corner lot garden. Both are happy to share their herbs and veggies with anyone who asks. In the common areas the resident gardeners have planted moringa, tapioca, aloe vera, lemon grass, chilli padi and more. Residents can help themselves to these.</div><div><br /></div><div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi22BFZ3PI3DeXQoh6MrYzb7rgWPvUaeKiNe9Lpvj_AfFBqOyOF8_P6JSJsxBgN26omgkB3AKXBTd601ZYKKgdr6XN42MSpx8oSVranXqll9Q9nCDHmvXyycJ1P00MenFK3ag5laPUPoT_d29vBhY0FGD-gg6v5swLA0MVEj-bClnT_7-WiqDKAGnmY/s580/20220322_100256%20-%20Copy.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="435" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi22BFZ3PI3DeXQoh6MrYzb7rgWPvUaeKiNe9Lpvj_AfFBqOyOF8_P6JSJsxBgN26omgkB3AKXBTd601ZYKKgdr6XN42MSpx8oSVranXqll9Q9nCDHmvXyycJ1P00MenFK3ag5laPUPoT_d29vBhY0FGD-gg6v5swLA0MVEj-bClnT_7-WiqDKAGnmY/s16000/20220322_100256%20-%20Copy.jpg" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgMQzqn7uJXyJIujRrzOhPrOTYj1qYEA2sWUch2r85DlHTspwrKuyax9eK_P2KftD3vEihHSlMmEaRcMY9pshVyX-pHrFMnN1_Y4deqAxamjMGf1zyeTsp5ziXUJ_GzlfkU5gL4lR6PDD0ztPmPGvEuIxnZ11cGMaDff9QLC9F2PYZ-nbjxUCLkcVRj/s639/Capture1.PNG" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="639" data-original-width="581" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgMQzqn7uJXyJIujRrzOhPrOTYj1qYEA2sWUch2r85DlHTspwrKuyax9eK_P2KftD3vEihHSlMmEaRcMY9pshVyX-pHrFMnN1_Y4deqAxamjMGf1zyeTsp5ziXUJ_GzlfkU5gL4lR6PDD0ztPmPGvEuIxnZ11cGMaDff9QLC9F2PYZ-nbjxUCLkcVRj/s16000/Capture1.PNG" /></a></div><br /></div><div>4. When the kampung spirit is there, it's easy to organise early morning walks or exercises e.g. taiji, led by a volunteer resident. Every morning some of my neighbours go brisk walking or slow jogging around the gated premises. We greet one another with a smile and Selamat Pagi or Good Morning. As there are nine blocks of apartments, going three to four rounds within the compound is sufficient for a good morning exercise session. </div><div><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjOQwTUhBqCUAwlXd4nd07repVsR6Cvtrfr67vQ1Sg75m8BZzvsW_jEd1WhEuUI1LP5UFvZ72G_24bbo1m9WW2WwaNDVY2ucYY2VdT2EX7K0I23tKQD9N4gePEhwVPNZ3YfQWPm4SA-FHXqdmthuhJdtoDKSWyguBNIl3IujsOLO_9R9plt7dpr_xaI/s580/store.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="291" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjOQwTUhBqCUAwlXd4nd07repVsR6Cvtrfr67vQ1Sg75m8BZzvsW_jEd1WhEuUI1LP5UFvZ72G_24bbo1m9WW2WwaNDVY2ucYY2VdT2EX7K0I23tKQD9N4gePEhwVPNZ3YfQWPm4SA-FHXqdmthuhJdtoDKSWyguBNIl3IujsOLO_9R9plt7dpr_xaI/s16000/store.jpg" /></a></div><div><br /></div><div>5. Condominiums in up-market areas come with swimming pools, multi-function rooms and gym. Except for the pool (and that is mainly because of the children), these facilities are usually under-utilised or not used at all. Paying high monthly maintenance fees of RM500 or more, and yet not using these facilities makes no sense at all. In my taman, we may not have a pool, but we have a small convenience store that serves the residents with basic essentials including gas for cooking. There is also a small shelter for short-term stay for cats as when their owners are away. The management office staff helps to look after the cats. There is an outdoor gym and a children's playground. I love to sit in my balcony in the evenings and watch the children come out to play football or rounders, while their mothers chat in the background. There used to be a library/reading room where the children could go to read or do their homework. I hope the recently elected committee will revive this. How much are the maintenance fees in my taman? An affordable RM121 monthly. Hard to beat especially as the location is just 10 mins' drive or a few bus-stops away from KLCC.</div><div><br /></div><div>I wrote to The Star about this concept a few years back. My letter was published but apart from getting some positive response from readers, the concept to start a residents' service directory didn't take off. </div><div><br /></div><div>Such a concept can be easily implemented via social media platforms like FB groups or Telegram and Whatsapp. Getting all residents to come on board would help to foster a community spirit. Really, there's no excuse for not trying it out. All that is required is to lay down some rules to prevent user abuse of the platforms. </div><div><br /></div><div>One last word - with Malaysia's population moving towards aged nation status by 2040, and with the number of older adults living alone rising, reviving the kampung spirit makes a lot of sense. There will always be kind neighbours looking out for one another. And with ageing in place (at home) being the most popular choice of living options in old age, I hope more residents management committees will take up this model of community living in their housing area. </div>seniorsaloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15349552912264950538noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2398906867139907280.post-75028258769411896992022-06-30T21:37:00.004+08:002022-07-04T20:34:51.269+08:00WHEN THAT LOVING FEELING IS GONE.....<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEggL2Je8a2GaSIy4HDGmk75nSy3WTQvvGJsTyPbFxEFMhBqtKlGJhSk3DWrwcibE_s7sS_s4ABe5TFa5vSC3_zF09vMq4HTsuYuF29Qb2kR3OWxHaOVchEHlD5i9CAnC-cyBH4QTnEDwTo/s1600/n_6dots.jpg" style="clear: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" height="287" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEggL2Je8a2GaSIy4HDGmk75nSy3WTQvvGJsTyPbFxEFMhBqtKlGJhSk3DWrwcibE_s7sS_s4ABe5TFa5vSC3_zF09vMq4HTsuYuF29Qb2kR3OWxHaOVchEHlD5i9CAnC-cyBH4QTnEDwTo/w400-h287/n_6dots.jpg" width="400" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><br /></td></tr>
</tbody></table>Divorce among older couples especially in Asia was virtually unheard of 50 years ago. Marriages were meant to last a lifetime. Even when death took away one partner, the other would remain faithful till death. My mother remained a widow for 60+ years when my father passed away at an early age. Couples in those days stayed together because they took their marriage vows seriously, more so if they married in a place of worship and exchanged vows before God.<div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj5ZVaZTKMuPr_jfouJHf3bCTzt8LdP5MNIp9kliZENC2LPGGI1ksX3HfYIJ6mbIfY18plrAGmo5bZJnR-fSMVQ6UDQQPOx-lswXaJNmxsv5ZDNaRW-KeI2k-GdYkGHYuTJrMCeRAUcCq8/s1600/10-I-didn-t-expect-you-to-live-this-long-cartoon.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em; text-align: center;"><img border="0" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj5ZVaZTKMuPr_jfouJHf3bCTzt8LdP5MNIp9kliZENC2LPGGI1ksX3HfYIJ6mbIfY18plrAGmo5bZJnR-fSMVQ6UDQQPOx-lswXaJNmxsv5ZDNaRW-KeI2k-GdYkGHYuTJrMCeRAUcCq8/w331-h400/10-I-didn-t-expect-you-to-live-this-long-cartoon.jpg" width="331" /></a></div><div><br />
In reality and in these days of freer social interaction between the sexes, remaining faithful to one person for the rest of one's life seems to be strictly for the firm believer in story book fairy tales of the genre 'and they lived happily ever after'. The reality is this is only the beginning of a marriage.<br />
<br />
In South Korea, for example, longer life expectancy, gender equality and better financial support for divorcees have been cited as reasons behind the high rate of silver-haired divorces. The number of couples that decide to separate after living more than 30 years together increased 7.5 percent on-year and more than doubled compared with a decade earlier. <i><a href="http://m.koreaherald.com/view.php?ud=20220317000684">(More Koreans end marriage at older age: data).</a> </i></div><div><i><br /></i></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh4zNCqj0UuUkzntJf8SbaL1tIVBU0l86H9eY9XWv1bdr_WxlEAF-tobabl8TFgkK8fMyQxH6wr4_ojxlcaliHVdbZciaMCn1iFnj2XYSLnodsMg2AiZ_bYZxiGyDULzJfoOTLcw8qmpL3NGYS5_tOu2-j9PIMaE1baIJVMMNr0hj3fw2ILu3Bbpi63/s423/june.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="423" data-original-width="306" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh4zNCqj0UuUkzntJf8SbaL1tIVBU0l86H9eY9XWv1bdr_WxlEAF-tobabl8TFgkK8fMyQxH6wr4_ojxlcaliHVdbZciaMCn1iFnj2XYSLnodsMg2AiZ_bYZxiGyDULzJfoOTLcw8qmpL3NGYS5_tOu2-j9PIMaE1baIJVMMNr0hj3fw2ILu3Bbpi63/w289-h400/june.jpg" width="289" /></a></div><div><br /></div><div>It's the same in Malaysia and Singapore. With a global ageing population, it is not surprising that gray divorces are on the rise. I believe a lot also has to do with the emancipation of women. Baby boomers were the first generation to break through the gender discrimination barrier. With access to higher education and better job opportunities, older women are now able to support themselves. They are in a more secure financial position to break free from a marriage that no longer holds any meaning for them. </div><div><br /></div><div><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody><tr><td><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjzpSAjzHq_VqcRgy_Ktkt-5M2FpcfUWSF3cvvcpROX6pPaM6OW8UInXKuI0EZG7vODj8dVNpIJ8PgBOT2VVo1Ii9Cip4cMcQDNA8vFlq13X-GW45jKfHc89RLv7O6skri-I5pyil8dUME/s1600/article-2251104-169A8BE6000005DC-155_634x469.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjzpSAjzHq_VqcRgy_Ktkt-5M2FpcfUWSF3cvvcpROX6pPaM6OW8UInXKuI0EZG7vODj8dVNpIJ8PgBOT2VVo1Ii9Cip4cMcQDNA8vFlq13X-GW45jKfHc89RLv7O6skri-I5pyil8dUME/s1600/article-2251104-169A8BE6000005DC-155_634x469.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption"><div style="text-align: left;"><i>No longer considered a social stigma, divorce now means liberation for many women, and an opportunity to start afresh on their own. (Image from <b><a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2251104/Surge-divorces-60-silver-separators-despite-drop-overall-rate-couples-splitting-up.html">The Daily Mail</a></b>)</i></div><i><br /></i></td></tr></tbody></table></div><div>This is unlike our mothers' generation (those born in the 1920s-30s) who depended almost entirely on their husbands for support. So when the children have grown and flown the family home, it is time for these older women to pack up and leave too. Many divorcees are enjoying the single life again, or entering into new relationships. There is even less reason for them to remain in the role of the long-suffering wife, especially if their husband has been unfaithful or abusive to them. </div><div><br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi1Cjmlh918X_3iErtSvImu_Qd9M0NpzaczRxp34s9PZMTEZ0MMleN6XxFpb_mT3SU1tfvZqlkdbf4mJjIjuDqIIFPAxWgtzgPcUj6eLQRzOB0B1HYa-FJoCTK0IXwva3Ca8J0w9k3rzG8/s1600/article-0-1AF15522000005DC-92_634x424.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi1Cjmlh918X_3iErtSvImu_Qd9M0NpzaczRxp34s9PZMTEZ0MMleN6XxFpb_mT3SU1tfvZqlkdbf4mJjIjuDqIIFPAxWgtzgPcUj6eLQRzOB0B1HYa-FJoCTK0IXwva3Ca8J0w9k3rzG8/s1600/article-0-1AF15522000005DC-92_634x424.jpg" /></a></div>
<i><br /></i>
Sure, there are couples who are blessed to have found their 'soul mate' to share the rest of their lives with. They truly exemplify the meant-for-each-other marriage. But for many middle-aged and older couples, they are more likely to find themselves stuck in an unhappy marriage, wondering what happened to that sweetheart they once loved and married so many years ago. Both parties have changed and have become disillusioned with each other.</div><div>
<br /><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiY6eGsQYJu0RQlX2B6PbEz7nV8hK_aVc6ZqY2WZmxCDV4yu1O8j7TkLdHwvEpNFIJ1nIHIDtIeMtrLkPeWOI0n7e0rYXAWKjqz0CXgHtOa0NsMXwHqCJyBntGWv_Uq41mZIUzX_lzi07c/s1600/divorce1.JPG" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiY6eGsQYJu0RQlX2B6PbEz7nV8hK_aVc6ZqY2WZmxCDV4yu1O8j7TkLdHwvEpNFIJ1nIHIDtIeMtrLkPeWOI0n7e0rYXAWKjqz0CXgHtOa0NsMXwHqCJyBntGWv_Uq41mZIUzX_lzi07c/s1600/divorce1.JPG" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><div style="text-align: left;"><i>It's the same story in Singapore. What is interesting is that the number of older divorcees re-marrying has risen. Social stigmas associated with divorcees and second marriages have generally disappeared.</i></div></td></tr>
</tbody></table>
<br />
This is especially true for women in their 50s and 60s who feel trapped in their marriage. Emboldened by the rising number of silver-haired divorces they read about, they no longer think twice about initiating divorce proceedings. They no longer feel pressured to keep up a pretense of a happy marriage. They no longer fear facing the future alone.<br />
<br />
<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhsXKhxKUlDK8YNl5oxEpEz4bjxFOCBC9ZKjP5V0qIF-jc4VflPbHRuonVgbbgzwaJXkuwUWnSL2ZFYwqBs6GVFS1M_Lr5hjRQe7QnhloVDQtcnCwjnO5cmJHVFVclKJGv1YTlz8ODjhq8/s1600/yUradeJ.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhsXKhxKUlDK8YNl5oxEpEz4bjxFOCBC9ZKjP5V0qIF-jc4VflPbHRuonVgbbgzwaJXkuwUWnSL2ZFYwqBs6GVFS1M_Lr5hjRQe7QnhloVDQtcnCwjnO5cmJHVFVclKJGv1YTlz8ODjhq8/s1600/yUradeJ.jpg" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i><div style="text-align: left;"><i>70 years together "in sickness and in health". Unfortunately such loving elderly couples are a rarity these days. (Read the touching full story at <b><a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/04/28/elderly-couple-love-story-married-70-years_n_3142004.html">The Huffington Post</a></b>)</i></div></i></td></tr>
</tbody></table>
<br />
To be fair, there are husbands who want to leave their wives too. Some women are no angels, and do cheat on their husbands. Others are gold-diggers or title-seekers. Still others are so insecure, they become overly jealous and possessive of their husband, while many are born naggers, constantly harping on their husbands' perceived faults. Such women can make marriage a living hell for their husband. Of course, as shown in the recent Amber Heard vs Johnny Depp court trial, women can be the perpetrator and men the victim but such cases remain in the minority.<br />
<br />Divorces are usually messy, ugly and expensive. The only winners are the lawyers. Regardless, women will proceed to file for divorce rather than endure more years of suffering mental and emotional anguish in an unhappy marriage. Often their decision has the support of their adult children who do not want to see their mother in misery.<br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div>
As long as neither party wants to give their marriage another chance, or if one partner is adamant about splitting, no amount of marriage counselling can help. When a marriage has irretrievably broken down due to irreconcilable differences, the best solution is a divorce. </div><div><br /></div><div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEglPXSHr9HztP9YfmqZ2hnYfvYm7z3fnkJgAyDxLgI4m4g2DFiCjuBOKiFz2_njUt9nT6SGoaYDjfeHPZMYZwMGTP5nBCvwmYO1DSqxfS6L4Aw7l3kX4_bYZlmxGj2p9SHUvUOIDff_mUeY67thv2XSTRC0QqEvgeKtWFp-LRfoLZxVQPI9zJxH6PoO" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="" data-original-height="326" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEglPXSHr9HztP9YfmqZ2hnYfvYm7z3fnkJgAyDxLgI4m4g2DFiCjuBOKiFz2_njUt9nT6SGoaYDjfeHPZMYZwMGTP5nBCvwmYO1DSqxfS6L4Aw7l3kX4_bYZlmxGj2p9SHUvUOIDff_mUeY67thv2XSTRC0QqEvgeKtWFp-LRfoLZxVQPI9zJxH6PoO=s16000" /></a></div><br />
Here are some tips for a long-lasting marriage.<br />
<br />
1. Appreciate your spouse and show it with little acts of love.<br />
2. Communicate. Share your feelings, your views, your worries,<br />
3. Continue to have sex and intimacy. Have weekly date nights.<br />
5. Never criticize or humiliate your spouse in front of others.<br />
6. Have realistic expectations of each other.<br />
7. Embrace your differences.<br />
8. Have your own pursuits as well as shared ones.<br />
9. Learn from each other.<br />
10. Support each other in maintaining an active healthy lifestyle.<br />
<br />
(Reposted from an old blog article I wrote, and last updated on 4 July 2022.)<br />
<br />
<div class="fb-like" data-href="http://www.seniorsaloud.com/2014/07/more-older-couples-getting-divorced.html" data-layout="button_count" data-send="true" data-show-faces="true" data-width="450">
</div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div></div></div>seniorsaloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15349552912264950538noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2398906867139907280.post-9982712739026684032022-05-31T22:36:00.004+08:002022-05-31T23:07:46.536+08:00'MENITI SENJA' NOW ON YOUTUBE<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEitQVUcFXkwhlSlCIjr-QqwzI6M-CwW4QiAyiL_zSx50Y2YVcgpf83qv7D0u6nb9YWTZK1w0NKURMwGEMkDh6jtUiXZssfIJFc7nOiGxHqsNeqV9jLu-Ke9jAyERP_ksFXt88isKtTJALzyeOeXEDyMgRnRmfIsRnyBZbwltrVUGAJ5xSrOqQfLBSLy/s580/284424278_10161750700247785_6540687789434499200_n%20-%20Copy.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="580" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEitQVUcFXkwhlSlCIjr-QqwzI6M-CwW4QiAyiL_zSx50Y2YVcgpf83qv7D0u6nb9YWTZK1w0NKURMwGEMkDh6jtUiXZssfIJFc7nOiGxHqsNeqV9jLu-Ke9jAyERP_ksFXt88isKtTJALzyeOeXEDyMgRnRmfIsRnyBZbwltrVUGAJ5xSrOqQfLBSLy/s16000/284424278_10161750700247785_6540687789434499200_n%20-%20Copy.jpg" /></a></div><br />Yay, after so many requests to screen the film again from those who missed it, I am delighted to announce that my first film documentary is now available for viewing free anytime on YouTube at the Freedom Film Network channel.<p></p>
<div style="text-align: center;"><iframe allow="accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture" allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="315" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/WVruZrBSr7Y" title="YouTube video player" width="560"></iframe></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">The protagonist in the film, Puan Muji Sulaiman, a retired nurse, decided to start Malaysia's first private Muslim aged care home in 1998 when she discovered that many elderly patients had nowhere to go upon their discharge from hospital. There were also those who went home but had no access to long-term care. Puan Muji shares the sad stories as told to her by some of the residents.</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhUE5ZZ5FkaqVXlYlqGYZmzY3zPR95h7W7f83P7UUWiOHQW0nmC1zs3q8wtf3qKUzTnPULCMSYwM6Cx6hyp92oVpN-YcJy0GWLrQsYRO9Twjh6C99nJ_XMt48dSc4u5le5-YHXzAOPr2tSPewWRAMlaS_MXyfSP8Xh9A_YWVS07ZOFKvG5eS3Pt-mgW/s627/ipiccy_image%20-%20Copy.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="627" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhUE5ZZ5FkaqVXlYlqGYZmzY3zPR95h7W7f83P7UUWiOHQW0nmC1zs3q8wtf3qKUzTnPULCMSYwM6Cx6hyp92oVpN-YcJy0GWLrQsYRO9Twjh6C99nJ_XMt48dSc4u5le5-YHXzAOPr2tSPewWRAMlaS_MXyfSP8Xh9A_YWVS07ZOFKvG5eS3Pt-mgW/s16000/ipiccy_image%20-%20Copy.jpg" /></a></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><div>The film has won awards at the <b><a href="http://seniormovie.pl/en/festival-2021/prizes/">Senior Movie Festival 2021</a></b> in Poland and in the <b><a href="https://kyoto.cseas.kyoto-u.ac.jp/en/vdp/vdp2021-en/">Visual Documentary Project</a></b> in Kyoto University, and was screened in Singapore to mark International Day of Older Persons 2021. Director Lily Fu hopes the film can act as a vehicle to advocate for the rights of the elderly.</div></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh7MoTIQxgSN2aX3HqIycmVg1uBYLd6Q1tl1Rc2ecAQlepu7w1pToAtWqnVBAAiMQoyEauoQwqadndW_XED3zy4-C0YHkOZ_BVnW0VdzxY0jcEcsl4nd2g-uD8Z_c15SM6wDMT0S-2rQl9ylIjwBWfE1gRRK5vd7LAawK4otIoanXhQVqwUZVG1h2EC/s580/jp-top-slider-1024x640%20-%20Copy.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="362" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh7MoTIQxgSN2aX3HqIycmVg1uBYLd6Q1tl1Rc2ecAQlepu7w1pToAtWqnVBAAiMQoyEauoQwqadndW_XED3zy4-C0YHkOZ_BVnW0VdzxY0jcEcsl4nd2g-uD8Z_c15SM6wDMT0S-2rQl9ylIjwBWfE1gRRK5vd7LAawK4otIoanXhQVqwUZVG1h2EC/s16000/jp-top-slider-1024x640%20-%20Copy.jpg" /></a></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiI5AKiVKIwD5-9nDrnaA2kLPu02MNTWYthQ0me3POsn9Rh06jAy5Ml-3-EU_y6QyLh02Gl7zmfENjE5Wv5mhdzVp62lDPgV6x9GOlXN4POn4IUgGL-uy3CCu6HZoBSInhTh4nL5eLMkUcBkvAItLQZ4wgM6lKZUKxtM_y6BZ1bRLVlhwHIMrbMkmYF/s580/241194230_4293831810734789_4010977258206197146_n%20-%20Copy.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="580" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiI5AKiVKIwD5-9nDrnaA2kLPu02MNTWYthQ0me3POsn9Rh06jAy5Ml-3-EU_y6QyLh02Gl7zmfENjE5Wv5mhdzVp62lDPgV6x9GOlXN4POn4IUgGL-uy3CCu6HZoBSInhTh4nL5eLMkUcBkvAItLQZ4wgM6lKZUKxtM_y6BZ1bRLVlhwHIMrbMkmYF/s16000/241194230_4293831810734789_4010977258206197146_n%20-%20Copy.jpg" /></a></div><br /><div style="text-align: left;">In conjunction with the release of the film for public viewing, BFM interviewed Lily about what motivated her to make the film, what social impact the film has made and what is the next step goin forward. You can listen to the podcast at <b><a href="https://www.bfm.my/podcast/bigger-picture/live-and-learn/stay-home-and-watch-meniti-senja">https://www.bfm.my/podcast/bigger-picture/live-and-learn/stay-home-and-watch-meniti-senja</a></b></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTnJSI4bcCxyKlG0qERzsoWLi1708lv4YfV8q3hDhAuZVXaPY4Ds_ELURbPARYzEiFqtBA2ZGV85PsK6wpDzTZO_J5F5HHdxoxB54VuzL7N-KExnPI_GeHvNKrQTwJfp-MqBZwpMT-0sleK-VxczDCVDeGyS4wcOE2c2BZABrN--CqA6tEpWBJIOFa/s815/282622528_10159736008870890_2538687742792078200_n%20-%20Copy.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="815" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTnJSI4bcCxyKlG0qERzsoWLi1708lv4YfV8q3hDhAuZVXaPY4Ds_ELURbPARYzEiFqtBA2ZGV85PsK6wpDzTZO_J5F5HHdxoxB54VuzL7N-KExnPI_GeHvNKrQTwJfp-MqBZwpMT-0sleK-VxczDCVDeGyS4wcOE2c2BZABrN--CqA6tEpWBJIOFa/s16000/282622528_10159736008870890_2538687742792078200_n%20-%20Copy.jpg" /></a></div><div><br /></div><div>"Reflecting the breakdown of traditional family values in modern Malaysian society that marginalises the elderly, the film <i><b>'Meniti Senja'</b></i> explores the alarming rise in the elderly being left to fend for themselves in aged care centres - removed from the comfort of homes they knew, and the children they raised. On this week's Stay Home & Watch, a series done in collaboration with the Freedom Film Network, we revisit this 2020 film by first-time filmmaker Lily Fu, who is also the founder of <b><a href="https://www.seniorsaloud.com/">Seniors Aloud</a></b>, an online community for senior-citizens in Malaysia and the Vice President of the <b><a href="https://u3aklsel.wixsite.com/malaysia">University of the Third Age</a></b>. Lily joins us to share more about the themes explored in her film, and how she hopes it will push for policies to protect the elderly in Malaysia."</div><div><br /></div><div>(Text from BFM "Stay Home and Watch: <b><i>Meniti Senja</i></b>") </div><div><br /></div><div><b><a href="https://www.facebook.com/freedomfilmfest/">https://www.facebook.com/freedomfilmfest/</a></b></div>seniorsaloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15349552912264950538noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2398906867139907280.post-27894839989250307022022-04-30T23:51:00.012+08:002022-05-03T09:54:10.128+08:00LABOUR DAY: TIME TO TAKE A STAND AGAINST AGEISM<p> </p>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
</div>
<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhWCYJxAwzmOTwxuRPc7YHS6M7Aj8Ww5IHk2PaC09h7H132uaUrBdmbt2jfg9-e6Dm137PlAZaFh7v4lxOTGDjLxoH-sjeknzs6YeiWXDWndAQur74ZGHmuAvOhrjEHedXnlEtGcpF_OtY/s1600/ageism13.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhWCYJxAwzmOTwxuRPc7YHS6M7Aj8Ww5IHk2PaC09h7H132uaUrBdmbt2jfg9-e6Dm137PlAZaFh7v4lxOTGDjLxoH-sjeknzs6YeiWXDWndAQur74ZGHmuAvOhrjEHedXnlEtGcpF_OtY/s1600/ageism13.jpg" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i style="font-size: 12.8px;">Negative stereotyping of older adults often leads to discrimination against them. </i></td></tr>
</tbody></table><br /><div>
If you are 60 and above, you are likely to have encountered instances of ageism at one time or another. Not only are older people discriminated against by banks and other financial institutions, but also at the work-place and in the job market. Indeed, older people face age discrimination on a daily basis, especially if they lack education or financial resources. Even at home, elderly parents find that no one listens to them. Their advice is often not sought for family decisions. They are head of the family only in name.<br />
<br />
All this is mostly based on the negative perception and stereotyping of older people as frail, senile and unproductive, and a drain on the nation's welfare resources.<br /><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhbBDAM7uoXKRXvy1os0yrQyzD-zi01g_15RqbWqvAaPIPRtvY_ITQWohQcEM4oclFnDpDjevTcZzYzFcdyWOGlxagjJ5vTHO6s5IESwDoEjrSC-Gae83Lggx5VWzIyhYRrrfYH1FwGXecKkRtjSZpPneXDFAbA4sAuP95yV4RDVyWNUz2_NSBnQhaa/s580/blog%20pic.PNG" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="325" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhbBDAM7uoXKRXvy1os0yrQyzD-zi01g_15RqbWqvAaPIPRtvY_ITQWohQcEM4oclFnDpDjevTcZzYzFcdyWOGlxagjJ5vTHO6s5IESwDoEjrSC-Gae83Lggx5VWzIyhYRrrfYH1FwGXecKkRtjSZpPneXDFAbA4sAuP95yV4RDVyWNUz2_NSBnQhaa/s16000/blog%20pic.PNG" /></a></div></div><span style="text-align: center;"><div><span style="text-align: center;"><br /></span></div>The above are the faces of the New 80s - still active and certainly still able to contribute to society. What more those in their 60s and 70s?! Don't write off older adults as useless and past their productive shelf life. Just look at these three amazing seniors above - all of whom I know personally. Such seniors used to be the exceptions. No longer so now as their numbers are growing.</span><div><br /></div><div>It is an undeniable fact that people are now living longer and healthier, thanks to advances made in medicine, science and technology. 60 is the new 40, and 80 is the new 60. They may have reached retirement age, but are still capable of contributing to society if given the opportunity to work or serve.</div><div><br /></div><div>Retired professionals have adequate savings to see them through the next 15-20 years. They are free of the necessity to work and support themselves. For them, returning to the work force is optional. If they do so, it is mainly to keep busy and remain socially connected. </div><div><br /></div><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiCqhZq61-I7vh7sYpUIeLyjpV6gQFIvSXmUCH_Yt-1RgY2eI9510gpYr-vAoVdwUjdp8aetCcxz7aOkGMHF1gvb2u4sTyQ0m3FHvCMGl2aaKzjBoOUzPH1u2Amq_J141FyD7YFZYr0i_gSC21b_vu8IAT6BKcpBKM_1yila8liTuKbZII3mandI6se/s580/ipiccy_image.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="580" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiCqhZq61-I7vh7sYpUIeLyjpV6gQFIvSXmUCH_Yt-1RgY2eI9510gpYr-vAoVdwUjdp8aetCcxz7aOkGMHF1gvb2u4sTyQ0m3FHvCMGl2aaKzjBoOUzPH1u2Amq_J141FyD7YFZYr0i_gSC21b_vu8IAT6BKcpBKM_1yila8liTuKbZII3mandI6se/s16000/ipiccy_image.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: left;"><i>Some of the seniors I had interviewed about job discrimination. Many have ended up on the streets or in shelter homes as they are unable to support themselves. Some have been sent to old folks home. </i></td></tr></tbody></table><br /><div>For older adults in the B40 group, it is a different story. I have spoken with many of them. They tell me they are physically able and still capable of working but face discrimination due to their age. In Singapore, it is a common sight to see the elderly employed in food courts as servers or cleaners. Such jobs are available to them as young people find menial work lowly and unappealing. Retirees are capable of contributing much more to the work force if given the opportunity. </div><div><br /></div><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhsfaZzzx5r1ktGJbOYh7Bz3KKjAf9YNJGhxf_T1n7dkTX_c78_FIV7tcgw6mf9GE-sLmVdzXJCs7MJc_eRdBGOXJRpqlCf-6qA6zNWAMeyH3Dj0RJDIGlqQwddankrJ7dmHkvL32_In7erxX4WtDICCdDT7UJyD7r2OK5aAKRsgyu4ZHu88E5Gg_D4/s580/sg.PNG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="334" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhsfaZzzx5r1ktGJbOYh7Bz3KKjAf9YNJGhxf_T1n7dkTX_c78_FIV7tcgw6mf9GE-sLmVdzXJCs7MJc_eRdBGOXJRpqlCf-6qA6zNWAMeyH3Dj0RJDIGlqQwddankrJ7dmHkvL32_In7erxX4WtDICCdDT7UJyD7r2OK5aAKRsgyu4ZHu88E5Gg_D4/s16000/sg.PNG" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>A common sight in Singapore</i></td></tr></tbody></table><br /><div>POWER and MONEY speak louder than age. Older people in positions of influence and authority, with vast financial resources at their disposal can still command respect everywhere they go. These are the blessed ones. They can take care of themselves in their old age. It's the rest of the retired populace that we should make a stand for. They are the voiceless ones, the silent majority who feel disadvantaged and powerless to fight against ageism. </div><div>
<br />
But change is inevitable. The number of older persons is growing and this silver wave can't be stopped. (I am loath to use the word 'tsunami' as it gives a negative connotation to the rise in the elderly population.)<br />
<br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhnLaTc9tMe4AStT_La5xZrQ-3cvCJ-g0Zb3bl8GInoDIEGUTeCHqKvH7Ss3mB6Kf4Kril27lEPKupv9mJrdijzBRTBy7bpICgYjCLeOJLpqWcds2af85fjtBLUyOqkx2hKJbU8gvfZN-k/s1600/ageism3.JPG" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhnLaTc9tMe4AStT_La5xZrQ-3cvCJ-g0Zb3bl8GInoDIEGUTeCHqKvH7Ss3mB6Kf4Kril27lEPKupv9mJrdijzBRTBy7bpICgYjCLeOJLpqWcds2af85fjtBLUyOqkx2hKJbU8gvfZN-k/s1600/ageism3.JPG" /></a></div>
<br />
By 2035, the number of people aged 60 and above will have accounted for 15% of the total population in Malaysia. The country is heading towards ageing country status. The government is aware of what needs to be done to meet the demands and challenges of an ageing population, but implementation is painfully slow. The private sector has yet to fully acknowledge the impact this shift in demographics will have on the work force and on the economy. </div><div><br /></div><div>The young work force is shrinking as reflected in the declining fertility rate. Many countries in Europe e.g. Netherlands and Britain have raised the retirement age to 66. Singapore is leading the way with re-employment age up to 70. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi5b449Bv1adXpmI3zycP7S6f9x_r2x5-DxiKBiuRB0vnG9JAs-bJo6fx5UCEFoUyMPj3LpIPqCan6hNJJd6DlyV4G7Q2sy-9KbjXCNQwByp5BCMXvCYYk2e2y2iWKDaTmovegxaqQoByaVCLNek2aBP3zHGDYsB79MVP_Bp1_8Z7opT6At4HKNarT9/s400/002564a5d68410665f343c.gif" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="295" data-original-width="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi5b449Bv1adXpmI3zycP7S6f9x_r2x5-DxiKBiuRB0vnG9JAs-bJo6fx5UCEFoUyMPj3LpIPqCan6hNJJd6DlyV4G7Q2sy-9KbjXCNQwByp5BCMXvCYYk2e2y2iWKDaTmovegxaqQoByaVCLNek2aBP3zHGDYsB79MVP_Bp1_8Z7opT6At4HKNarT9/s16000/002564a5d68410665f343c.gif" /></a></div><br /><div>Indeed, if older people are given jobs, they are helping their adult children by contributing to the family needs and also by being financially independent. </div><div>
<br />
The time will come when all of us will have to wake up to the reality that global ageing is here to stay. It is in the interest of everyone to ensure that discriminatory practices against older people be removed. Any policies that uphold the rights of older people will ultimately benefit the young of today as they too will grow old one day. To take this one step further, when a country takes good care of its elderly population, everyone benefits.<br />
<br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjFCbWdxDaE9iwbEREd3eGZHY0o4XKc39IgtKq_LBkHZPcAUr-2rXbNrK5d18RfHdcsIc5ZrFZEnfvUjo1zYD8tGeVYDd6CUpxqak1b9K0YnnJ4BdwZRy77QlNCYiRXXSQdDXhI3OxP1WM/s1600/ageism+FB+-+Copy.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjFCbWdxDaE9iwbEREd3eGZHY0o4XKc39IgtKq_LBkHZPcAUr-2rXbNrK5d18RfHdcsIc5ZrFZEnfvUjo1zYD8tGeVYDd6CUpxqak1b9K0YnnJ4BdwZRy77QlNCYiRXXSQdDXhI3OxP1WM/s1600/ageism+FB+-+Copy.jpg" /></a></div>
<br />
The government wants to encourage active, independent and healthy ageing. So do all older people. For this to be successful, any form of discrimination against older people must be removed, and every bit of help be given to enable them to continue working and supporting themselves for as long as possible.<br />
<br />
So kudos to the United Nations for taking a stand against ageism and making it the theme for <b><a href="http://www.un.org/en/events/olderpersonsday/">International Day of Older Persons 2016</a></b>. <br />
<br />
<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgqsJu5rhifKPrsF_aw3QQPeMZr6p4vGeNWNygW_8UCZS-jr8OEOJzt5lZeW4wWcrsUW5yZTegTLHbmVksb5napMSqeV7YwAiBUH3uzV5ZOxzrRri3-gnm_LzMnx2i8GCj2z_ucJDE22Lo/s1600/ageism+quotes+-+Copy.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgqsJu5rhifKPrsF_aw3QQPeMZr6p4vGeNWNygW_8UCZS-jr8OEOJzt5lZeW4wWcrsUW5yZTegTLHbmVksb5napMSqeV7YwAiBUH3uzV5ZOxzrRri3-gnm_LzMnx2i8GCj2z_ucJDE22Lo/s1600/ageism+quotes+-+Copy.jpg" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><i>For more voices against ageism, go to <a href="http://www.helpage.org/get-involved/campaign-with-us/international-day-of-older-persons/#" style="font-weight: bold;">HelpAge International</a><span style="font-weight: bold;"> </span><br /><br /><div style="text-align: left;">(Updating this article to mark Labour Day 2022 which falls on May 1 every year.)</div></i></td></tr>
</tbody></table>
</div>seniorsaloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15349552912264950538noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2398906867139907280.post-21855514271759403622022-03-31T23:25:00.004+08:002022-04-01T15:03:02.841+08:00REMEMBERING OUR DEARLY DEPARTED<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj7YmtdgLCsIsmk_NjaI_NdRjbxBQWWiY3ZfJQmrsuD2o4a_ppQz_66TU19f_HlMXrEsduRNIltqwIbB463CstVKesKjyU3f3k4ADRCHPYuL9l_T7SdB1HECtJygKm7ARl7ZtFhEt0P2EmOkvyT_U3w6z0zHgQOTKwg29pBMhT0ZZwViyke3Msg1J-Y/s398/ching%20meng.PNG" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;" target="_blank"><img border="0" data-original-height="289" data-original-width="398" height="290" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj7YmtdgLCsIsmk_NjaI_NdRjbxBQWWiY3ZfJQmrsuD2o4a_ppQz_66TU19f_HlMXrEsduRNIltqwIbB463CstVKesKjyU3f3k4ADRCHPYuL9l_T7SdB1HECtJygKm7ARl7ZtFhEt0P2EmOkvyT_U3w6z0zHgQOTKwg29pBMhT0ZZwViyke3Msg1J-Y/w400-h290/ching%20meng.PNG" width="400" /></a></div><br />For thousands of Chinese families, the annual visit to the burial grounds of their departed family members will start this weekend. This is Qing Ming or All-Souls Day which usually falls in the first week of April. This year it falls on 5 April. It is a mark of filial piety for Chinese families to pay their respects to their ancestors with prayers and offerings of food. Family members also take the opportunity to spruce up the burial area. This explains why Qing Ming is also referred to as "Tombsweeping Day".<br />
<br />
Perhaps most fascinating of the Qing Ming rituals is the burning of papier mache offerings. Over the years, these paper mache offerings have changed in keeping with the trends. I recall decades ago witnessing the burning of this huge paper replica of a mansion. The patriach of a family supermarket in my neighbourhood had passed away at a ripe old age. His children wanted to make sure their father would live in luxury in his after life. <br />
<br />
<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhGf3C50IdpdXIHX06rli76A6byM5e-ZPL0ug9DmUdBCu4iq4kkLRT5IYB74jbFNONM46VrbFZ-WVbeJZOLS37PDn0OkY_TNZ377kclcygxIkGnyRKN6mAqkTbjG0lhIt7uJ4mqt9c7OV4/s1600/qingming4.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhGf3C50IdpdXIHX06rli76A6byM5e-ZPL0ug9DmUdBCu4iq4kkLRT5IYB74jbFNONM46VrbFZ-WVbeJZOLS37PDn0OkY_TNZ377kclcygxIkGnyRKN6mAqkTbjG0lhIt7uJ4mqt9c7OV4/s1600/qingming4.jpg" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><em>A papier mache mansion all ready to be burnt as an offering to the deceased</em>.</td></tr>
</tbody></table><br />At the time as I was watching the 'mansion' make its way up in smoke to the other world, I thought about my dad. When he passed away in 1957, I remember my grandma made sure we burnt offerings of paper money - lots of it, in silver and gold, also clothes, food and his reading glasses. She wanted to make sure my dad would be comfortable and would always have money to spend. <br />
<br />
Today, being well-provided for takes on a new definition. It is no longer about sending necessities to the beloved deceased. The trend now is to go for paper replicas of luxury items like the latest gadgets, LV bags, jade and gold jewelry, a BMW, and even a yacht!<br />
<br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj4_7n-bYkQ8K4yJHrQNl6UtWrdaWmHq09K0oGg0ADVPvXXhxLR-5IT8PHLZgZF4-lHoNvDuB-VfE7rMlF139pB7NSIz4UsbZr2Gorx-v53eRjnGWpvReCNE2LAtKextjDejD44cXzDbbI/s1600/n_26QingMing.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj4_7n-bYkQ8K4yJHrQNl6UtWrdaWmHq09K0oGg0ADVPvXXhxLR-5IT8PHLZgZF4-lHoNvDuB-VfE7rMlF139pB7NSIz4UsbZr2Gorx-v53eRjnGWpvReCNE2LAtKextjDejD44cXzDbbI/s1600/n_26QingMing.jpg" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgH98hQThoMGhtbkVSREtauHru0gquAGmPwYlzgnmr8UdGIKwR5QQvha5hCB7owkKQezJ_LZSBHNs9CXPXfgD8hD2rBE2T0g5wFypRpa2sBd6VCjwndK6gDrQySmp1eBt0MZvlPA0EHkxM/s1600/jewelary+jade.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="337" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgH98hQThoMGhtbkVSREtauHru0gquAGmPwYlzgnmr8UdGIKwR5QQvha5hCB7owkKQezJ_LZSBHNs9CXPXfgD8hD2rBE2T0g5wFypRpa2sBd6VCjwndK6gDrQySmp1eBt0MZvlPA0EHkxM/s400/jewelary+jade.png" width="400" /></a><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjx5q4ZkoIDVQI29RlyD_Oq1h-N7gBd-fqyCl8eLgLeWHe24tlhJZTDzvCjaYg8zL3DqV1bfUfEKNUZsw0ksnyjuwBSuOdkPMb5PNelxj9oFR5wvT4c_CGJXDvtnDuJ_0qd91zSxXcJC00/s1600/qingming+notes.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhcGk-l4lQPoXT0BU0dF7VS3jMC_9d_9OMJrI0c58G2Sgp2pKRSR-HpgWctNRJV9QcN4msNDHFuM-EJ0Px1o_t0QlEEB9LJ-7AVm-FEph6ZAHHv8DWmgrl7BGut_LAsFyL-0oHunC806Rk/s1600/qingming+burn.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhcGk-l4lQPoXT0BU0dF7VS3jMC_9d_9OMJrI0c58G2Sgp2pKRSR-HpgWctNRJV9QcN4msNDHFuM-EJ0Px1o_t0QlEEB9LJ-7AVm-FEph6ZAHHv8DWmgrl7BGut_LAsFyL-0oHunC806Rk/s1600/qingming+burn.jpg" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiL5pQL69eTvmgqxTGn6Z8Ivab9np74iwnTuJ_2Cgvtb6kyHdYejOyJTbAZNIDtPb1h4PcX5TfuqphtutxuDOmL5_FWbtP1s9CHc8xRSON7teW_qbayDVJvXTe98QS_tiQhimJ-WQCggPM/s1600/burning-car_1864842i.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="286" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiL5pQL69eTvmgqxTGn6Z8Ivab9np74iwnTuJ_2Cgvtb6kyHdYejOyJTbAZNIDtPb1h4PcX5TfuqphtutxuDOmL5_FWbtP1s9CHc8xRSON7teW_qbayDVJvXTe98QS_tiQhimJ-WQCggPM/s400/burning-car_1864842i.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br />
</div>I was in Chinatown a few weeks ago hoping to find that little shop which used to make paper offerings for Qing Ming. It was no longer there. Not surprising. It is a dying art, literally. In land scarce Singapore, for example, who can afford to buy a burial plot? Most people these days choose cremation over burial. It's cheaper and more convenient in many ways.<br /><br />
With the younger generation losing interest in the old ways, Chinese traditions and customs will soon disappear into the history books. There might come a day when Qing Ming will no longer be observed if young parents of today do not pass it down to their children.<br />
<br />
Whether that is a sad thing or not is debatable, I suppose.<div><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgHfWAfDHUQa9IBTvHOxReZYL6BaI8U9NOoIf3rUbktEvghePQnrRqk1QONWEeL5OOzCRtyvhPXxbP1nsxaPT46BGAyirNqsa3MXpw7-doiudkrUZkyy2tdH9m0kRylTdD14bWb9g204yszJaT24xAbcQCmL9bHgGwlmo6Ej7M8srpHkNNapp3LCjFl/s579/death.PNG" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="361" data-original-width="579" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgHfWAfDHUQa9IBTvHOxReZYL6BaI8U9NOoIf3rUbktEvghePQnrRqk1QONWEeL5OOzCRtyvhPXxbP1nsxaPT46BGAyirNqsa3MXpw7-doiudkrUZkyy2tdH9m0kRylTdD14bWb9g204yszJaT24xAbcQCmL9bHgGwlmo6Ej7M8srpHkNNapp3LCjFl/s16000/death.PNG" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">With Ching Ming just around the corner, my thoughts of late have dwelled much on the topic. Death can knock on our door at anytime and anywhere. It can strike down the young and the old, the healthy and the infirmed, the rich and the poor. Death is the ultimate leveller. It comes to the best among us, and to the worst among us. Yet we know precious little about how best to prepare for death.</div><div><div><br /></div><div>Countless books have been written about how to live a happy life, but none about how to die happy. Is there such a thing as the art of dying? And can it be taught or learned? Has anyone been through the death experience and shared it with a loved one in a dream? How does one deal with one's approaching death? Why is death nearly always associated with pain, fear, grief, loss and visions of the Grim Reaper? Isn't it possible to meet our Maker with joy, celebration and visions of beautiful Angels of Love waiting to embrace us? Lots of questions but hardly any answers. Death remains a taboo topic and few are comfortable talking about it. But there is now a gradual acceptance. It makes sense to plan how we want to go while we are still around and still lucid enough to decide. </div><div><br /></div><div>I have since learned more about death rituals after taking up a course on <b>End of Life: Death and Dying</b> as an elective for my MSc in Applied Gerontology. Attending the 2-day Death Festival organised by Xiao En Funeral Services in 2018 further opened my eyes to a more positive side of death. Understanding death takes away the fear and replaces it with quiet acceptance as something natural and for many, it is a welcome release from pain. </div><div><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2G0eB5FUtn0fOORktr2izohYAqxSJwIpgvoGX1Z6poLrtZ56JKRLDhfLa5VQrYfwaitYCzGJUomqp0SaqFj252Qc3CC5bg3rSU6vWytQqSlz8j22Nax4Z7xEu-_xYYUBhA5SFZTzpXEOuKoBIc8KTNlbJMD98RLWmyeRyEVfL-EE1-6nx0raCTuYZ/s776/balloons.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="776" data-original-width="582" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2G0eB5FUtn0fOORktr2izohYAqxSJwIpgvoGX1Z6poLrtZ56JKRLDhfLa5VQrYfwaitYCzGJUomqp0SaqFj252Qc3CC5bg3rSU6vWytQqSlz8j22Nax4Z7xEu-_xYYUBhA5SFZTzpXEOuKoBIc8KTNlbJMD98RLWmyeRyEVfL-EE1-6nx0raCTuYZ/s16000/balloons.jpg" /></a></div><br /><div>God willing, if I am blessed with good health and long life (dare I say 100?), I will want to spend my twilight years on community service, doing voluntary work that I am passionate about. And when the time comes, I want to go in my sleep, surrounded by all my loved ones. I will leave instructions for them to celebrate the occasion with a toast to me for having lived a full life. No public viewing of me at my wake party, please. I would appreciate some privacy, thank you. I will have written my obituary to be read by my daughter. I will have taken my last portrait, of my own choosing (already done!). I will have my favourite songs from 1960s played at my farewell party. No one should wear black. Only rainbow colours. I want to be cremated and my ashes scattered in a mountain stream. No need for anyone to make that obligatory visit to the columbarium every All Souls' Day.</div><div><div><br /></div><div>"Death smiles at us all; all a man (or woman) can do is smile back." Amen</div></div></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhW3m790x3nG4er4b_quNZQxXShqYCaxWC3H2r69CunlGAvA4dVZUiDhYBl8U_F56YVX_q1iV6F7d3zTsF34RdH2qPYkHaXf12uAObLIO2ZcpCv2QnJWeNPnnJczro3x24vyfn2_A13BCR0YQ0grngRQZQ-L03X1CK2JPxHDDsuCyaK3m70dMlbqyzY/s580/ma%20pa.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="428" data-original-width="580" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhW3m790x3nG4er4b_quNZQxXShqYCaxWC3H2r69CunlGAvA4dVZUiDhYBl8U_F56YVX_q1iV6F7d3zTsF34RdH2qPYkHaXf12uAObLIO2ZcpCv2QnJWeNPnnJczro3x24vyfn2_A13BCR0YQ0grngRQZQ-L03X1CK2JPxHDDsuCyaK3m70dMlbqyzY/s16000/ma%20pa.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: left;">Paying my respects to my parents at the temple in Jalan Gasing. My mom passed away 65 years after him. In those days, young widows remained single for the rest of their lives.</td></tr></tbody></table><br />seniorsaloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15349552912264950538noreply@blogger.com1